Welcome in loves.

Today's episode is about reclaiming your power. Today, we're looking at the words we use when our space, our truth, and our safety are being challenged.

We are role playing some scenerios where you can hear some of the boundary phrases we could use to de-escalate a situation. It doesnt have to be in a DV conflict, these also work outside the home with strangers, family, etc.

The goal of someone that is interrogating you is to make you feel like you're on trial. If you start explaining or justifying yourself—you've already lost the boundary because you've accepted that they have the right to cross-examine you. A boundary is not a request for them to change; it's a notification of what you are doing.

Of course, this may not work for you. Only you know what your situation looks like and if these will work. Be safe and do what is right for you, but you are allowed to set boundaries in any relationship or with a stranger. It can be frustrating for the other person because they want that fight. They want you to defend yourself so they can keep twisting your words.

If you need support, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.

You are not alone. You are Invincible

Happy New Year loves!

Today, Abbie and I talk about how we (you) dont have to be okay here, at this time, in this moment, in this new year. We also discuss reflection and grief for the woman you used to be

There's a grief no one talks about—the grief of becoming someone new.

Grieving the woman who kept everyone else afloat. The woman who stayed quiet. The woman who believed if she just tried harder, things would work out.

Our lives are hectic enough, day to day, don't put so much pressure on yourself to be perfect or to finish those "resolutions". You are ok and sometimes we grow and outgrow some of those promises we make to ourselves at the beginning of the year. The goal is admirable and if you are able to achieve it, thats fantastic, but if you can't or dont thats ok too!

Traditional New Year's goals can feel cruel when you're rebuilding because they assume you're starting from a place of abundance. But some of us are starting from empty.

If your only intention this year is to survive more gently—that counts. You don't have to become more productive to be worthy. Letting go isn't weakness. It's discernment. If you're mourning what you had to release—people, dreams, timelines—your grief is valid.

You didn't fail. You listened.

Listen in as we take you through whispers of hope and love for the women who are listening.

We love you, welcome in to 2026 with us.

Morning loves!

Today Abbie and I discuss the connection between trauma and perfectionism.

Today we're unpacking where that comes from, what it looks like, and how we can actually heal from it.

Because perfectionism doesn't just appear out of nowhere. For a lot of us, it starts in childhood.

For most of us, perfectionism came from growing up feeling like nothing was ever good enough. If the environment is unpredictable—whether it's criticism, neglect, or emotional instability—you become hyper-attuned to trying to "get it right" so you don't trigger anything.

It becomes a strategy. A coping mechanism. And as kids, we don't realize we're trading childhood for control. But that need for control becomes the foundation of perfectionism later on.

When life feels chaotic—or unpredictable—you start to believe that if you can control yourself, then maybe you can control the environment. So perfection becomes a way to prevent rejection, or conflict, or abandonment. It's trauma logic. If you grew up having to manage other people's emotions, you learn to disappear so everyone else stays calm.

Therapy, EMDR, CBT, these all work, but what ever works for you, works for you. Not every modality works for everyone.

Let's talk about the 70/30 or 80/20 rule. Because this concept is life-changing for perfectionists.

The rule basically says:

70% effort is still success. 80% effort is still success.

"Perfect" doesn't exist—and it's not required.

And then there's self-compassion—which is honestly harder than any therapy session.

Don't let perfectionism move in, don't let them become your roommate.

Remember that some people won't like the new version of you. The one that has boundaries. The one that says no. The one that doesn't overperform anymore. But that's okay. Losing people who only loved your compliance is not a loss.

Let the healing part unlearn that. Realizing your voice matters. Your needs matter. Your feelings matter. And you don't have to be perfect to be loved.

Sabotage doesn't mean you're broken. It means love bumped into a wound

If you take nothing else from this episode, let it be this:

You were never meant to earn your worth.

You were born with it.

And perfectionism isn't your personality — it's the armor you wore when you had no other choice.

Hi lovelies,

On today's episode of Invincible Her, Abbie and I discuss some of our dating disasters and how we coped and we "made it through"! Some don't.

We all want to find love, but ignorning the screaming RED flags because, lets face it, we all think we can "fix him". Listen, you are not supposed to raise a man or "fix" a man. They should be respectful adults and humans and you deserve to be treated right.

Our stories are funny, yet, they certainly could of ended differently

In all seriousness, please be safe and don't ignore red flags, hell stop and really think about the "pink" flags and what your willing to accept. But respect yourself enough to walk away from people or things that do not serve you.

We love you! Until Next time!.

Hello beautifuls!

On todays episode of Invincible Her, Abbie and I discuss "The Human Experience is a Fingerprint" so Hold On, My Friend!

We dive into the idea that the human experience is like a fingerprint — completely unique to each person. They talk about how our individual journeys, shaped by our mental health, backgrounds, and life events, create personal patterns that define who we are and how we see the world. Abbie shares how mental health struggles can sometimes make people feel isolated, but understanding that everyone's path looks different helps us replace judgment with compassion — for ourselves and for others.

Kellie builds on this by exploring how emotional resilience becomes the bridge between hardship and healing. She and Abbie reflect on the importance of developing self-awareness, healthy coping tools, and supportive connections that allow people to bounce back from life's challenges. Together, they emphasize that resilience isn't about never breaking down — it's about learning, adapting, and rebuilding stronger each time. Their conversation reminds listeners that embracing their unique emotional fingerprint is the key to genuine growth and connection

We love you, until next time!

Hi to all of our beautiful listeners!

On todays show we discuss Safety First and building a path to freedom of Domestic Violence.

This topic is close to us, its part of our story that we have lived through relationships where our safety was not always guaranteed. We know what it feels like to be scared, to be unsure and to whisper to ourselves, " How do I even start to leave?"

Take a deep breath, your in the right place, you are not alone.

A safety plan is a lifeline. A personalized strategy that helps you stay safe, before, during and after you leave and you dont have to create this alone, there are advocates and others that can help you.

We talk about code words and creating a "GO" bag and shelters that exist everywhere. Stashing cash, making copies of documents. You might never need it, but IF the moment comes, you will be ready.

Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline, it is also a lifeline at 800-799- SAFE (7233)

You can also text "START" to 88788, its free, confidential and available 24/7. You are not committing to anything, your gathering needed information, quietly building your next steps.

You are Worth

You are Loved

You are not alone.

On todays episode of Invincible Her, Abbie and I talk to our dear friend Nicole! We all have worked together and became really good friends. Its been such a long timce since the three of us were together and hung and and chatted.

We talk to Nicole about being a woman in a male dominated work world and how she found her voice but not only her voice, how she found herself. We are all still finding our true selves, but Nicole is at her best self today.

We talk about being a single mom, divorce and making ends meet to support your kids. You have to do what you have to do. She did it, and more.

Listen in and enjoy our catch up and a hint at a possible podcast for "worst dates ever"? That is hilarious and will definately be a thing!

Remember...be Invincible and unapologetically YOU!

Hi loves! On todays brand new episode Abbi and I discuss our new branding to Invincible Her. We are still empowering women, girls, basically everybody!

We talk about why we think we can talk about this subject and just becasue you may have a degree doesnt make you an expert, but life does.

I love Abbie so much! We are definately no experts on any subject but we lived through so much stuff and navigated our way to the other side, bruises and bumps along the way.

Enjoy!