What if the single biggest source of friction in your dating life is the app on your phone?

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Y'all, it was time for me to break up with online dating. I unpack my 180-degree perspective shift on online dating and mental wellness in this solo episode. I talk about my transition to being completely offline, how it's transforming my daily headspace, and why quitting dating apps actually isn't as scary as you might think.

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What does it truly take to redefine your life when the career you've known for 20 years no longer serves you? My guest, Bless Roxxwell, shares her extraordinary evolution from a 90s hip-hop artist to an NYU-trained Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Reiki practitioner.

Watch the episode here: https://youtu.be/MRSqWBy5TnQ

Bless breaks down the turning points that shaped her path, including a sudden spiritual awakening and the sacrifice required to build a fulfilling life. She candidly shares what it felt like to be diagnosed with AuDHD in her 40s, how it ended decades of self-doubt, and details her course, How to Radically Soften: A Liberation Practice, was created to help women heal intergenerational trauma and embrace peace.

Whether you are navigating a major life pivot, exploring spiritual growth, or seeking grace in your neurodivergent journey, this episode offers a grounded roadmap for becoming your most authentic self.

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• Spill
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• Website
• Counseling in New York

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Why is it so easy to crush a 30-day fitness or productivity challenge, but nearly impossible to keep those habits going once it's over? What happens when your discipline falls through?

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If you thrive under the pressure of a timed challenge but struggle to maintain those habits in everyday life like I do, this episode is for you. I talk through the friction between short-term goals and long-term habit forming, sharing my candid journey with morning routines, bedtime boundaries, and self-accountability.

I break down the subtle traps of late-night phone scrolling, self-rationalization, and how to find the balance between giving yourself grace and calling out laziness. Listen, I'm talking to myself as much as I'm talking to you!

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What do you do when the brand you built no longer fits the person you've become?

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My guest, Mikita Smith, host of Beautifully Unbalanced podcast, to reveal how she overcame fear and anxiety to completely rebrand her show. We explore the emotional and practical sides of personal transformation. If you're navigating a life shift, this episode will give you the tools and mindset needed to embrace your own pivot with confidence.

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If you have ever felt like your job is swallowing your creative dreams my guest is here to remind you, you don't have to choose between financial stability and your passion.

Watch the video episode here: https://youtu.be/D3P30ukC_Fg

Kehinde Winful, author of Flooding the River and practicing litigator, and I discuss the mindset shifts required to write a book while maintaining a professional career. We unpack the power of small daily habits, overcoming the imposter syndrome around self-promotion, and Kehinde shares her love of handwriting her stories. If you want to cultivate a growth mindset and integrate art into your everyday schedule, this episode offers practical wisdom and deep encouragement.

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What would it cost you to fully be yourself unapologetically, without hiding behind AI?

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I explore the personal and social costs of relying on generative AI in this solo episode. I make a case that we should actively avoid AI in creative and personal spaces so we can protect human connection and creative autonomy.

I get into why leaning into the "cringe" of being fully yourself is far more valuable than leaning into who you think you should be. I talk about how choosing creative authenticity over automated output can build your confidence, protect genuine collaboration, and grow real connection in your everyday life.

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Fun news!! Me in the Making podcast is in the running for a nomination for a 2026 Black Podcasting Award in the Best Episode of the Year category! I need your help. Please cast your vote for Me in the Making on of before Monday, 9/7/2026.

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The steps are simple! Create an account, click on 2026 Public Voting Booth, select the Best Episode of the Year category, scroll down and vote for Me in the Making. You can only vote once per category, so please make it count. Your vote will be counted immediately when you click on the heart icon.

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Why do we spend so much time stressing over milestones we might not even want?

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I talk through the concepts of life milestones, aging, and self-definition in my solo episode. Do you think you're living the life you actually want, or the one you feel like you should be living? The lifespan in America is roughly 80 years and 80 years is both a blip in history but it's a long time to live so why not live it authentically.

I unpack the trap of social comparison, the value of mental health support, and the peace that comes with realizing 80 years leaves plenty of time to reinvent yourself.

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