In this episode of Still Becoming, we slow things down and talk about a part of the journey that rarely gets attention — the days that feel ordinary.

Not the hard days that test you.

Not the breakthrough moments that energize you.

But the in-between days — the ones where nothing feels wrong, yet nothing feels exciting either.

These are often the days that quietly challenge us the most.

When nothing feels urgent, we start questioning ourselves.

Are we doing enough?

Should we be pushing harder?

Are we falling behind while everyone else seems to be moving forward?

This episode explores why feeling “fine” can feel so uncomfortable, especially for people who care deeply about growth, progress, and becoming better. We talk about how many of us have learned to measure our worth by intensity — by how hard things feel, how much we’re struggling, or how dramatic the progress looks from the outside.

But consistency doesn’t always feel intense.

And growth doesn’t always announce itself.

Sometimes progress feels repetitive.

Sometimes it feels boring.

Sometimes it feels quiet enough that our mind goes looking for something to fix.

In this episode, we unpack the pressure to optimize every moment — rest, reflection, free time — and how that constant need to improve can keep us from actually experiencing where we are. We talk about how the urge to tweak everything isn’t always about ambition, but often about discomfort with stillness and uncertainty.

There’s also a personal reflection woven in — a reminder that being “in the work” doesn’t always feel heroic. Sometimes the work asks for patience instead of intensity, trust instead of urgency, and presence instead of proof.

This episode invites listeners to let the process breathe.

To recognize that not bleeding anymore doesn’t mean you’ve lost your edge.

That being in the long middle doesn’t mean you’re stuck.

And that you don’t need a breakthrough today for your effort to count.

The episode closes with a gentle challenge for the week: to notice when you feel the urge to fix how a moment feels — and instead of reacting, simply name it. To allow neutral moments to exist without turning them into a problem or a plan.

At its core, this episode is about permission.

Permission to stay.

Permission to move quietly.

Permission to trust consistency even when it doesn’t feel exciting yet.

If you’re in a season where you’re showing up, doing the work, and wondering if it’s enough — this episode is for you.

You don’t need to prove anything today.

You don’t need to earn rest.

You don’t need a breakthrough right now.

You’re still becoming.

In this episode of Still Becoming, the focus isn’t on breakthroughs, motivation, or highlight moments. It’s on the quieter stretch of the journey — the one where you’re still showing up, still doing the work, but confidence feels muted and the path ahead isn’t as clear as you’d like it to be.

The episode opens with an honest acknowledgment of that heaviness. Not burnout. Not quitting. Just fog. That feeling of doing all the right things while mentally questioning yourself anyway. Through the lens of training, life, and personal growth, this episode explores what it means to keep moving forward when belief isn’t loud and reassurance is hard to find.

The fog is framed not as a warning sign, but as a natural part of growth. It often appears when goals begin to matter more — when the dream shifts from something abstract to something real that asks something of you. In those moments, certainty fades and doubt creeps in quietly, not shouting but whispering questions about readiness, worth, and timing.

Rather than trying to fight the fog or force clarity, this episode encourages a different approach: letting hard days exist. A tough run doesn’t mean you’re losing fitness. A heavy mood doesn’t mean you’re going backward. Not every off day needs to be analyzed, fixed, or turned into a story about who you are. Sometimes effort is just effort, fatigue is just fatigue, and uncertainty is simply part of being human.

Staying, the episode explains, doesn’t always look confident or heroic. Often it looks quiet — showing up without excitement, doing less than hoped, and choosing presence over performance. It’s about learning not to abandon yourself on hard days and trusting that consistency matters more than intensity.

A direct message is offered to the listener: you don’t need confidence to continue, clarity to move forward, or today to look impressive for it to count. Showing up quietly still matters. Trying still matters. Not quitting still matters.

The episode closes with a simple reflective challenge — an invitation to notice where you might be asking yourself to be stronger than necessary and what it would look like to let today be enough. There’s no pressure to fix anything, only space to observe and soften.

Running Through the Fog is a reminder that becoming doesn’t require certainty. It requires honesty, patience, and the willingness to keep moving even when the path feels unclear. And if you’re in that fog right now, this episode reminds you: you’re not behind — you’re still becoming.

In this episode of Still Becoming, Bobby explores a subtle but deeply human experience: the discomfort of realizing you’re no longer who you used to be—while not yet feeling settled in who you’re becoming.

The episode opens in that in-between space. A place where the old version of you no longer fits, but the new version hasn’t fully taken shape. It’s uncomfortable. Not because something is wrong, but because something is changing. And Bobby challenges the idea that this feeling means failure, confusion, or regression. Instead, he reframes it as a natural part of growth that we rarely talk about.

So much of personal development focuses on becoming—on growth, progress, and leveling up. But what often gets overlooked is the experience of leaving. Leaving behind an old identity isn’t clean or ceremonial. It doesn’t come with closure or clarity. It often shows up quietly, as misalignment. The things that once motivated you don’t hit the same. The strategies and mindsets you relied on no longer work as well. And the familiarity you once leaned on begins to fade.

Bobby reflects on how this shows up in his own life. He’s still showing up. Still doing the work. Still staying consistent. Yet it doesn’t always feel like momentum. Sometimes it just feels like repetition—like putting in effort that doesn’t look impressive from the outside or feel impressive on the inside. That’s when questions creep in: Shouldn’t this feel better by now? Shouldn’t I feel more confident?

The turning point comes with a realization: discomfort isn’t a sign that something is broken. It’s often a sign that something old no longer fits.

The episode goes on to honor the older versions of ourselves—the ones that got us here. They deserve respect. But they aren’t meant to carry us forward forever. Outgrowing an old identity can feel destabilizing because it removes certainty, even if that certainty was imperfect. Growth sometimes requires trusting something that hasn’t fully formed yet. And that’s not weakness—it’s transition.

Bobby names this phase “the quiet season.” A time when growth happens without applause, validation, or clear markers of progress. Just you, showing up again and again, wondering if it’s adding up. He suggests this is where many people quit—not because they don’t want more, but because discomfort convinces them they’re lost.

The reframe offered is simple but powerful: what if this season isn’t a detour, but exactly where you’re meant to be? What if the discomfort isn’t something to escape, but proof that you’re no longer who you used to be—and that something new is forming?

The episode closes with a gentle invitation to reflect. Not to fix or rush or judge the discomfort, but to notice where something old no longer fits. To stay present. To keep doing the quiet work. And to allow the next version of yourself to take shape in its own time.

You’re not failing. You’re not behind. You’re still becoming.

As the year comes to a close, it’s easy to feel like you’re supposed to be measuring yourself—what you accomplished, what you didn’t, and whether you did “enough.” In this New Year’s Eve episode of Still Becoming, Bobby offers a quieter, more honest perspective.

This episode isn’t about resolutions.

It’s not about reinventing yourself.

And it’s not about pretending January 1st magically resets everything.

Instead, it’s about recognizing that growth doesn’t happen on a calendar.

Becoming doesn’t start and stop with the year. It doesn’t care what month it is. Some of the biggest changes in our lives begin not in moments of excitement, but in exhaustion, doubt, and quiet decisions no one else sees.

Still Becoming isn’t a one-year project. It’s not “I’ll give it everything this year and see what happens.” It’s not a last shot or a deadline. It’s a long-term commitment to staying in the process—through sprint seasons, survival seasons, and rebuilding seasons. All of it counts.

In this episode, Bobby speaks directly to those who feel tired. Those who showed up even when they didn’t feel strong. Those who kept going quietly while others seemed to be “winning.” This isn’t about proving anything—it’s about choosing not to quit on yourself.

Becoming can look like training harder.

It can look like resting without guilt.

It can look like admitting you don’t have all the answers.

That’s not weakness. That’s wisdom.

Rather than asking, “What do I need to accomplish this year?” this episode invites you to ask deeper questions:

Who do I want to keep becoming?

What am I willing to stay committed to—even when it’s uncomfortable?

What version of myself deserves patience?

You don’t need a perfect plan. You don’t need massive momentum. You just need honesty, compassion, and the willingness to stay in the process.

As the year ends, don’t measure yourself by what you didn’t do. Measure yourself by the fact that you’re still here. Still curious. Still trying. Still listening to that quiet voice inside that says, “There’s more in me.”

There is.

This isn’t the end of anything.

It’s just another step.

Episode Summary — “Chasing My Old Self”

In this episode of Still Becoming, Bobby takes listeners inside one of the most vulnerable moments of his marathon training journey—a day that was supposed to confirm progress, but instead forced him to confront doubt, comparison, and identity.

The episode opens with a familiar fear many athletes and high achievers know well: not the fear of slowing down, but the fear that maybe this is all you have left. Bobby recounts heading into a marathon simulation run fully prepared—training, fueling, sleep, mindset all aligned. This wasn’t just another long run. It was meant to be a statement. A chance to prove that all the work was leading him back to the runner he once was.

The early miles felt smooth and controlled. Confidence crept in. But as conditions worsened—light rain, gusting wind—and the miles added up, something didn’t click. When Bobby tried to press into marathon pace, the response never came. Effort increased, but pace didn’t. His body tightened. His stride shortened. And the familiar internal dialogue surfaced: Why can’t you go faster? This used to be easy. What if you’ve lost it?

By mile nineteen, the weight of it all set in. Not anger. Not frustration. Just a deep sense of defeat. Bobby made the decision to shut it down—not with a dramatic finish or heroic push, but quietly. And almost immediately, the inner critic followed: You gave up. You’re not who you used to be. Maybe you’re getting slower.

What made this moment hit hardest wasn’t the workout itself, but what it symbolized. Bobby wasn’t just fighting the weather or the run—he was fighting a past version of himself. A version that existed in a different season of life.

In the reflection that follows, perspective begins to shift. Sitting with the data—twenty miles at a solid average pace in tough conditions—Bobby realizes the comparison isn’t fair. The runner he was in 2021 and 2022 wasn’t building a podcast, raising a family, working full-time, and carrying the weight of more responsibility. Today’s version isn’t weaker—he’s carrying more.

This episode becomes less about chasing an old self and more about honoring who he’s becoming. Strength, Bobby reminds us, doesn’t always show up in splits or results. Sometimes strength is simply continuing to show up when belief feels fragile.

The episode closes with a powerful reminder and listener challenge: progress isn’t always visible. Some days, it feels like defeat—but those are often the days shaping who we’re becoming. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on where they’re comparing themselves to an older version of who they were, and instead ask a different question:

Who am I becoming?

Because becoming isn’t a moment—it’s built mile by mile, day by day.

There’s something powerful about seeing someone in their 60s still moving with purpose — not out of nostalgia, not to prove a point, but because the fire is still there. Not the reckless fire of youth, but the refined kind. The kind that knows who it is.

In this episode of Still Becoming, Bobby sits down with Ray Knerr — a lifelong runner, coach, competitor, and quiet example of what it means to keep showing up long after the world expects you to slow down.

Ray is in his mid-60s and still competing at a high level. Just this past year alone, he placed fifth at the Indoor World Championships in the 800m, ran 2:18 in the 800m, clocked 18:25 at the Carlsbad 5000 on the roads, and ran an indoor 3K in 10:22. On paper, those numbers are impressive. But the real story of this episode goes much deeper than times and results.

Recovery took longer. Speed required more intention. Strength had to be maintained, not assumed. The body no longer bounced back automatically. But what’s striking is that Ray doesn’t frame these changes as losses. He frames them as information.

What changed physically? Recovery became more important. Warm-ups mattered. Cool-downs mattered. Strength and mobility stopped being optional. But on the flip side, something else remained remarkably intact — the love of the process, the desire to compete, and the internal drive to keep improving.

Ray talks openly about comparing himself to his younger self — something almost every aging athlete struggles with. Instead of pretending those thoughts don’t exist, he acknowledges them and then reframes them. The goal is no longer to chase who you were. It’s to respect who you are now.

When the conversation turns to training, Ray is refreshingly practical. He still runs frequently, but with purpose. He still does speed work, but it’s tailored. He still pushes himself, but not blindly.

Recovery, he emphasizes, is no longer something you squeeze in when convenient — it’s part of the training itself. Easy days are truly easy. Hard days are intentional. Strength training and mobility work are no longer accessories; they’re foundations.

The Mental Game

For Ray, it’s not fear of decline. It’s curiosity. It’s identity. It’s the simple question: What am I still capable of?

He talks about days when the body doesn’t respond — when the legs feel heavy, when workouts don’t click. Instead of spiraling, he zooms out. He reminds himself that consistency over time matters more than any single session.

When asked about the biggest mental difference between Ray at 20 and Ray now, the answer is clear: patience. A deeper trust in the process.

As the conversation closes, Ray offers advice for athletes in their 40s, 50s, and beyond — especially those thinking about restarting or redefining their relationship with sport.

Aging athletes often bring more discipline, better emotional regulation, and a stronger appreciation for the opportunity to move. When paired with smart training, that mindset becomes a powerful advantage.

The answers are quiet, grounded, and deeply human. There’s no dramatic declaration — just the steady truth that growth doesn’t stop unless we decide it does.

Aging doesn’t end your fire.

It refines it.

And as always, the reminder that anchors Still Becoming:

You’re still becoming.

And you’re the only one stopping you.

In this motivational solo episode, Bobby opens up about the mental battles that come with chasing a big dream — whether running, creating music, or pursuing any form of personal growth. He acknowledges a universal truth: sometimes it feels like the world is heavy. Not just physically, but mentally — a weight that tells us we’re tired, too old, too late, not strong enough, or that no one really cares about our goal anyway. He speaks directly to listeners who may feel worn down by the grind or overwhelmed by self-doubt.

From the start, the episode emphasizes that the pursuit of a goal is rarely glamorous. The early mornings feel lonely. The reps get boring. Progress can be painfully slow or invisible. He describes moments where he questions why he puts himself through the discomfort and pressure — moments where giving up would be so much easier.

But right there, in that tension, he finds the heartbeat of this episode:

Ambition doesn’t disappear, even when motivation does.

He reminds listeners that ambition is that small, stubborn spark inside that whispers: “There’s more in you.” That spark doesn’t demand perfection — it just asks for the next step. When the negativity hits, when the run feels terrible, when the progress feels nonexistent — the ambition is still alive underneath, waiting for us to act on it.

❝One bad run doesn’t break your goal. It’s the consistency that matters.❞

Bobby shares a recent personal example: getting out the door for a run that felt awful — physically draining and mentally discouraging. Instead of treating it as a failure, he reframed it: showing up on the bad days is part of progress. The great days will come again, but the messy days are what build real strength.

You don’t wait to feel confident — you build confidence by doing.

Bobby shifts the message from running toward any passion someone is scared to start:

• Want to sing?
• Want to make music?
• Want to start a new hobby?
• Want to reinvent yourself?

Don’t overthink the finish line, he says. Don’t get stuck imagining the perfect end version of who you want to be. Instead:

“Just put the shoes on.”

or

“Just walk into the studio.”

Progress isn’t a single leap — it’s one minute at a time

A major theme of the episode is time — specifically, the idea that every finish line is made up of thousands of tiny steps. Bobby encourages listeners to focus not on the entire journey but on the next minute:

“You need to remind yourself just to win the next minute.”

He warns against the trap of treating effort like a test you pass or fail. Instead, view it as a daily conversation with your ambition:

• Can I give one more minute?
• Can I take one small step forward?
• Can I show up even if it’s messy?

Every tiny action builds a foundation that future victories will stand on.

“Being there. Showing up. Even when it’s messy.”

Flaws make the story interesting. Setbacks make the success earned. Imperfection makes you relatable — to others and to yourself.

He challenges the listener:

If you haven’t done the thing yet — just try it today.

Not to reach the end.

Not to impress anyone.

But simply to start.

The smallest start can open doors you don’t even know exist yet.

Let the rest take care of itself

You’ll look back and realize:

• It wasn’t as bad as your anxiety predicted
• You actually had fun
• You felt proud that you took action

The feeling doesn’t come before doing the thing — it comes after.

So try.

Move.

Start.

And when you do…

Don’t stop.

Final Message: You’re Capable. Keep Going.

You’re not here because the path is easy.

You’re here because you believe — or at least you hope — that it’s worth it.

Even if he’s never met you.

Even if you don’t yet believe in yourself.

The episode ends with a powerful reminder:

Every dreamer fights doubt.

Every journey has terrible days.

But the spark inside you — the ambition — is still alive.

You just need to show up

for the next minute.

Welcome to the first episode of Still Becoming. I’m your host, Bobby — a husband, father, massage therapist, and lifelong runner who just can’t shake the belief that I’m still capable of more.

In this debut, I share the story behind this show: growing up with huge goals in running, dreaming of the Olympic Trials, and then feeling life shift — responsibilities taking over, recovery getting harder, and that young fearless version of myself seeming further away every year.

But even at 39… the fire hasn’t gone out.

This podcast is for anyone who still feels that spark — the desire to chase something real, even when the world assumes your best chapters are already written. I talk about what it’s like to keep training seriously at my age, the doubts that show up, the comparison trap with my younger self, and the deep fear of letting go before I find out who I can still become.

If you’re someone who refuses to accept that age equals limitations…

If you want to believe in yourself again…

If you want proof that passion doesn’t retire…

Then this is your place.