Sex and intimacy after having a baby can feel… different. Your body has changed. Your hormones are shifting (especially if you’re breastfeeding). You’re exhausted. Your nervous system is stuck in care-mode. And somehow you’re supposed to just “get back to normal” at six weeks?

Nope.

In this episode, we talk about what’s actually happening postpartum that affects desire and comfort, why there’s no timeline you’re meant to follow, and how pressure—whether it comes from a partner, society, or yourself—often makes everything worse.

We’ll also reframe what intimacy can look like right now (hint: it does not have to mean sex), how to tell when you might be ready to try physical intimacy again, and why pain is information—not something you should push through.

Plus: a direct note for partners—because one of the biggest libido killers after baby isn’t hormones… it’s mental load. Support isn’t “extra.” It’s the foundation.

If intimacy feels awkward, off your radar, or just not worth the effort right now—this episode is your permission slip to slow down.

Bottom line: Intimacy after baby should be guided by pleasure, not pressure. There is no deadline.

Free resources for postpartum recovery and reconnecting are linked here:

https://www.vitalswithdrbuller.com/sex

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