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  • #18 When Life Falls Apart... What Happens to Your Marriage?
    Apr 29 2026
    ❤️💙Life hit us hard.

    We almost lost a parent and everything else just paused.

    The podcast. Our routines. Even parts of how we normally show up for each other.
    And it made us ask something real:

    What actually happens to a marriage when life falls apart?

    Do you pull away…
    Keep score…
    Feel disconnected…

    Or do you lean in…even when you’re exhausted?

    In this episode, we talk about:
    ❤️ 💙What this season looked like for us
    ❤️ 💙How we supported each other when things felt uneven
    ❤️ 💙The difference between codependence, independence, and healthy interdependence
    ❤️ 💙Why strong marriages aren’t always 50/50

    Because the truth is…
    the strength of your marriage shows up most when life is the hardest.

    🎧 Episode #18 is live
    👉 Link in bio


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    ❤️ Because marriage isn't always perfect…
    …but it's always worth showing up for.
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    33 min
  • #17 Mistletoe Marriage!
    Dec 10 2025
    Join Abe and Elaine this Christmas as we give mistletoe a deeper meaning than just holiday décor.

    Historically, mistletoe stayed green when everything around it died back in winter, which made it a symbol of hope, renewal, and connection. Over time it became a reminder to pause, soften, share a kiss, and come close.

    This year we’re practicing mistletoe moments! ❤️ Tiny Pauses throughout the season where we stop long enough to really see each other.

    Not long talks.
    Not perfectly curated dates.
    Just intentional connection that quietly says:

    💚 You matter
    💚 I still choose you
    💚 I see you
    💚 I’m here

    Some moments will be sugar …soft compliments, gratitude pauses, a quiet hold by the glow of the tree, a prayer before bed.

    Some moments will be spice…..a sprig hung over the bed, a slow kiss, playful flirtation, a little warmth that reminds us we’re not just teammates but lovers too.

    Because marriage isn’t only strengthened by huge gestures, it flourishes in the gentle, repeated moments of closeness.

    This season, let mistletoe prompt you to slow down, kiss, laugh, pray, flirt, breathe, and come close again.❤️🎄


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    🎧 Marriage is a Joke Podcast

    Real talk. Real marriage. No filters.
    Where humor meets hard truths—and love shows up even when life gets messy.

    If this episode resonated with you, don't just listen… be part of it.

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    ❤️ Because marriage isn't always perfect…
    …but it's always worth showing up for.
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    18 min
  • # 16 What Does Marriage Even Mean? Gottman Principle #7-Shared Meaning
    Nov 7 2025
    Join Abe and Elaine as they dive into Gottman’s final principle for making marriage work: Shared Meaning. This episode explores what your marriage stands for ….beyond chores, communication, or conflict.

    They’ll talk about how every couple needs to define the philosophy of their marriage:
    • What do we value?
    • What traditions matter to us?
    • How do we see parenting, politics, faith, or family roles?
    • What are the small daily rituals that make us “us”?

    From tiny moments like Sunday morning routines to the big beliefs that guide your life, shared meaning is what turns a relationship into a legacy.

    Tune in as Abe and Elaine unpack how couples can discover, define, and intentionally build their shared story…together.



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    🎧 Marriage is a Joke Podcast

    Real talk. Real marriage. No filters.
    Where humor meets hard truths—and love shows up even when life gets messy.

    If this episode resonated with you, don't just listen… be part of it.

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    ❤️ Because marriage isn't always perfect…
    …but it's always worth showing up for.
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    36 min
  • #15 HERE WE GO AGAIN!! Gottman Principle #6: Overcoming Gridlock
    Aug 11 2025
    💙❤️Tired of having the SAME fight over and over again?? Tune in as Abe and Elaine discuss gridlock issues. This episode covers:
    🎯 Why 69% of conflicts in marriage are perpetual
    🎯 How to uncover the dreams hiding under the drama
    🎯 The 4 Gottman steps to get unstuck (without selling your soul to the thermostat war)
    🎯 A real-life example from one couple

    Whether it’s in-laws, money, chores, or Christmas plans, you can move from stuck to connected and compromise… even if you never totally agree.

    🎧 Listen now and find out how to turn “we’ll never agree” into “we actually understand each other.”


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    🎧 Marriage is a Joke Podcast

    Real talk. Real marriage. No filters.
    Where humor meets hard truths—and love shows up even when life gets messy.

    If this episode resonated with you, don't just listen… be part of it.

    💙 Join our Supporters Club
    Get exclusive content, behind-the-scenes moments, deeper conversations, and help us keep this podcast going strong.
    👉 Join now and support real conversations about real marriage.

    📲 Stay connected with us:

    Instagram: @marriage.isajoke
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    Facebook: facebook.com/shcounseling

    ❤️ Because marriage isn't always perfect…
    …but it's always worth showing up for.
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    25 min
  • #14 ARE YOU THERE FOR ME? Emotional Responsiveness in Marriage
    Feb 26 2025
    Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss emotional responsiveness in marriage. Sue Johnson, founder of EFT, found in her research that behind the tears in all marital conflict is the question we all yearn to know. ARE YOU THERE FOR ME? (A.R.E) Essentially we are all asking are you A- accessible, R- responsive, and E- engaged in this marriage or relationship? Of course Elaine and Abe put some fun spins on this. Join them for some laughs on the difference of men and women too.

    Go to instagram.com/marriage.isajoke and dm Elaine your email if you want the handout mentioned.

    Video mentioned called “It’s Not About the Nail”https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg


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    🎧 Marriage is a Joke Podcast

    Real talk. Real marriage. No filters.
    Where humor meets hard truths—and love shows up even when life gets messy.

    If this episode resonated with you, don't just listen… be part of it.

    💙 Join our Supporters Club
    Get exclusive content, behind-the-scenes moments, deeper conversations, and help us keep this podcast going strong.
    👉 Join now and support real conversations about real marriage.

    📲 Stay connected with us:

    Instagram: @marriage.isajoke
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    Facebook: facebook.com/shcounseling

    ❤️ Because marriage isn't always perfect…
    …but it's always worth showing up for.
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    39 min
  • #13 Solving Conflict! Gottman Principle #5
    Nov 12 2024
    Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss Gottman’s Principle #5 called “Solving Your Solvable Problems.” Conflict in marriage is inevitable! Thriving couples still have conflict. The Gottman research team has found that couples tend to have both Solvable and Gridlock problems. In this episode, Abe and Elaine go over the Gottman’s top tips of how to solve these solvable problems. Elaine and Abe are honest about how they too struggle with some dynamics in their own conflict. Stay tuned for our next episode where they go over how to get through the gridlock problems in principle #6!

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    🎧 Marriage is a Joke Podcast

    Real talk. Real marriage. No filters.
    Where humor meets hard truths—and love shows up even when life gets messy.

    If this episode resonated with you, don't just listen… be part of it.

    💙 Join our Supporters Club
    Get exclusive content, behind-the-scenes moments, deeper conversations, and help us keep this podcast going strong.
    👉 Join now and support real conversations about real marriage.

    📲 Stay connected with us:

    Instagram: @marriage.isajoke
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    Facebook: facebook.com/shcounseling

    ❤️ Because marriage isn't always perfect…
    …but it's always worth showing up for.
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    32 min
  • #12 Baby Mouse Tears: How Crying Actually Helps Marriage!
    Jun 13 2024
    Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss an interesting (but a little weird ) study about tears. 😢😢How crying becomes a natural way to slow down the intensity and anger in marital conflict. Link to check out the study: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sniffing-womens-tears-makes-men-less-aggressive/ (https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/sniffing-womens-tears-makes-men-less-aggressive/)



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    🎧 Marriage is a Joke Podcast

    Real talk. Real marriage. No filters.
    Where humor meets hard truths—and love shows up even when life gets messy.

    If this episode resonated with you, don't just listen… be part of it.

    💙 Join our Supporters Club
    Get exclusive content, behind-the-scenes moments, deeper conversations, and help us keep this podcast going strong.
    👉 Join now and support real conversations about real marriage.

    📲 Stay connected with us:

    Instagram: @marriage.isajoke
    Instagram (Therapy & Counseling): @shcounseling
    Facebook: facebook.com/shcounseling

    ❤️ Because marriage isn't always perfect…
    …but it's always worth showing up for.
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    26 min
  • #11 You Can’t Control Me! Gottman Principle #4
    Mar 9 2024
    Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss this awesome principle from the Gottman research! We never want to control each other in marriage. This creates a parent- child like relationship. However, our feelings and thoughts should INFLUENCE our partner’s decisions. Warning for Wives: Sadly, to Elaine’s chagrin …this episode led to Abe’s visions of buying a motorcycle!

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    🎧 Marriage is a Joke Podcast

    Real talk. Real marriage. No filters.
    Where humor meets hard truths—and love shows up even when life gets messy.

    If this episode resonated with you, don't just listen… be part of it.

    💙 Join our Supporters Club
    Get exclusive content, behind-the-scenes moments, deeper conversations, and help us keep this podcast going strong.
    👉 Join now and support real conversations about real marriage.

    📲 Stay connected with us:

    Instagram: @marriage.isajoke
    Instagram (Therapy & Counseling): @shcounseling
    Facebook: facebook.com/shcounseling

    ❤️ Because marriage isn't always perfect…
    …but it's always worth showing up for.
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    33 min