Everyone says they’re “setting boundaries.”

Most people are actually just repeating requests and hoping harder.

In this episode of MetaTherapy, we break down why boundaries keep “not working,” how they quietly turn into power struggles, and what boundaries actually are when you strip away the Instagram therapy language.

You’ll learn:

• The difference between requests, boundaries, and ultimatums

• Why explaining your boundary often makes it weaker

• What enforcing a boundary really looks like (and why it feels awful at first)

• How resentment is usually a boundary that never got enforced

We also respond to a real Reddit question about disrespect in relationships and introduce a new way for listeners to submit follow-up questions from past episodes.

If you’ve ever thought, “I communicated clearly… so why does this keep happening?”

This episode is for you.

🔗 Find tools to bring this work into therapy at metatherapy.guide

📩 Send questions or episode follow-ups to dominic@metatherapy.guide

Like the episode, leave a comment, and let us know what landed—or what you’re still wrestling with.

Insight is just the beginning. Change is the part we don’t romanticize.

You understand your patterns.

You know where they come from.

You’ve had the aha moments.

So why does it still feel like nothing is actually changing?

In this episode, we unpack one of the most misunderstood truths about therapy: insight is necessary—but it isn’t change. Understanding yourself doesn’t automatically rewire your nervous system, build new skills, or make discomfort disappear.

We talk about:

• Why awareness alone doesn’t change behavior

• What neuroscience says about real, lasting change

• The moment in therapy where people often think it’s “not working”

• A real Reddit question from someone stuck between insight and action

• What actually helps insight turn into growth

If you’re starting a new year feeling clearer—but still stuck—this episode is for you.

If this resonated, consider rating the episode or leaving a comment. Hearing from you genuinely helps me feel less alone in this work.

Wishing you a grounded, honest New Year.

Ever left therapy thinking, “Can you just tell me what to do?”

You’re not alone—and you’re not wrong for wanting that.

In this episode of MetaTherapy, we unpack why therapists often refuse to give direct advice, why that can feel frustrating or unhelpful, and what’s actually happening beneath the surface of those conversations.

We’ll talk about:

• The fundamental difference between advice and therapeutic support

• How advice can accidentally undermine agency and long-term change

• What therapists are trained to do instead (and why it works)

• How to ask for clarity in therapy without outsourcing your life

If you’ve ever wondered whether a therapist’s refusal to “just tell you” is a red flag—or part of the work—this episode is for you.

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Host: Dominic Gadoury, LCSW

Show: MetaTherapy

Production: The Robinhood Project

Sponsor: LSP.NYC

Music: Original intro/outro music licensed for MetaTherapy

Editing & Production Support: MetaTherapy Team