Why is it so hard to get started, stay regulated, or slow yourself down in the moment?

In this episode, Dr. Roxy Riefkohl-Cook and Dr. Stephanie Ellis focus on three executive functioning skills that shape everyday behavior: activation, emotional regulation, and behavioral self control. Together, they explore why starting tasks can feel so difficult, how emotions can take up more space than we expect, and what happens when reactions move faster than intention.

The conversation looks at common patterns like procrastination, urgency driven motivation, overwhelm, impulsive responses, and difficulty pausing before acting. You will hear why both self criticism and self indulgence tend to make these struggles worse, and how responsibility without shame creates more room for change.

Practical strategies include aligning tasks with values, borrowing structure from others, using visual focus to initiate work, creating space to edit responses, and building systems that support both present self and future self.

This episode continues the Executive Functioning series and leads into the final discussion, where more advanced skills and integration will be covered.

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Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes, is brought to you by Compass Coaching. At Compass Coaching, we specialize in executive coaching by collaborating with you on your goals, giving you reliable information, skills development practice opportunities, goal-oriented behavioral strategies, and help in tailoring these skills to your specific situation. We offer both topic-specific, empirically-based programs for businesses, organizations, and companies, all built on cognitive-behavioral and solution-focused principles.

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Episode 2 of our four part series on executive functioning. Why is it so hard to remember things, stay focused, or follow through even when you care?

In this episode, Dr. Roxy Riefkohl-Cook and Dr. Stephanie Ellis take a closer look at three core executive functioning skills: memory, focus, and mental effort. Together, they explore how working memory actually functions, why multitasking strains the brain, and what really affects our ability to stay alert and engaged.

The conversation covers common frustrations like forgetfulness, distraction, and difficulty finishing tasks, and explains why shame and self criticism tend to make these problems worse. You will also hear practical ways to support your brain, including reducing cognitive overload, using timers intentionally, and customizing strategies based on how you actually function rather than how you think you should.

This episode builds on the foundation from Part 1 and prepares listeners for the next discussion in the series, where additional executive functioning skills will be explored.

Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes, is brought to you by Compass Coaching. At Compass Coaching, we specialize in executive coaching by collaborating with you on your goals, giving you reliable information, skills development practice opportunities, goal-oriented behavioral strategies, and help in tailoring these skills to your specific situation. We offer both topic-specific, empirically-based programs for businesses, organizations, and companies, all built on cognitive-behavioral and solution-focused principles.

Learn more and connect with us at www.compasscoachingforlife.net

What if the reason you struggle with focus, follow-through, or motivation isn’t laziness or lack of willpower?

In this foundational episode, Dr. Roxy Riefkohl-Cook and Dr. Stephanie Ellis break down what executive functioning actually is: the mental skills that help you plan, focus, regulate emotions, and follow through in daily life.

You’ll learn why shame, grit, and “just try harder” don’t work, how executive functioning is influenced by your brain and development, and what does help instead: responsibility without shame, customization, sleep, and realistic supports.

This episode lays the groundwork for the entire series, where we’ll explore memory, focus, activation, emotional regulation, time management, procrastination, and more; with practical examples for work, parenting, relationships, and mental wellness.

Welcome to Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes. A mostly-serious podcast where Dr. Roxy Riefkohl-Cook and Dr. Stephanie Ellis coach you on the path to mental wealth by helping you find security, freedom, and luxury in every area of your life.

Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes, is brought to you by Compass Coaching. At Compass Coaching, we specialize in executive coaching by collaborating with you on your goals, giving you reliable information, skills development practice opportunities, goal-oriented behavioral strategies, and help in tailoring these skills to your specific situation. We offer both topic-specific, empirically-based programs for businesses, organizations, and companies, all built on cognitive-behavioral and solution-focused principles.

Learn more and connect with us at www.compasscoachingforlife.net

We're wrapping up our series on Work Wealth by focusing in on how you can develop (and maintain!) resilience in the workplace.

Welcome to Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes. A mostly-serious podcast where Dr. Roxy Riefkohl-Cook and Dr. Stephanie Ellis coach you on the path to mental wealth by helping you find security, freedom, and luxury in every area of your life.

Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes, is brought to you by Compass Coaching. At Compass Coaching, we specialize in executive coaching by collaborating with you on your goals, giving you reliable information, skills development practice opportunities, goal-oriented behavioral strategies, and help in tailoring these skills to your specific situation. We offer both topic-specific, empirically-based programs for businesses, organizations, and companies, all built on cognitive-behavioral and solution-focused principles.

Learn more and connect with us at www.compasscoachingforlife.net

It's a classic podcast team-up episode! And by that we mean: "go back and make sure you've listened to the communication series, because it's the perfect pairing for this laser focused lesson on communicating at work". Let's talk about boundaries, listening, self-awareness, and so much more.

Welcome to Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes. A mostly-serious podcast where Dr. Roxy Riefkohl-Cook and Dr. Stephanie Ellis coach you on the path to mental wealth by helping you find security, freedom, and luxury in every area of your life.

Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes, is brought to you by Compass Coaching. At Compass Coaching, we specialize in executive coaching by collaborating with you on your goals, giving you reliable information, skills development practice opportunities, goal-oriented behavioral strategies, and help in tailoring these skills to your specific situation. We offer both topic-specific, empirically-based programs for businesses, organizations, and companies, all built on cognitive-behavioral and solution-focused principles.

Learn more and connect with us at www.compasscoachingforlife.net

Overwhelm and burnout. We all know them, we've all experienced them. But how do they happen? And, just as important, how do we address them? Let's dig into not just what change would look like, but what SUSTAINABLE change could look like in our lives.

Welcome to Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes. A mostly-serious podcast where Dr. Roxy Riefkohl-Cook and Dr. Stephanie Ellis coach you on the path to mental wealth by helping you find security, freedom, and luxury in every area of your life.

Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes, is brought to you by Compass Coaching. At Compass Coaching, we specialize in executive coaching by collaborating with you on your goals, giving you reliable information, skills development practice opportunities, goal-oriented behavioral strategies, and help in tailoring these skills to your specific situation. We offer both topic-specific, empirically-based programs for businesses, organizations, and companies, all built on cognitive-behavioral and solution-focused principles.

Learn more and connect with us at www.compasscoachingforlife.net

The average American spends a quarter of their year at work, but oftentimes our work life is the LAST place we think about making changes to improve all other aspects of our life. In our new series, we dig into practical ways we can unlock "work wealth" and live fuller, more secure lives as a result.

Welcome to Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes. A mostly-serious podcast where Dr. Roxy Riefkohl-Cook and Dr. Stephanie Ellis coach you on the path to mental wealth by helping you find security, freedom, and luxury in every area of your life.

Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes, is brought to you by Compass Coaching. At Compass Coaching, we specialize in executive coaching by collaborating with you on your goals, giving you reliable information, skills development practice opportunities, goal-oriented behavioral strategies, and help in tailoring these skills to your specific situation. We offer both topic-specific, empirically-based programs for businesses, organizations, and companies, all built on cognitive-behavioral and solution-focused principles.

Learn more and connect with us at www.compasscoachingforlife.net

Good communication is just like anything else in life: practice makes perfect. Today, we're digging into five crucial types of practical conversations you can have to help level up your communication skills.

Welcome to Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes. A mostly-serious podcast where Dr. Roxy Riefkohl-Cook and Dr. Stephanie Ellis coach you on the path to mental wealth by helping you find security, freedom, and luxury in every area of your life.

Rich Thoughts, Poor Jokes, is brought to you by Compass Coaching. At Compass Coaching, we specialize in executive coaching by collaborating with you on your goals, giving you reliable information, skills development practice opportunities, goal-oriented behavioral strategies, and help in tailoring these skills to your specific situation. We offer both topic-specific, empirically-based programs for businesses, organizations, and companies, all built on cognitive-behavioral and solution-focused principles.

Learn more and connect with us at www.compasscoachingforlife.net