Sex and intimacy after having a baby can feel… different. Your body has changed. Your hormones are shifting (especially if you’re breastfeeding). You’re exhausted. Your nervous system is stuck in care-mode. And somehow you’re supposed to just “get back to normal” at six weeks?

Nope.

In this episode, we talk about what’s actually happening postpartum that affects desire and comfort, why there’s no timeline you’re meant to follow, and how pressure—whether it comes from a partner, society, or yourself—often makes everything worse.

We’ll also reframe what intimacy can look like right now (hint: it does not have to mean sex), how to tell when you might be ready to try physical intimacy again, and why pain is information—not something you should push through.

Plus: a direct note for partners—because one of the biggest libido killers after baby isn’t hormones… it’s mental load. Support isn’t “extra.” It’s the foundation.

If intimacy feels awkward, off your radar, or just not worth the effort right now—this episode is your permission slip to slow down.

Bottom line: Intimacy after baby should be guided by pleasure, not pressure. There is no deadline.

Free resources for postpartum recovery and reconnecting are linked here:

https://www.vitalswithdrbuller.com/sex

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One of the most common pieces of sleep advice parents hear is this:

“You shouldn’t sleep train before one year old.”

But is that actually true—and could waiting sometimes make things harder?

In this episode of Surviving Tiny Humans: 10-Minute Triage for Your Baby, Body, and Mind, Dr. Kailey Buller breaks down where this belief comes from, why it persists, and what the evidence actually says.

We talk about:

• Why sleep skills are regulation skills, not advanced cognitive tasks

• How babies begin learning sleep fundamentals from the very beginning

• What can happen when parents delay all sleep teaching out of fear or guilt

• Why gentle, age-appropriate sleep teaching is often easier earlier, not later

• What sleep teaching does (and does not) look like in young babies

• How sleep needs—and appropriate strategies—change from newborns to 4–5 months and beyond

This episode walks through practical, developmentally appropriate approaches by age and explains how consistency, environment, routines, and small pauses can support healthier sleep without harming attachment or connection.

Dr. Buller also shares her own experience navigating severe sleep deprivation—and why, for some families, structured sleep training can be safer and healthier than the alternative.

Key takeaway:

Sleep skills don’t suddenly become “safe” at one year old.

There are ways to support healthy sleep—gently and responsively—much earlier than that.

And sleep training is optional, but sleep deprivation doesn’t have to be the cost of avoiding guilt.

Download the free “7 Lies You’ve Been Sold About Sleep Training” guide linked here:

https://www.vitalswithdrbuller.com/sleep7

And follow the show so you don’t miss upcoming episodes breaking down sleep methods, night feeding, and how to protect connection while teaching sleep.

Should you—or should you not—co-sleep with your baby?

Most parents have heard the warnings: don’t do it, it’s dangerous, never even consider it. But real life doesn’t always match the ideal—and avoiding the conversation entirely can actually make things riskier.

In this episode of Surviving Tiny Humans: 10-Minute Triage for Your Baby, Body, and Mind, Dr. Kailey Buller—physician, mom of two, and author of Surviving Tiny Humans—breaks down what really matters when it comes to co-sleeping, without shame or scare tactics.

We cover:

• How common co-sleeping actually is (even when no one admits it)

• Why “accidental” sleep on couches or chairs can be higher risk than planned co-sleeping

• What safe sleep truly means—and how co-sleeping fits into the bigger picture

• Practical harm-reduction steps if co-sleeping is happening

• How to make safer choices in imperfect, exhausted, real-world situations

This episode isn’t about telling you what you should do—it’s about helping you make informed decisions and avoid riskier setups when reality hits at 3 a.m.

Key takeaway:

Ideal sleep is great when it’s possible.

But when it’s not, the safest available option matters more than guilt or shame.

Because safe sleep isn’t one rigid rule—it’s thoughtful triage.

If this helped, follow the show so you don’t miss upcoming episodes on setting up realistic sleep environments and navigating early-parent exhaustion!