Have you ever tried to change something in your life, only to find yourself slipping back into the same thoughts, feelings or behaviours?

We often focus on the result we want to change. We tell ourselves we need to behave differently, try harder or make better choices. But what if the result we can see is actually the end of a much deeper sequence?

In this episode of Growing Plants, Growing People, Kristian and Daniel explore the connection between our programming, beliefs, attitudes, feelings, actions and ultimately the results we create.

Drawing on the pioneering work of Dr Shad Helmstetter, they work backwards from the results we experience to explore where those results really begin — and why changing our actions alone may not always create lasting change.

In this episode you will discover:

• How programming creates beliefs, beliefs create attitudes, attitudes create feelings, feelings influence actions, and actions create results
• Why a belief doesn't necessarily have to be objectively true for it to influence the way you live
• How the things you believe about yourself can affect the opportunities you take — or avoid
• Why repeatedly trying to change a result may mean you're starting at the wrong end of the sequence
• How to work backwards from a result and become curious about what may be driving it
• Why understanding your programming can give you a very different place from which to begin creating change

Free Growing Plants, Growing People Reflective Worksheet

We've created a free reflective worksheet to accompany this episode and help you explore the ideas for yourself.

Choose one result in your life that you'd like to understand better and use the worksheet to work backwards through the sequence — exploring the actions, feelings, attitudes and beliefs that may be sitting behind it, before considering the programming that may have helped shape those beliefs.

You don't need to change everything at once. Start with one result and get curious about where it really began.

Download your free Growing Plants, Growing People Reflective Worksheet here:

Where Your Results Really Begin Reflective Worksheet

And there's something special coming next.

After six episodes exploring the foundations of Self-Talk, Kristian and Daniel will be joined in the next episode by Dr Shad Helmstetter, widely recognised for his pioneering work in Self-Talk, for a special conversation about the story behind the work and what decades of studying Self-Talk have taught him.

The most important conversation you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself. Make it count.