Are you going through life on cruise control? When you have no mission, life decides for you. You have a bad day, porn shows up as an option, and you’re just reacting.

In this episode, Richard Young explains why every man needs a mission. It can’t be about getting married or about your future wife. It has to go deeper. When your mission is to “become what He paid for,” or to live and love in freedom, a lot of daily decisions get made for you. Porn stops being an option because you’re not here to hang out in lust. You’re here to move forward.

Rich covers:

• Why a mission built around marriage or a spouse won’t hold
• How intention makes your decisions before temptation shows up
• Why “I’ll try” is a sign you have no real purpose (“Do or do not. There is no try.”)
• Romans 6 and why a man who died to sin doesn’t keep living in it
• Living by truth instead of feelings
• Why a man on a mission draws others in, including a future spouse

The goal was never just to stop looking at porn. The goal is to live with purpose and intention, as a city on a hill, salt of the earth, becoming love.

The episode closes with a prayer for purpose and mission.

Most men trying to quit porn end up in one of two ditches. In the first, you’re buried in guilt, condemnation, and shame: “This is who I am, and I’m toast.” In the second, you’ve swung the other way: “God’s grace is enough, so I don’t really need to deal with this.” Neither one leads to freedom.

In this episode, Rich walks through Romans 6:1–2 and 6:13–14, where Paul answers the same question many men are quietly asking: “Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound?” His answer is “By no means.” The gospel doesn’t make you better at struggling. It gives you freedom.

You’ll hear:

• Why shame can’t break an addiction, and why “God loves me anyway” can’t either
• What the middle lane looks like: setting your mind on the Spirit and living like you’re new
• The practical side of freedom, including feeling and regulating your emotions and noticing old thought patterns as they come up
• Why your testimony doesn’t have to be a lifelong struggle against sin

Rich closes with a prayer asking God to show you where you haven’t yet believed what Christ has already done for you.

Freedom is your new normal.

You’ve tried to cut off the fruit, but the root is still there. In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard Young goes through John 8:43–44, where Jesus calls the devil “a liar and the father of lies.” He shows how every bad behavior grows out of a lie you believe.

Many Christian men believe Jesus and still hold on to the enemy’s lies. “I’ll always be an addict.” “Sin doesn’t really hurt me.” “I’ll never be enough.” “I’m not worthy of love.” These lies bring guilt, shame and condemnation. They stir up your emotions until you want to escape, and that escape often leads back to porn. You aren’t in the flesh anymore, and you aren’t sold under sin. When you believe you are, you keep doing the very thing that’s destroying you.

In this episode:

• Why behavior comes from what you believe, and why “the truth will set you free” (John 8:32)
• How the enemy uses guilt, shame and condemnation to work on your emotions
• Why walking in the Spirit (Galatians 5:16) is living from your new heart, not trying harder
• A key question to ask the Holy Spirit: What lie is leading me into this behavior?
• A guided prayer asking God to show you the lies about your worth, your value and your salvation so you can reject them and walk in the truth

Freedom starts when you live from forgiveness, because living from forgiveness is living from the truth.

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Freedom is your new normal.