Send a text

Love feels harder than it should. Why?

We swipe.
We text.
We “talk.”
We ghost.
We try again.

But beneath the surface of modern dating lies something much deeper: attachment wounds, social conditioning, trauma, ego, fear — and the unspoken longing to be truly seen.

In this powerful and unfiltered episode of Self Reflection Podcast, host Lira Ndifon sits down with couples therapist Hassan (Chop The Counselor) to unpack the psychology behind why so many relationships struggle today — and what it actually takes to build something healthy.

This isn’t surface-level dating advice.
This is about emotional wiring.

Together, they explore:

• Why couples say they struggle with “communication” — but what they really mean is “I don’t feel seen.”
• The hidden psychological impact of infidelity — and why it never fully disappears
• How childhood attachment styles quietly dictate adult relationships
• Why “settling” might actually be self-awareness in disguise
• The dangerous myth of perfection in modern dating
• How social conditioning shapes men, sex, vulnerability, and emotional avoidance
• Why intentional dating requires inner clarity — not a checklist
• Practical rituals couples can use to rebuild connection and intimacy

Lira brings her signature depth and spiritual grounding, challenging us to reflect inward before blaming outward. Because sometimes the love we’re searching for… requires us to meet ourselves first.

This episode isn’t just about romance.

It’s about courage.
It’s about curiosity.
It’s about slowing down instead of reacting.
It’s about understanding your patterns before repeating them.

If you’re single, healing from heartbreak, navigating dating apps, rebuilding trust, or in a relationship that feels stuck — this conversation will hold up a mirror.

And in that mirror, you may finally see the truth about how you love.

Support the show

Call to Action: Engage with the Self-Reflection Podcast community! Like, follow, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube (Self-Reflection Podcast by Lira Ndifon), and all major podcast platforms. Share your insights and feedback—we value your contributions! Suggest topics you'd like us to explore. Your support amplifies our reach, sharing these vital messages of self-love and empowerment. Until our next conversation, prioritize self-care and embrace your journey.

Grab your copy of "Awaken Your True Self" on Amazon. Until next time, be kind to yourself and keep reflecting.

Send us a text

What if the very moment that almost broke you… was the moment that built you?

He watched his best friend get shot six times at 16… and no one asked him how he was doing. No therapist. No safe space. Just silence, street code, and survival.

In this raw and powerful episode of Self Reflection Podcast, Robert Harrison shares how that moment shaped his mental health, triggered PTSD, and eventually led him to turn trauma into purpose through therapy and trauma-informed fitness. If you’ve ever carried pain in silence, struggled with a father wound, or wondered how to transform trauma into strength — this conversation is for you.

Robert shares the life-altering event that shaped his path — witnessing his best friend being shot six times as a teenager and carrying that trauma in silence. No therapist. No safe space. Just hypervigilance, survival mode, and the unspoken weight of PTSD. In a culture that discouraged vulnerability, he learned to cope alone. But what could have hardened him instead awakened him.

From that moment forward, Robert chose a different story.

Now a trauma-informed therapist and founder of Define Our Fitness, he uses weightlifting as a tool to regulate the nervous system, rebuild confidence, and restore emotional balance. In this episode, he breaks down how physical discipline reshapes brain chemistry, strengthens identity, and creates space for healing — proving that movement isn’t just about muscles… it’s about reclaiming your mind.

But the conversation goes deeper.

Lira and Robert explore father wounds and generational trauma — what it means to forgive a parent who couldn’t show up, how compassion doesn’t excuse harm, and how breaking cycles requires awareness, discipline, and grace. They discuss addiction through a lens of empathy, the moral compass and mental health connection, and why living out of alignment with your values quietly erodes your inner peace.

Robert also opens up about his time in law enforcement as a Black officer navigating systems that didn’t fully accept him — and how choosing alignment over security changed the trajectory of his life.

This episode is about responsibility without shame. Compassion without weakness. Strength without ego.

It is about becoming the person you once needed.

If you have ever wrestled with trauma, questioned your path, struggled with forgiveness, or felt out of alignment with who you truly are — this conversation will meet you there.

Your past does not disqualify you.
Your pain does not define you.
Your struggle can still write a better ending.

Healing is not passive. It is chosen.

If this episode resonated with you, take a moment to follow, rate, and subscribe to Self Reflection Podcast on Spotify and across all major platforms.

Share this conversation with someone who needs encouragement today.

Join our growing community and continue the journey of self-reflection with us.

Follow Lira on Instagram: @lira_ndifon

Explore Robert’s wor

Support the show

Call to Action: Engage with the Self-Reflection Podcast community! Like, follow, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube (Self-Reflection Podcast by Lira Ndifon), and all major podcast platforms. Share your insights and feedback—we value your contributions! Suggest topics you'd like us to explore. Your support amplifies our reach, sharing these vital messages of self-love and empowerment. Until our next conversation, prioritize self-care and embrace your journey.

Grab your copy of "Awaken Your True Self" on Amazon. Until next time, be kind to yourself and keep reflecting.

Send us a text

What if the life you’re living right now is inviting you to slow down, listen deeper, and finally come home to yourself?

In this powerful and soul-expanding episode of Self Reflection Podcast, host Lira Ndifon sits with Ann Jonas for a deeply intentional conversation on self-reflection, spirituality, and the sacred connection between the human experience and the divine. This episode isn’t just a discussion—it’s an invitation. An invitation to pause, to breathe, and to remember who you are beneath the noise, the conditioning, and the expectations of the world.

Together, Lira and Ann explore self-reflection as a gateway to healing—both within ourselves and in how we relate to others. They unpack the idea that we are constantly reflecting and being reflected, using metaphors like “walking disco balls,” Earth school, and the Matrix to illuminate how life’s challenges, triggers, and moments of contraction are not punishments, but portals for growth and expansion. This conversation gently reminds us that resilience isn’t about never falling—it’s about choosing to rise again with awareness.

The episode also dives deep into the contrast between religion and spirituality, examining how organized systems have shaped society while spirituality offers a direct, personal relationship with God, Source, and self. Ann speaks on sovereignty, choice, and alignment—encouraging listeners to move from fear-based living into heart-led awareness, where intuition becomes the true moral compass and presence becomes power.

The experience culminates in a guided moment of self-reflection and meditation, creating space for listeners to reconnect with their inner light, soften into the present moment, and affirm their inherent worth. This episode serves as a reminder that healing doesn’t require perfection—it begins with presence, curiosity, and the willingness to choose yourself again and again.

If this conversation resonates, take it with you. Reflect on it. Sit with it. Let it meet you where you are.
And if you feel called, share it with someone who might need a gentle reminder that they are not alone on their journey.

Support the show

Call to Action: Engage with the Self-Reflection Podcast community! Like, follow, and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube (Self-Reflection Podcast by Lira Ndifon), and all major podcast platforms. Share your insights and feedback—we value your contributions! Suggest topics you'd like us to explore. Your support amplifies our reach, sharing these vital messages of self-love and empowerment. Until our next conversation, prioritize self-care and embrace your journey.

Grab your copy of "Awaken Your True Self" on Amazon. Until next time, be kind to yourself and keep reflecting.