New year… mid-January… and we are still building the goal list. In this episode we laugh about past goals (guitar, pull-ups, and “oops we already accomplished that one”) while getting real about why “resolutions” usually crash and burn.

The big takeaway: behaviors and habits beat wishful goal statements every time. We also talk about God’s mercy being new every morning, what to do when you fall off track, and how storms can either push you away from God or pull you closer.

Here is the devotional throught the Bible podcase resource that we refrenced.

Side by Side Podcast (Keith Birdsong) - Bible in a year resource:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/side-by-side/id1720544667

Highlights

• The difference between dreaming and doing
• Why discipline beats motivation (every time)
• “Do the thing” and stop living in prep mode
• Simple, repeatable habits that move your life forward
• Why God’s mercy being “new every morning” matters when you mess up your goals
• “Rule of Five” style consistency: small daily actions over big emotional resolutions
• Three storms in Scripture, three different reactions, and what that reveals in us

Timestamps (approx.)

• 00:01 New Year goals, fresh starts, and why habits win
• 06:30 Monica’s favorite annual goal: reading the Bible through
• 07:30 Resource shoutout: Side by Side podcast (Keith Birdsong)
• 12:30 The gym resolution crash and why “January 11” is the danger zone
• 15:30 “New mercies” and restarting when you fail
• 19:30 Pull-ups, travel, and why inconvenience kills vague goals
• 23:00 “Do the thing” (thinking, posting, prepping is not doing)
• 28:00 Storm seasons and what they reveal about our walk with God
• 33:30 Maxwell’s “Rule of Five” and taking five swings a day
• 36:11 Why we don’t love the word “resolutions”
• 37:36 The danger of not writing goals at all (even simple ones)

Scriptures and Biblical Moments Referenced

• Lamentations 3:22-23 (His mercies are new every morning)
• Jonah (storm, surrender, and God using the mess anyway)
• Jesus calming the storm (“Peace, be still”)
• Paul’s storm and shipwreck (and the viper on the island, Acts 27-28)
• Mentions/allusions to:
  • “Unto whom much is given, much is required”
  • “More than conquerors”
  • “I can do all things through Christ…”

Takeaways to Apply This Week

• Pick one tree (one focus) instead of swinging at everybody else’s trees.
• Define the tool (what actually works) and the five swings (daily actions).
• If you fell off track, don’t wait for next year. Restart tomorrow.
• Replace “I want to…” with “I do this on these days…”

Question to Reflect On

What is the thing you keep planning, talking about, or researching… but you still haven’t actually started?

Closing

If you’re in a storm, just know God will get glory through it. The question is whether we fight Him through the process or surrender and find peace in it.

Thanks for listening and hanging with us. We’re grateful for you.

Tags / Keywords

New Year habits, Christian encouragement, spiritual disciplines, goal setting, habits vs resolutions, Lamentations 3:22-23, discipline vs motivation, John Maxwell Rule of Five, faith and consistency, Bible in a year, Side by Side podcast, storms of life, obedience, prayer life, Christian podcast, Silver Lining Podcast, Luke and Monica

In this special Christmas Eve episode, Luke and Monica share the story they’ve been building toward since the beginning of the podcast—the moment that quietly changed everything.

What started as a simple Christmas card on Christmas Eve 2023 became the spark for deeper conversation, unexpected connection, and a relationship formed in the middle of grief, faith, and uncertainty.

This episode is raw, reflective, and full of heart as Luke and Monica walk through:

• Why this Christmas Eve story mattered so deeply to both of them
• How grief can make the holidays feel both heavy and holy at the same time
• The power of a thoughtful gesture at exactly the right moment
• How God often works behind the scenes when life feels like it’s falling apart
• Why “falling apart” can actually mean things are falling into place
• Navigating love, loss, and faith after deep grief
• A fresh perspective on remarriage, memories, and honoring the past without erasing it

Luke also shares a meaningful reflection on the first Christmas, drawing parallels between Mary and Joseph’s disrupted plans and the way God still brought beauty, purpose, and redemption through the chaos.

This episode is not a Hallmark movie—but it is real.
It’s about peace in uncertainty, hope in grief, and the quiet ways God writes stories we could never plan ourselves.

If you’re walking through a hard season this Christmas, or if the holidays feel different than they used to, this episode is for you.

🎄 Merry Christmas & Happy Christmas Eve from the Silver Lining Podcast 🎄

In today’s episode, Luke & Monica take listeners into one of the most tender conversations yet — navigating grief, mourning, and the holiday season when life looks nothing like you expected.

Thanksgiving week can bring joy, memories, and celebration…
but it can also magnify loss, loneliness, and the reality of a life you didn’t plan for.

Both hosts share openly from their own stories:

• Luke walking through the loss of his wife, Alicia, in 2023
• Monica navigating the shock of divorce, depression, and rebuilding after being left in 2020

This episode dives into the difference between grieving (internal) and mourning (external), why both are biblical, and how to give yourself permission to feel what you need to feel — especially this time of year.

You’ll hear stories of first holidays after loss, expectations vs. reality, and how some traditions stayed the same… while others had to change completely. You’ll also hear practical, grace-filled thoughts for walking through Thanksgiving and Christmas when joy and sadness sit side by side.

What We Talk About in This Episode

• Why grief often hits hardest during the holidays
• The difference between grieving and mourning — and why both matter
• How Luke and Monica processed their first holiday seasons after loss
• The pressure of “holiday cheer” when your heart is still healing
• How to change traditions without losing meaning
• Why anger, tears, numbness, and confusion are all normal
• How to avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms during grief
• What it looks like to grieve with grace
• Practical steps to navigate Thanksgiving or Christmas when you’re hurting

Scriptures Mentioned

Romans 8:28 (KJV)
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”

Psalm 30:5 (KJV)
“Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.”

Matthew 5:4 (KJV)
“Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.”

Philippians 4:7 (KJV)
“And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

Isaiah 26:3 (KJV)
“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee…”

Ecclesiastes 3:4 (KJV)
“A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.”

Key Takeaways

• Grief is the internal feeling. Mourning is the external expression.
  You need both for healthy healing.
• You can’t heal what you won’t feel.
  Ignoring emotions doesn’t protect you — it just delays the process.
• Holidays may require doing things differently this year.
  That’s not failure. That’s wisdom.
• You don’t have to be the strong one. Jesus already volunteered for that.
• The life you’re living may not be the one you planned — and God can still work good in it.

How to Walk Through the Holidays With Grace

• Keep one tradition
• Change one tradition
• Let go of one expectation
• Rest in one intentional way
• Give yourself permission to cry, process, talk, and breathe

If This Episode Hit Home…

You’re not alone.
You’re not behind.
You’re not failing.

You’re human — and Jesus is close to the brokenhearted.
We pray this conversation brings comfort, clarity, and encouragement as you enter Thanksgiving and Christmas.

Thank you for listening, sharing, and letting us walk through these seasons with you. We are so grateful for each of you.