Are your boundaries too soft… or too strict?

Most women fall into one of two extremes:
They either give too much and lose themselves…
Or push everyone away to protect themselves.

But underneath both?
The same root wound:
“I’m not worthy of love as I am.”

In this episode, I break down the subconscious patterns that drive both over-giving and over-protecting, how they stem from childhood beliefs, and why true self-worth isn’t found in how much you do—or how tightly you guard yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the work in relationships or feel safer alone than letting someone in… this one is for you.

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Ever walked away from a conversation wondering, “Did I do something wrong?” even though you were just being honest?

That’s the hidden weapon of projection—and it’s how toxic people transfer their unhealed wounds onto you.
In this episode, we unpack:

- What projection really is (and why it’s so dangerous)
- The psychological trick it plays on high-achieving women with big hearts
- Why some people NEED you to be the villain
- How to stop internalizing their shame and take your power back

If you’re done carrying blame that isn’t yours, this conversation will be a reset.

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This message will hit different if you’ve ever been called “too much” or felt afraid to be seen.

In this episode, we go deep into why healing doesn't always mean you're growing—and how your inner child might be the one calling the shots.

Were you celebrated for who you truly were as a little girl… or quietly taught to tone it down?

In this episode, we’re going straight to the root—the moments in childhood when you learned it wasn’t safe to be fully you.

Not to stay stuck in the past, but to uncover the exact point you internalized:

- “I’m too much.”

- “I need to shrink to be loved.”

- “It’s safer to hold back.”

We’ll unpack:

• How innocent comments (or even a look) can shape decades of self-worth patterns
• Why this internalization drives who you date, how you set boundaries, and what you tolerate
• The exact process to break the cycle so you never have to shrink again

Because once you recognize the blueprint… you can rewrite it.

🎧 Listen now and start reclaiming the parts of you the world told you to hide.

You journaled.
You prayed.
You did the work.
So why does your body still feel heavy?

This episode is the truth most coaches won’t tell you:
You can do all the “healing work” and still feel broken if your nervous system hasn’t caught up.
You can apply every strategy, and still feel stuck—because you skipped the most important step: acceptance.

In this final episode of The Aftermath series, I’ll walk you through what actually works when you’re emotionally exhausted, questioning your growth, and feeling like nothing has changed.

Because real healing isn’t loud.
It’s gentle.
It’s regulated.
And it’s rooted in compassion—especially when life breaks you open.

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You thought you were past the worst of it…
But then, when the chaos quieted down—everything crashed.

In this episode, I break down what actually happens when your nervous system is no longer in survival mode—and why it might feel like you’re falling apart even though you’ve “done the work.”

Here’s what you’ll hear:

• Why emotional crashes happen after the divorce, breakup, job loss, or identity shift

• How unprocessed grief creates numbness, sadness, or shutdown

• Why validating your emotions is not being a victim—it’s your way out

If you’re feeling stuck, unmotivated, or ashamed for how “off” you still feel… this episode will change your entire perspective.

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You’re meditating. You’re journaling. You’re doing everything “right”…

So why does it still feel like you’re falling apart?

In this episode, I share the truth about what happens when high-functioning women finally slow down after survival mode—and why the healing tools stop working unless your nervous system is regulated.

This is the part no one warned you about:

• Why you feel “blah” when the crisis ends

• The hidden crash that follows long-term survival

• And what to do when the emotional numbness kicks in

You are not broken.
Your nervous system is trying to find safety again.

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You held it all together... until your body started falling apart.

This is the part of healing no one warned you about: when the chaos ends, the crash begins.

In this episode, I reveal the emotional aftermath of high-functioning survival mode—how it disguises itself as discipline, delays grief, and keeps even self-aware women feeling stuck, numb, or unmotivated after a divorce, identity collapse, or major loss.

If you’ve been doing “all the right things” and still don’t feel like yourself… this is why.

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