Episodi

  • LTN 14 - Purpose Anxiety

    LTN 14 - Purpose Anxiety
    Jan 8 2026
    • Introduction of Love Thy Neighbor with relationship therapist Colette Fair • Colette managing stress while preparing for The Cost of Quiet book launch • Announcement of The Cost of Quiet launch event at Maitland Mercedes-Benz • Event details: date, time, location, ticket includes a copy of the book • Framing the launch as both a book release and a community gathering • Loneliness discussed as a widespread modern issue • Feeling lonely even within families and long-term relationships • Humor about hiding in the bathroom for quiet time • Phones and constant distraction worsening disconnection • Live podcast recording planned at the launch event • Meet-and-greet with hosts and attendees • Food, drinks, and relaxed, low-pressure atmosphere emphasized • Event positioned as an easy entry point to relationship work • Participation from local therapists and community voices • Focus on improving connection and reducing loneliness • Communication breakdowns linked to phones and social media • Ticket info shared via website, show notes, and live chat • Giveaway of 10 free tickets with email entry instructions • Encouragement for longtime listeners and newcomers alike • Listener email praising the show and a long, happy marriage • Discussion of attraction and intimacy growing over time • Question of whether partners value being praised publicly • Importance of expressing appreciation beyond generic compliments • Hosts affirm appreciation as rare and essential for relationship health • Daily emotional check-ins encouraged over routine small talk • Using specific appreciation during check-ins • Small household efforts as meaningful signs of care • Feeling "seen" through acknowledgment of little things • Research showing many positives needed to outweigh negatives • Couples overfocusing on complaints under stress • Balancing grievances with gratitude and affirmation • Limits of love languages and pressure to self-label • Most people still enjoying praise even if they claim otherwise • Compliments about effort, attraction, and appearance matter • Men and women both valuing being told they look good • Compliments boosting confidence in partners and children • Kids learning affirmation through modeled behavior • Discussion of whether too much praise can feel smothering • Difference between healthy appreciation and unhealthy overdoing it • Encouragement to ask partners how they prefer to feel loved • Public praise versus private appreciation preferences • Teasing and joking as long-term bonding dynamics • Humor, hazing, and exaggeration as signs of emotional security • Reinforcing that genuine appreciation is usually welcomed • Introduction of purpose anxiety and pressure to "find your purpose" • Reframing purpose as small, evolving, and practical • Careers often developing without a clear master plan • Feeling trapped in unfulfilling work contributing to loneliness • Advice to seek small joys instead of drastic life changes • Accepting that even meaningful work still includes stress • Finding meaning outside of work when necessary • Hobbies and side interests potentially growing into fulfillment • Parenting parallels about finding positives in disliked activities • Ballet discipline example showing delayed appreciation • Love languages explained as tools, not science • Overview of quality time, acts of service, touch, words, and gifts • Emphasis on asking directly what makes a partner feel loved • Alone time recognized as a valid emotional need • Mental load carried by women in families highlighted • Importance of noticing invisible planning and emotional labor • Encouraging proactive support rather than assumptions • Transition to dating after divorce in your 40s • Anxiety about modern dating norms and apps • Dating apps described as discouraging and dehumanizing • Encouragement toward low-pressure, in-person dates • Digital chemistry often failing to translate in real life • Normalizing awkwardness when reentering dating • Rebuilding social confidence through friendships • Reassurance that kind, stable partners are in demand • Emphasis on human need for real connection over technology • Invitation to the book launch as a social, organic meet opportunity • Reminder of free ticket giveaway and confirmation process • Lighthearted humor, optimism, and closing thanks ### Social Media [https://tomanddan.com](https://tomanddan.com) [https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive](https://twitter.com/tomanddanlive) [https://facebook.com/amediocretime](https://facebook.com/amediocretime) [https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive](https://instagram.com/tomanddanlive) Where to Find the Show – A Mediocre Time Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-mediocre-time/id334142682) Google Podcasts [https://podcasts.google.com...
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  • LTN 13 - 20Thousand Dollar Day

    LTN 13 - 20Thousand Dollar Day
    Dec 25 2025
    • Love Thy Neighbor introduced as a relationship show focused on growth • Financial stress framed with humor about offering creative services • New year positioned as a moment for relationship reflection, not reinvention • Focus on small, attainable changes over drastic relationship overhauls • Comparison between extreme diet resolutions and unrealistic relationship goals • Small, consistent actions compounding over time • All-or-nothing resolutions setting people up for failure • Behavior change compared to habit-building and voting • New year not magically changing real life circumstances • Couples feeling stuck in familiar routines • Encouragement to carve out a few focused minutes daily for connection • Disconnection driven by exhaustion, work pressure, finances, and parenting • Numbing out with phones and screens instead of connecting • Daily ritual of sharing emotions, appreciation, and struggles • Naming emotions as a tool for deeper connection • Research showing many positives are needed to offset negatives • Quality of time valued over quantity • Sharing inner experiences reducing mind-reading and guessing • Importance of routine and consistency in relationship habits • Couples compared to distracted roommates orbiting each other • Need to reserve energy specifically for the relationship • Weekly small gestures like notes or tokens of care • Using reminders and pre-planning to support follow-through • Treating relationship effort like scheduled work • Humor about effort tied to desired outcomes • Tension between authentic connection and transactional gestures • Gestures lacking emotional presence not landing • Relationship growth compared to fitness results over time • Question of how to measure relationship progress • Difference between real effort and going through the motions • Gestures needing to match what matters to a specific partner • Differences in love languages and meaning • Preference for emotional openness over physical tokens for some • Compliments and physical affection as impactful gestures • Reminders to show affection not inherently fake • Warning against replacing communication with gestures • Encouragement to share emotionally even when uncomfortable • Surface gestures compared to shortcuts versus deeper work • Presence and emotional connection emphasized as core tools • Teasing acknowledgment of personal blind spots • Preparing mentally and physically for a second hip replacement • Cutting out alcohol ahead of surgery for health • Alcohol used as an unhealthy coping tool for anxiety • Distinction between casual drinking and substance use disorder • Lower threshold for substance misuse than assumed • Alcohol described as a neurotoxin with no safe level • Cultural shift away from alcohol and toward alternatives • Need to replace alcohol with healthier coping strategies • Short-term relief versus long-term harm from drinking • Personal experience of intense but fleeting relief from alcohol • Pattern of diminishing returns from drinking • Drinking framed as human but flawed coping • Anxiety-driven drinking during stressful events • Introduction of mindfulness as an alternative • Mindfulness defined as present awareness without judgment • Short practices still offering benefits • Mindfulness as accessible, low-effort support • Ongoing struggle despite long-term practice • Emphasis on honesty when discussing coping • Resistance to meditation due to restlessness • Gradual improvement coping without substances • Mention of mindfulness and meditation apps • Pairing mindfulness with journaling • Skepticism toward prescribed self-help routines • Research supporting gratitude practices • Gratitude linked to mood, longevity, and reduced anxiety • Structured tools making gratitude easier • Spoken gratitude as an alternative to writing • Simple practice of naming three good things • Gratitude countering negativity bias • Clarifying gratitude is not toxic positivity • Difficulty sustaining gratitude habits • Teaching gratitude to children • Kids defaulting to repetitive gratitude answers • Gratitude through future perspective-taking • Imagining paying to relive ordinary days • Reframing everyday life as valuable from the future • Gratitude tied to aging, loss, and impermanence • "$20,000 day" mindset for appreciating the present • Holding hardship and gratitude at the same time • Reframing daily inconveniences as meaningful moments • Joy found by noticing good amid stress • Viktor Frankl and meaning through suffering • Meaning and kindness even in extreme hardship • Mental stability through intentional awareness • Regret over not appreciating health and family sooner • Alcohol falsely creating a sense of slowed time • Gratitude mimicking that effect in a healthier way • Writing reinforcing memory and presence • ...
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  • LTN 12 - You Can Stay Home

    LTN 12 - You Can Stay Home
    Dec 18 2025
    • Debate over repeating the show title and old-school radio presentation • Traditional radio habits versus modern podcast structure • Adjusting how hosts and guests are introduced on-air • Colette's media tour to Atlanta, Washington D.C., and Phoenix/Scottsdale • Delayed release of holiday-related media segments • Balancing work travel with mother–daughter time • Family relocation from New York to California and reduced closeness • Ease of travel between Florida and New York influencing migration • Jokes about people "invading" Florida • Media stereotypes about Florida and Floridians • Comedians mocking Florida while wanting to live there • Upsides of Florida living: weather, space, beaches, lifestyle • Downsides of Florida: extreme heat and limited outdoor variety • Comparisons to western states' landscapes and activities • Jokes about boring Florida walks and outdoor options • Idea of recording the relationship show on a boat • Humor about awkward optics, spouses present, and swampy scenery • Wanting cold weather for the holidays versus reality of winter travel • Experiences with extreme cold in northern cities • Renewed appreciation for Florida after traveling • Transition back to structured show segments and emails • High volume of listener emails centered on Christmas stress • Holidays as a peak stress period for relationships • Family gatherings creating forced togetherness and emotional strain • Pressure to appear happy during the holidays • Financial stress tied to holiday expectations • Listener email about December disrupting an otherwise stable relationship • Conflict over hosting, decorating, and family obligations • Tension between protecting a partner's joy and personal boundaries • Feeling forced or inauthentic during extended holiday plans • Difficulty expressing negative feelings without "ruining" the holiday • Resentment from hosting, travel, and family expectations • Being told to suppress feelings and "put on a happy face" • Feeling disallowed from expressing true emotions • Codependency from suppressing personal needs • Telling the truth about feelings without blaming a partner • Communicating overwhelm and anxiety around obligations • Framing conversations as discussion instead of refusal • Using a 1–10 scale to gauge how much something matters to a partner • Stretching for a partner when something truly matters to them • Harm of minimizing personal emotional experiences • Over-functioning by prioritizing others' feelings over your own • Joint decision-making based on both partners' needs • Accepting mismatched holiday enthusiasm • Allowing someone to be the "Grinch" without forcing cheer • Balancing authenticity with social responsibility • Choosing whether to attend events versus attending with resentment • Emotional self-regulation when choosing to participate • Unequal labor when one partner drives holiday plans • Transactional dynamics and "rewards" for participation • Risks of trading needs for short-term peace • Right to say no within marriage and family • Saying no clearly and kindly without guilt • Reframing boundaries as non-selfish self-care • Accepting partner disappointment as part of maturity • Saying no to prevent future resentment • Pressure to fake happiness to keep peace • Fear of being disliked or disappointing others • Avoidance of conflict leading to resentment and distance • Silence in relationships having long-term costs • Advocating for personal wants and feelings • Being explicit when a request is a real sacrifice • Checking internally for resentment before agreeing • Owning the choice when saying yes • Not resenting a partner after choosing to participate • Practicing boundary-setting as a learned skill • Therapy helping break people-pleasing habits • Listener email about gift-giving anxiety and conflict • Overspending, guilt spirals, and pressure around gifts • Gifts feeling tied to love, effort, and parenting • Social pressure on women to perform love through perfect gifts • Differentiating joyful giving from trapped giving • Permission to scale back holiday effort • Negative self-talk and self-criticism around holidays • Accepting compliments and small boundaries • Emotional versus logical views of Christmas meaning • One partner not caring about receiving gifts • Accepting gifts because giving matters to the giver • Sharing wish lists to ease gift stress • Avoiding unintentionally ruining someone's joy in giving • Difficulty choosing gifts for long-term partners • Skepticism about "love languages" as science • Preference for quality time over material gifts • Critique of conspicuous consumption • Encouraging experience-based gifts over objects • Local experience gift ideas and planned dates • Thoughtfulness as feeling seen, not price-driven • Last-minute gift panic leading ...
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  • LTN 11 - Communicate

    LTN 11 - Communicate
    Dec 11 2025

    • Holiday stress, polarized feelings, and relationship strain
    • Simplifying expectations and focusing on connection
    • Intentional family time and low-effort activities like games and puzzles
    • Screen overstimulation making simple activities feel boring
    • Relearning enjoyment away from devices
    • Emotional lift after spending real time with family
    • Effort required to engage in shared activities
    • Easy entry games and "adult parallel play" options like pottery, climbing, walking
    • Bonding without constant conversation; Florida weather enabling outdoor time
    • Casual family outings like parks, markets, and food halls
    • Scheduling pauses to avoid being consumed by chores
    • Rejecting holiday perfectionism in favor of meaningful moments
    • Memories shaped by shared experiences, not tasks
    • Traditions like driving to see Christmas lights; nostalgia for older displays
    • Local light events as simple holiday fun
    • Reducing pressure with easier meal choices and clearer communication
    • Asking guests what they want to talk about to spark genuine conversations
    • Choosing activities people actually want, honoring diverse traditions
    • Traveling for family obligations and maintaining positive ties with ex-in-laws
    • Modeling healthy relationships and blended family dynamics for kids
    • Showing kids that emotional expression is normal and healthy
    • Challenging traditional male conditioning around emotions
    • Using communication tools to balance expression with appropriate containment
    • Pausing to regulate emotions and "measure" their priority
    • Validating feelings as signals about needs
    • Exploring emotions with curiosity instead of fear
    • Humor and gambling used as contrasts for emotional decision-making
    • Childhood lack of control shaping adult emotional habits
    • Fear of being overwhelmed by emotions; learning they subside when felt
    • Many adults never learned safe emotional expression
    • Vulnerability deepening connection
    • Admitting stress in professional settings to create honesty
    • Using exaggerated emotion manipulatively in negotiations
    • Joke about trying to "mold" a partner rather than treating them as equal
    • Holiday romance movies creating unrealistic expectations
    • "Emotional pornography" and other idealized social-media extremes
    • Social comparison damaging self-worth
    • Listener email tease: feeling treated like a child instead of a teammate
    • Feeling infantilized by constant correction and nitpicking
    • Addressing issues individually with calm "I feel" statements
    • Partners often unaware they sound critical until told gently
    • Vulnerability inviting empathy and appreciation
    • Workplace analogy: problems persist without direct communication
    • Fear-driven assumptions blocking honest expression of needs
    • Wizard of Oz analogy: solutions simpler when people communicate
    • Clear, kind communication resolving issues more than expected
    • Promotion for The Cost of Quiet, including pre-orders, audiobook, VIP launch, and live podcast details

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  • LTN 10 - The Gray-Divorce

    LTN 10 - The Gray-Divorce
    Dec 4 2025
    • Low-effort vs. high-effort Thanksgiving experiences • Colette's relaxed holiday without her kids • Daniel's stressful Thanksgiving towing multiple vehicles • Different family traditions and conflicting holiday desires • Two opposing feelings about an experience both being valid • Giants' struggles, game mishaps, and kicker issues • Annoyance at Kansas City's continued success and Cowboys rivalry • Social media comparison culture affecting relationships • Pressure from idealized online portrayals vs. real life • Comparison in the past (holiday cards) vs. constant modern exposure • Performative relationship presentation and couples divorcing despite appearing perfect • "Gray divorce" trend among people 50+ • Rising gray-divorce rates while overall divorce rates fall • Causes of gray divorce: growing apart, empty nest, long-term unhappiness • Women initiating most divorces due to increased independence • Less tolerance for unhealthy or abusive long-term relationships • Women leaving disconnected marriages after decades of misery • Some couples staying miserable for years • Personal gratitude for having healthier parental models • Possibility of fixing issues before reaching gray-divorce age • Older couples' grumpiness as an "act" rather than true misery • Enmeshment, codependency, and low-grade unhappiness in long marriages • Changing expectations around marriage and desire for deeper connection • Settling vs. actively improving a relationship • Negativity being easier than expressing affection • Relationships needing intentional effort and kindness • Debate of repairing a relationship vs. starting over • Mutual effort, communication, vulnerability, and appreciation • Recognizing when only one partner is doing the work • Personal growth as the first step toward repairing issues • Listener emails about empty-nester fears • Encouraging open conversations about the transition • Validating both excitement and fear as bonding opportunities • Joke about having another baby and related risks • Habitual lateness in friendships and dating • Whether chronic lateness can change • Lateness seen as inconsiderate and selfish • Emotional impact of others being late • Adults' responsibility to respect others' time • Predictable lateness patterns and communicating boundaries • Importance of notifying others when running late • Lateness signaling someone's time isn't valued • Anecdotes about partners who avoid being early • Intent vs. impact in lateness • Hurt caused by repeated lateness despite requests • Deciding whether to keep making plans with late people • Debate over giving slack vs. upholding values • Being on time as a personal identity • Using buffer time to stay punctual • Setting boundaries around lateness • Listener praise for the show • Question about poetry in modern dating • Party with an on-demand love-poem writer • Gay social events with creative entertainment • Fundraiser with themed performers in every room • Gay friends throwing more elaborate parties • Adults enjoying whimsical activities like face painting • Decline of poetry in dating • Nostalgia for romantic gestures like custom poems • Writing poems or symbolic gifts as romance • "Key to my heart" car-key gesture example • Romantic vulnerability appreciated when interest is mutual • Making a bound book of poems after divorce • Embarrassment over past over-the-top gestures • Feeling previous partners didn't value romantic efforts • Pulling back romantically after negative past experiences • Romantic gestures fading in long relationships but still meaningful • Listeners relating to giving up on effort after lack of appreciation • Love languages shaping what gestures matter • Suspicion of grand gestures when out of character • Big gifts perceived as guilt • Preference for small, thoughtful gestures • Bringing home garden flowers as simple affection • Tailoring gestures to the relationship • Thoughtfulness mattering more than format • Writing a poem for a partner after a parent's death • Partner framing the poem as a keepsake • Dark humor in personal writing • Acts of service like cleaning a partner's car • Love languages lacking scientific validation but still useful • Balancing effort across work, parenting, marriage, and self-care • Partner needs often neglected when overwhelmed • "Quiet quitting" relationships through emotional neglect • Disconnection leading to gray-divorce or roommate-style marriages • Value of small daily acts of presence • Five-minute check-ins to maintain connection • Quality time over quantity • Phones and mobile games interfering with relationships • Avoiding relationship effort similar to avoiding exercise • Small daily actions rebuilding habits and connection • "No time" as an excuse; micro-commitments help • Encouraging a few minutes of ...
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  • LTN 9 - The Bird Theory

    LTN 9 - The Bird Theory
    Nov 20 2025
    • Audience enjoying the relationship show • Reminder to leave reviews on Apple Podcasts and Spotify • More relationship content appearing in social media feeds • Noting that consuming relationship content can boost awareness • Contrast between relationship-focused and random algorithm feeds • Brief joke about Hezbollah/Hezzy and Mike Tyson's age confusion • Introduction of the online "Bird Theory" test • Example of a staged bird video illustrating the concept • Gottman's "bids for connection" explained • Turning toward bids linked to long-term satisfaction • Bids are small attempts to connect, not about literal topics • Importance of responding even when uninterested • Ping-pong analogy for communication • Sharing memes, sports, or small moments as valid bids • Ignoring bids due to distraction or overload • Emotional harm from consistently missed bids • Healthy couples turn toward bids about 86% of the time • Harmful dismissive responses highlighted • Context affecting how humor or timing lands • Supporting a partner's unrelated interests • Overwhelming feeling of family members sending constant bids • Fear of hurting loved ones by not responding • Parent-child responsiveness applied to spouses • Spouses feeling de-prioritized next to children • Challenges in blended families and differing loyalties • Listener email expressing gratitude for the show • Joke about putting the show behind a paywall • Introduction of "retroactive jealousy" question • Retroactive jealousy defined as fixation on a partner's past • Normalizing jealousy but focusing on how it's handled • Rumination triggered by hearing about an ex • Differentiating insecurity from internal anxiety • Strategy of acknowledging emotions without shaming • Wondering why a partner often mentions an ex • Dismissing humorous "exposure therapy" ideas • Past-reference context in blended families • Sudden jealousy sparks in long relationships • Jealousy isn't the problem—behaviors are • Past betrayals and personality traits shaping jealousy • Acceptable to address repeated ex mentions calmly • Irrational jealousy about teenage events resurfacing • Watching old VHS tapes and feeling disconnected from past selves • Exploring why old incidents still sting • Jealousy sometimes signaling a need for reassurance • Limited dating histories magnifying past details • Young relationships evolving into adult ones • Encouragement to ask compassionate questions • Fear that discussing issues could "unravel" the relationship • Recurring infidelity dreams indicating insecurity • Question about when to show aggression publicly • Concern over being labeled a "Karen/Kyle" • Aggression rejected; assertiveness encouraged • Example of respectful assertiveness when correcting mistakes • Story of confronting a line-cutter who was blind • Story of confronting a smoker who was a little person • Risk of situations escalating or going viral • Critique of fight-for-honor culture • Mixed reactions to someone flirting with a spouse • Some wanting mild jealousy as proof of care • Jealousy not equal to love • Partners vary in territorial feelings • Email from a woman whose relationship began as a work affair • Agreement delaying introductions to his kids for two years becoming 15 • Missing major family events due to exclusion • Partner shutting down whenever it's discussed • Kids possibly resenting the affair • Avoidance being harmful regardless of the kids' stance • Distinguishing kid acceptance issues from partner communication issues • Avoidance giving short-term relief but long-term damage • Need for open talk about shame, loyalty, and exclusion • Theme of the therapist's book: the cost of avoidance • Promotion of "The Cost of Quiet" and preorder bonuses • Promotion of the Dec. 3 "Pitch a Friend" event • Event format: three-minute friend pitches • Event is free or low cost • Previous events included all ages and red-flag/green-flag games • Listeners asking if Colette will attend Beer Fest • Confirmation she will be there • Invitation for listeners to meet her at the Beer Fest • Peanuts-style "advice 5¢" joke • Joke about giving advice for an email address • Colette excited to meet listeners at both events • Closing note that they'll see listeners next week ### Social Media:
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  • LTN 8 - Cutoffs

    LTN 8 - Cutoffs
    Nov 13 2025
    • Live launch of "A Corporate Time with Tom and Dan" on Twitch and YouTube • Promotion of free Bad at Business Beerfest (Nov 22) and Sofas and Suds couch races (Nov 23) in Sanford • Both events are free, family-friendly, and include unlimited beer samples for 21+ • "Weird Job Wednesday" debuts with guest Amy Kaufeldt from Fox 35 • Amy shares her childhood dream of spaceflight and how the Challenger disaster changed her goals • Found passion for writing, studied journalism at Miami University of Ohio • Early unpaid radio work at NPR station WMUB; enjoyed radio's relaxed pace • Transitioned from radio to TV through NBC internships in Ohio; learned sales made more than on-air talent • Accepted first TV job in Great Falls, Montana, for $18K; learned budgeting and lived modestly • Covered Unabomber arrest as first major breaking story; called early years her "media boot camp" • Promoted to main anchor without a raise; typed scripts on typewriters and timed segments manually • Reflected that early grind built confidence and skill • Compared early technical work to today's automation, saying new journalists miss foundational skills • Discussed handling online criticism and "keyboard warriors"; shared story of viewer apologizing for rude comment • Mentioned balance between robotic presentation and human connection on air • Described seven-hour Fox 35 morning show, expanding from three hours since 2003 • Detailed hurricane coverage shifts, lack of sleep quarters, and constant updates • Explained teleprompter focus and staying authentic during serious stories like Casey Anthony trial • Shared story connecting puppy born without a paw to a family with a limb difference; became therapy dog "Charlie Tri" • Reflected on community impact and importance of compassion in local news • Mentioned station renovation chaos—lost internet and live shots during broadcasts • Noted female anchors face appearance criticism; prefers prepping at home to stay ready • Described field reporting risks: danger, exhaustion, harassment • Noted pay disparities across markets; few anchors become wealthy • Discussed influencer hires and decline of passion-driven journalism • Praised for professionalism and longevity; jokes about "Love Thy Neighbor" six-second kiss • Interview with comedian George Wallace performing at Orlando Funny Bone with Amy LeCours opening • Wallace recalls 49-year career with Seinfeld, jokes about being his "kids' father" • Talks shift from TV to social media comedy—"funny is still funny" • Emphasizes work ethic, travel life, and joy of live audiences • Promotes new show "Clean Slate," jokes second show is funnier because he's "naked" • Shares love for ice cream, weight-gain resolution, and "four L's"—learning, listening, loving, laughing • Encourages Tom and Dan to try stand-up; signs off with "I love you, nothing you can do about it" • Hosts praise Wallace's energy and liken him to a comedic Michael Jordan • Light talk on Wendy's nostalgia—spicy chicken peak, "Biggie" brand loss, fast food decline • Notes Wendy's sales down 5%, revenue $1.63B; reflects on inflation and quality drop • Misses dollar menus and quirky architecture like Alamo-style Taco Bells • Shifts to Rob Dyrdek discussion—critiques his self-help "wait list" marketing as cultish but disciplined • Notes grind addiction, unrealistic motivational tone, and monetized positivity • Compares Dyrdek to Tony Robbins; respect for his structure but dislike for gimmicks • Listener voicemail revives "white van speaker scam" story from 2000s • Dan recalls buying "Blue Rhino" speakers in college—real brand, not propane • Paid $110; they worked fine and lasted years • Debate whether scam is truly fraud or just markup resale • Reflection that working products made it feel like a fair deal • Closing thought: scams persist because "there's always a chance" • Show wrap-up and sign-off ### Social Media:
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  • LTN 7 - The Online Dating Disconnect

    LTN 7 - The Online Dating Disconnect
    Nov 6 2025

    • Launch of "Love Thy Neighbor" with Dan, Tom, and Colette Fehr
    • Banter about walking to Publix and Colette teasing Dan
    • Colette attends "Pitch a Friend" Orlando dating event and explains its PowerPoint pitch format
    • Discussion of dating app burnout, swipe fatigue, and loss of real connection
    • Colette's "Red Flag or Green Flag" game and insights on in-person chemistry
    • Jokes about people falling for the presenter instead of the friend pitched
    • Commentary on gendered dating perceptions and differing timelines
    • Emphasis on body language, vibe, and physical chemistry over screens
    • Comparison of "vibes" vs. science in attraction
    • Event at Gravity Tap Room; next one Dec 3 at Primrose Lanes (famous hot dogs)
    • Shift to sex talk and how men/women view dating motives differently
    • Dan values connection; Tom admits physical attraction drives men
    • Discussion of laughter as intimacy and thrill of early dating
    • Colette notes women often prefer emotional intimacy before sex
    • Ghosting and casual culture seen as emotionally damaging
    • Online dating breeds cynicism and "disposable" mindset
    • Digital judgment linked to low self-esteem and loneliness
    • Women face harsher appearance scrutiny; men struggle to show vulnerability
    • Conversation on male emotional suppression and biology-driven desire
    • Dating apps enable convenience over effort, leading to isolation or incel behavior
    • Men mocked for liking marriage; hosts defend partnership and family life
    • "Good partner > happy single > toxic relationship"
    • Example of friend thriving after self-work without a partner
    • Humans need connection; quality bonds improve longevity
    • Concerns about AI/robots replacing real relationships
    • Listener email: advice seems to blame men
    • Colette clarifies relationships are co-created; both share responsibility
    • Discussion of pursuer–withdrawer dynamics and mental load imbalance
    • Tips: team mindset, clear asks, "I" statements, avoid tit-for-tat
    • Men urged to state needs constructively and set boundaries
    • Example: request chores or phone-free dinners for reconnection
    • Partners show love by attending unexciting events for each other
    • Many men feel blamed; communication must be mindful, not reactive
    • Colette offers free communication scripts on her site
    • Emotional awareness isn't taught—requires effort and patience
    • Therapy reveals both partners need reflection and growth
    • Advice: express feelings without attacking or demanding change
    • Women often burn out from not feeling heard; checked-out partners rarely return
    • Most men prefer commitment once emotionally invested
    • Tom shares learning affection through small gestures like flowers
    • Upbringing made him reserved, but consistency built trust
    • Small daily acts strengthen connection over time
    • Colette praises Tom's effort and suggests habit-stacking affection
    • Gentle touch meets emotional needs and prevents "starvation"
    • Humor about forced hugs and awkward affection
    • Affection styles differ; goal is balance, not perfection
    • Colette urges small, steady contact—hand-holding or brief hugs
    • Joke about withholding affection as "emotional terrorism"
    • Reminder: send questions to Hello@LoveThyNeighborShow.com
    • Plug for Colette's book The Cost of Quiet and upcoming audiobook
    • Light banter and wrap-up about audiobooks and reading

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