This New Year episode is a real conversation about what happens after the big change when the noise stops, the adrenaline wears off, and you’re left asking, “Who am I now?”

After selling my mortgage broking business at the end of 2024, I stepped into a season I didn’t fully expect. Less hustle. More space. And a whole lot of identity recalibration. This episode is about that in-between phase — the one we don’t talk about enough where growth doesn’t look productive, but absolutely is.

We unpack why active rest isn’t quitting, slowing down, or losing your edge. It’s a strategic pause. A deliberate decision to let your nervous system catch up to your life. To stop forcing clarity and allow it to land.

I talk about identity lag that disorienting gap between who you were and who you’re becoming — and how it quietly influences money decisions, self-worth, and the pressure to “do something” before you’re ready. Especially for women who’ve built success by being capable, busy, and useful.

This episode is an invitation to stop making decisions from an outdated version of yourself.

Because sustainable wealth doesn’t come from grinding harder. It comes from alignment. From choosing work, money, and lifestyles that actually fit the woman you are now not the one you had to be to survive.

If you’re in a season of change, reinvention, or quiet rebuilding, this one’s for you. You’re not behind. You’re not lost. You’re recalibrating.

And that might be the most powerful move you make all year.

Episode Chapters

00:00 – Welcome to 2026 and why this year feels different 00:19 – When life changes faster than your identity 01:13 – What really happens after you sell the business 02:37 – Active rest: not lazy, not indulgent, essential 06:43 – Identity lag and the money choices it messes with 10:03 – Why alignment is the real wealth strategy 13:16 – Permission to grow into who you’re becoming

The holiday season has a way of turning the volume up on everything, especially money.

Suddenly you’re spending more time with family than usual, old dynamics are bubbling up, and money starts to feel heavier. Conversations that normally roll off your back hit differently. You might feel judged, defensive, small, resentful, or weirdly emotional about things you thought you’d already dealt with.

That’s because money is never just money - especially in families.

Money is safety. Money is power. Money is love, shame, obligation, history.

And the holidays press every single button.

In this episode, we unpack why family gatherings magnify money stress and how your early money wounds shape the way you react, not just to spending, but to expectations, comparison, and unspoken tension.

You’ll learn how the four core money wounds show up in families during the holidays:

• Scarcity — the hyper-responsible one who feels like money could disappear at any moment • Worth — the status-seeker who spends big to feel enough • Shame — the avoider who hopes money will sort itself out later • Neglect — the one who hands money decisions to others and feels overwhelmed by it all

You’ll start to recognise these patterns not just in yourself but around the table.

Most importantly, this episode isn’t about fixing anyone or starting heavy conversations over Christmas lunch. It’s about awareness. Because when you understand what’s really going on, you stop taking everything personally.

You get to keep your peace.

You’ll walk away with practical ways to regulate your nervous system, set quiet boundaries, and step out of old patterns so you can move through the holiday season grounded, clear, and fully yourself.

In this episode we dioscuss whyt you are not broken or bad with money, you are responding exactly as you learned to survive.

And once you understand that, you get choice.

If this episode resonates, head to the website to download the Money Mindfulness workbook or take the Money Types quiz (find it on our website at phoebeblamey.com.au and remember: understanding money gives you language, and language gives you power.

This week’s episode is basically a Christmas ornament box full of truth bombs: sparkly, slightly chaotic, and filled with things you forgot you put away years ago… until you open it and go, “Oh damn, there’s my dream.”

Phoebe dives into the messy, magical moment she realised she has stepped into the life she dreamed of five years ago — without even noticing it happening. Hosting the founding round of the Million Dollar Conspiracy, surrounded by powerhouse business women, she had that rare, spine-tingling moment where past-you and present-you finally high-five across the timeline.

But this isn’t really an episode about manifestation (although she absolutely manifested the pants off this). It’s about desire. It’s about honouring the dream you keep trying to ignore because life feels like one long “everything everywhere all at once” montage, complete with end-of-year glitter and emotional whiplash.

Phoebe breaks down:

• Why your side hustle matters more than you want to admit

• Why ignoring your dream doesn’t make it polite — it makes it loud

• Why your future self is already living the life you want, waiting for you to catch up

• How giving your dream a notebook, a folder, a Sunday morning ritual can change the whole direction of your life

• Why beginning badly is still infinitely better than not beginning

• The brutal but freeing truth about competing commitments (yes, binge-watching is a commitment)

• Why ideas don’t disappear — they get adopted by someone else if you don’t claim them

• And the tiny, brave, rebellious move you need to make this week

This is your invitation to stop half-assing your dreams.

Because the life you want won’t arrive when everything is quiet and calm and aligned. It arrives when you decide you’re done waiting for clarity… and you take the first step anyway.

Your future self is pouring the champagne. She’s already there. She’s waiting.