If you’ve been trying to “fix” yourself for years… this episode might change everything.

So much of the emotional wellness space is focused on one thing:

Getting rid of what’s wrong.

The anxiety.

The stress.

The overthinking.

The guilt.

The burnout.

The trauma.

And while support matters, here’s what’s missing:

You cannot build a thriving life by only trying to eliminate what hurts.

In this episode, I’m teaching a core concept I walk my private clients through — the emotional teeter-totter — and why balance, not eradication, is the real goal.

Because life is 50/50.

Your brain is wired to scan for danger.

And trying to remove every uncomfortable emotion will keep you stuck in survival mode.

Instead, we need to learn how to build the other side.

Joy.

Pleasure.

Excitement.

Belonging.

Desire.

Purpose.

When you intentionally build those, everything changes.

1. Why “fixing yourself” can actually make you feel worse
2. How self-help sometimes overemphasizes what’s broken
3. The 50/50 nature of emotional life (and why it’s normal)
4. How your primitive brain keeps you in survival mode
5. The emotional teeter-totter analogy that explains everything
6. Why eliminating stress isn’t the goal
7. How to build emotional capacity instead of avoidance
8. The difference between tolerating emotions and processing them
9. Why creating joy is a skill (not a luxury)
10. How doing hard, scary things on purpose builds empowerment
11. Why pleasure, excitement, and fulfillment are your responsibility

Your life won’t feel better because you finally eliminate anxiety.

It will feel better because you’ve learned how to:

1. Feel anxiety without collapsing
2. Create joy on purpose
3. Build balance instead of chasing perfection
4. Empower yourself emotionally

You don’t need to become stress-free.

You need to become emotionally stronger and more intentional about building what you want.

If this resonates and you want help applying this to your real life:

📍 Book a consultation: amandahess.ca/bookacall

You don’t have to keep running on the “fixing” treadmill.

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Hey my beautiful friend… I can’t believe I’m saying this, but welcome to Episode 300.

When I started this podcast, I had no idea if anyone would listen… or if I’d even keep going. But here we are — and today I want to revisit the most important message I’ve ever shared:

Loving yourself no matter what is the key to everything.

Because self-love isn’t about bubble baths or positive affirmations.

It’s about learning how to be safe with yourself.

It’s about learning how to support yourself when you’re struggling… how to regulate your nervous system… how to stop spiraling into shame… and how to stop living your life trying to earn love from everyone else.

In this episode, I’m walking you through where the message of Love Yourself No Matter What came from, why it matters so deeply, how it actually works, and how to begin implementing it in your real life — even if you feel like you’ve tried everything.

This is the foundation of emotional healing, confidence, boundaries, and true inner peace.

And if you’ve been feeling stuck, anxious, lonely, reactive, exhausted, or like something is “wrong” with you…

This episode is for you.

1. Why self-love is still deeply misunderstood
2. The difference between being loving vs. being permissive
3. Why so many people feel anxious, lonely, and emotionally exhausted
4. How perfectionism and pressure keep you stuck
5. My personal rock bottom — and what I was told about myself
6. How nervous system sensitivity can be mistaken for “something wrong with you”
7. Why learning to love yourself creates emotional safety
8. The “abused puppy” metaphor that explains healing perfectly
9. How self-love helps you stop procrastinating, people pleasing, and spiraling
10. Why your life becomes unrecognizable when you stop abandoning yourself
11. How to start practicing loving yourself daily (even when you don’t feel lovable)

If you want support implementing this work in your life, I’d love to talk with you.

📍 Book a call here: amandahess.ca/bookacall

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