Have you ever tried to change something in your life, only to find yourself slipping back into the same thoughts, feelings or behaviours?

We often focus on the result we want to change. We tell ourselves we need to behave differently, try harder or make better choices. But what if the result we can see is actually the end of a much deeper sequence?

In this episode of Growing Plants, Growing People, Kristian and Daniel explore the connection between our programming, beliefs, attitudes, feelings, actions and ultimately the results we create.

Drawing on the pioneering work of Dr Shad Helmstetter, they work backwards from the results we experience to explore where those results really begin — and why changing our actions alone may not always create lasting change.

In this episode you will discover:

• How programming creates beliefs, beliefs create attitudes, attitudes create feelings, feelings influence actions, and actions create results
• Why a belief doesn't necessarily have to be objectively true for it to influence the way you live
• How the things you believe about yourself can affect the opportunities you take — or avoid
• Why repeatedly trying to change a result may mean you're starting at the wrong end of the sequence
• How to work backwards from a result and become curious about what may be driving it
• Why understanding your programming can give you a very different place from which to begin creating change

Free Growing Plants, Growing People Reflective Worksheet

We've created a free reflective worksheet to accompany this episode and help you explore the ideas for yourself.

Choose one result in your life that you'd like to understand better and use the worksheet to work backwards through the sequence — exploring the actions, feelings, attitudes and beliefs that may be sitting behind it, before considering the programming that may have helped shape those beliefs.

You don't need to change everything at once. Start with one result and get curious about where it really began.

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Where Your Results Really Begin Reflective Worksheet

And there's something special coming next.

After six episodes exploring the foundations of Self-Talk, Kristian and Daniel will be joined in the next episode by Dr Shad Helmstetter, widely recognised for his pioneering work in Self-Talk, for a special conversation about the story behind the work and what decades of studying Self-Talk have taught him.

The most important conversation you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself. Make it count.

Have you ever noticed how one thought can quickly lead to another — particularly when something goes wrong?

In this episode of Growing Plants, Growing People, Kristian and Daniel explore what happens when the messages we repeatedly give ourselves become familiar patterns, and how those patterns can influence the way we interpret situations, respond to experiences and ultimately behave.

Daniel introduces the memorable Golden Brain illustration to help explain how the programming we accumulate can influence the messages our brain feeds back to us. We also explore the extraordinary number of thoughts we may experience across a lifetime — and why the goal isn't to make every thought positive, but to become more aware of the messages we repeatedly reinforce.

In this episode you will discover:

• How repeated thoughts can become familiar patterns
• What the feedback loop is and why it matters
• How existing programming can influence the way we interpret new experiences
• The Golden Brain illustration and what it can teach us about the messages we repeatedly reinforce
• Why two people can experience a similar situation yet respond very differently
• The important difference between what happened and the story we tell ourselves about what happened
• Why Self-Talk isn't about pretending everything is wonderful or denying reality
• Why you don't need to control every thought to begin changing the patterns you reinforce
• How the brain's ability to learn and adapt gives us the opportunity to begin strengthening different patterns

The thoughts and messages you've repeated in the past may help explain some of the patterns you experience today — but they don't have to decide the patterns you create next.

And as we prepare for Episode 006, we'll begin connecting those patterns to something even bigger: how programming creates beliefs, beliefs create attitudes, attitudes create feelings, feelings determine actions, and actions create results.

Free Growing Plants, Growing People Reflective Worksheet

Want to take today's conversation a little further?

We've created a free Growing Plants, Growing People Reflective Worksheet to accompany this episode, helping you notice some of the messages you repeatedly give yourself and begin exploring the patterns behind your own Self-Talk.

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Episode 005 Reflective Worksheet

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Because the most important conversation you'll ever have, is the one you have with yourself.

Make it count.

Have you ever discovered a great idea, started with every intention of sticking with it...and then watched everyday life get in the way?

In this episode of Growing Plants, Growing People, Kristian and Daniel explore why struggling to maintain a new habit, goal or personal-development practice doesn’t necessarily mean you lack commitment or discipline.

Every attempt to change has to compete for three limited resources: our time, our physical energy and our mental energy.

Through the story of Dr Shad Helmstetter’s own experience with goal setting, along with a rather familiar gardening analogy, we discover why even a good idea can gradually become another chore — and why having the right tools can make all the difference.

In this episode you’ll discover:

• Why even good ideas can become difficult to maintain when everyday life gets in the way
• Why time, physical energy and mental energy all influence our ability to stick with something
• Why struggling to maintain a new practice doesn’t necessarily mean you lack commitment or discipline
• The three important requirements for a personal-growth approach that is going to survive the realities of everyday life:
  • It needs to be simple
  • It needs to be easy to use
  • And when you put it into practice, it needs to work
    
    

Perhaps the question isn’t:

“Why can’t I stick with it?”

Perhaps there’s a better question:

“Am I using the right tool?”

Free Growing Plants, Growing People Reflective Worksheet

We’ve created a free reflective worksheet to accompany this episode and help you explore how these ideas apply to your own life.

Use it to consider the things you’ve tried to introduce or maintain, what may have made them difficult to stick with, and whether the tools or approaches you’ve been using are realistic for the time, physical energy and mental energy available to you.

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Why Good Ideas Are So Hard to Stick With Reflective Worksheet

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Bonus Reflective Worksheet

Listen now and continue the journey as we explore how lasting change really happens.

Growing Plants, Growing People — because the principles that help gardens flourish are often the very same principles that help people grow.

Have you ever read an inspiring book, listened to a great speaker, or discovered an idea that made you think, “This is going to change everything”—only to find yourself slipping back into familiar habits a few weeks later?

If the advice was good and you genuinely wanted to change, why didn't it last?

In Episode 003 of the Growing Plants, Growing People Foundation Series, Kristian and Daniel explore why information, inspiration and good intentions aren't always enough to create lasting change. They look beneath the surface at the programming already influencing the way we think, feel and act, and introduce the three necessary ingredients for lasting change.

Drawing on Kristian's experiences from more than forty years in horticulture and mentoring, alongside Daniel's coaching and Self-Talk perspective, they discover a principle that applies equally to plants and people: lasting growth requires the right conditions.

Perhaps the problem was never that the advice was wrong. Perhaps we were simply expecting good advice to overcome years of existing programming.

And once we understand that we can begin approaching change very differently.

In this episode you'll discover:

• Why inspiration can feel powerful but still fade
• Why knowing what to do doesn't necessarily mean we'll do it
• How existing programming can compete with new ideas
• The three necessary ingredients for lasting change
• Why understanding how change happens can replace frustration with hope

Free Growing Plants, Growing People Reflective Worksheet

We've created a free reflection worksheet to accompany this episode and help you explore the ideas we've discussed. Use it to reflect on the times you've felt inspired to make a change, what helped that change last, and where old patterns may have quietly returned.

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Why Good Advice Isn't Enough Reflective Worksheet

Because yesterday doesn't have to decide tomorrow.

Growing Plants, Growing People — where we discover that the principles which help gardens flourish are often the very same principles that help people grow.

Where did the beliefs you have about yourself actually come from?

None of us is born believing we're not good enough, not confident enough, or incapable of achieving something. Yet somewhere along the way, experiences, conversations and repeated messages can begin to shape what we believe about ourselves—and eventually those messages can become part of our own self-talk.

In Episode 002 of the Foundation Series, Kristian and Daniel build on the ideas introduced in Self-Talk Park and explore how our early experiences and repeated messages can gradually influence the paths we follow.

Using real-life coaching experiences and the world of gardening, they explore why two people can begin with similar potential yet develop very different beliefs about what they're capable of.

You'll discover why some of the things you regard as facts about yourself may actually be well-practised thoughts—and why recognising where those beliefs came from can be the beginning of something very different.

Because you weren't born believing the things that now hold you back.

And yesterday doesn't have to decide tomorrow.

In this episode:

• How repeated messages can become beliefs
• Why encouragement and criticism can shape the paths we follow
• How other people's voices can gradually become our own self-talk
• Why limiting beliefs can begin to feel like facts
• What gardening can teach us about potential, environment and growth
• Why recognising an old belief is the first step towards changing it

Free Growing Plants, Growing People Reflective Worksheet

We've created a free reflective worksheet to accompany this episode and help you take the conversation a little further.

It will help you begin identifying some of the messages and beliefs that may have shaped your own thinking, giving you an opportunity to reflect on where they came from and which ones you may still be carrying today.

Download your free Growing Plants, Growing People Reflective Worksheet using the link below:

The Two Paths We Can Follow Reflective Worksheet

The conversation continues:
Whose voice do you still hear when you make a mistake?

Growing Plants, Growing People — where we discover that the principles which help gardens flourish are often the very same principles that help people grow.

What if the most important conversation influencing your life is one that nobody else can hear?

Every day, we talk to ourselves.

Sometimes we’re aware of it. Often, we’re not.

But the words, thoughts and messages we repeatedly give ourselves can influence the way we think, how we feel, the choices we make and ultimately the results we create.

In Episode 001 of Growing Plants, Growing People, Kristian and Daniel begin the Foundation Series by opening the door into the fascinating world of Self-Talk.

Through the idea of Self-Talk Park, they begin exploring what Self-Talk actually is, where those internal conversations come from and why becoming aware of them matters.

This isn’t about trying to make every thought positive or pretending that difficulties don’t exist.

It’s about beginning to notice the conversation that is already taking place.

In this episode you’ll discover:

• What we mean when we talk about Self-Talk
• Why the conversations we have with ourselves matter
• How the messages we repeatedly give ourselves can influence the way we think, feel and act
• Why much of our Self-Talk can happen without us consciously noticing it
• Why becoming aware of our internal conversation is an important first step
• How understanding Self-Talk begins to open the door to understanding ourselves

And perhaps most importantly, we begin with a simple idea that will run throughout Growing Plants, Growing People:

The most important conversation you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself.

Free Reflective Worksheet

We’ve created a free reflective worksheet to accompany Episode 001 and help you take the conversation a little further.

It gives you an opportunity to pause, reflect and begin noticing some of the conversations you have with yourself and how those messages may be influencing the way you think.

Download your free Growing Plants Growing People Reflective Worksheet here:

Self-Talk Park Reflective Worksheet

This is only the beginning.

In Episode 002 — The Two Paths We Can Follow — we’ll begin exploring where some of the beliefs we carry about ourselves actually come from.

Growing Plants, Growing People — where we discover that the principles which help gardens flourish are often the very same principles that help people grow.

The most important conversation you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. Make it count.

What if the principles that help gardens flourish are often the very same principles that help people grow?

Welcome to Growing Plants, Growing People — a podcast about growth, potential and one of the most important influences on the way we think, feel, act and ultimately the results we create: the way we talk to ourselves.

Kristian brings more than forty years of experience in horticulture, alongside over two decades helping people build confidence, develop skills and overcome limitations. Daniel brings his experience in coaching and Self-Talk.

Together, they explore the fascinating connections between growing plants and growing people — and how understanding the conversations we have with ourselves can help us better understand the beliefs, attitudes and patterns that influence our lives.

Throughout the podcast, you’ll discover practical ideas, thought-provoking conversations, personal stories and opportunities to pause and reflect on your own experiences.

Because growth doesn’t happen by accident.

Whether we’re growing plants or growing people, understanding what is happening beneath the surface can change what becomes possible above it.

Join Kristian and Daniel for Growing Plants, Growing People.

The podcast where we discover that the principles which help gardens flourish are often the very same principles that help people grow.

And remember:

The most important conversation you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. Make it count.