Are your boundaries too soft… or too strict?

Most women fall into one of two extremes:
They either give too much and lose themselves…
Or push everyone away to protect themselves.

But underneath both?
The same root wound:
“I’m not worthy of love as I am.”

In this episode, I break down the subconscious patterns that drive both over-giving and over-protecting, how they stem from childhood beliefs, and why true self-worth isn’t found in how much you do—or how tightly you guard yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the work in relationships or feel safer alone than letting someone in… this one is for you.

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Ever walked away from a conversation wondering, “Did I do something wrong?” even though you were just being honest?

That’s the hidden weapon of projection—and it’s how toxic people transfer their unhealed wounds onto you.
In this episode, we unpack:

- What projection really is (and why it’s so dangerous)
- The psychological trick it plays on high-achieving women with big hearts
- Why some people NEED you to be the villain
- How to stop internalizing their shame and take your power back

If you’re done carrying blame that isn’t yours, this conversation will be a reset.

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This message will hit different if you’ve ever been called “too much” or felt afraid to be seen.

In this episode, we go deep into why healing doesn't always mean you're growing—and how your inner child might be the one calling the shots.