How to Find Peace When You Never Get an Apology or Explanation

Are you still waiting for that phone call? The one where you estranged loved one finally explains what happened, says they're sorry, or tells you they want to make things right?

Maybe you've imagined that conversation a hundred times. You've rehearsed what you would say, hoped for an explanation, and wondered if today might finally be the day.

But what happens when the phone doesn't ring? The text is ignored?

One of the hardest parts of family estrangement is living with unanswered questions. We can spend so much time waiting for someone else to do something and end up putting our own happiness and peace on hold.

In this episode of Estrangement: Turning Pain into Peace we're talking about what it means to let go of expectations, stop waiting for an apology or explanation, and begin putting your energy into the things you actually can control.

Moving forward doesn't mean you no longer love that person. It doesn't mean you've closed the door on reconciliation. It simply means you're choosing not to spend another day standing in the doorway waiting for someone else to open it.

Find the full transcript for this episode at https://BeckyKolb.com/86

What do you struggle with most in family estrangement? What topic would you like to hear? Send me a text.

A little more help for you

If you're struggling with the pain of family estrangement, I've created a free guide, 5 Things to Do When a Loved One Walks Away. It offers practical steps to help you begin moving forward.

Download your free guide at https://beckykolb.com/guide

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I'm Becky Kolb, a Certified online Life Coach specializing in family estrangement coaching for women. i help women find peace and begin living meaningful lives, even when someone they love is no longer part of their life.

You can become whole even when the relationship isn't.

Becky Kolb is a Certified Life Coach specializing in Family Estrangement. Although you can't control another person's choices about reconciliation, you can control you so that it doesn't define your whole life. You can leave the door open without standing in the doorway and discover peace to live joyfully - even amid estrangement.

Download the free guide to "Things to Do When A Loved One Walks Away" at www.beckykolb.com/guide

I offer a 30 minute free conversation to answer your questions about coaching, explain how I can help you discover wholeness and peace with coaching. It's a no-pressure and no-obligation conversation. www.beckykolb.com/consultation

What do you struggle with most in family estrangement? What topic would you like to hear? Send me a text.

Becky Kolb is a Certified Life Coach specializing in Family Estrangement. Although you can't control another person's choices about reconciliation, you can control you so that it doesn't define your whole life. You can leave the door open without standing in the doorway and discover peace to live joyfully - even amid estrangement.

Download the free guide to "Things to Do When A Loved One Walks Away" at www.beckykolb.com/guide

I offer a 30 minute free conversation to answer your questions about coaching, explain how I can help you discover wholeness and peace with coaching. It's a no-pressure and no-obligation conversation. www.beckykolb.com/consultation

Waiting for your estranged one to change is often postponing your own life.

When someone you love walks away, waiting can become a way of life.

You wait for the phone to ring.

You check your texts.

You wonder if today might be the day you hear from them.

A birthday comes around and you wonder if they'll reach out. Then a holiday. Then another birthday.

And somewhere along the way, without even realizing it, you can begin putting your own life on hold.

I understand why.

When a relationship is important to us, we want to fix it. We think if we can just find the right words, give it enough time, apologize one more time, explain ourselves better or reach out at just the right moment, maybe things will change.

Hope isn't a bad thing. I don't believe you have to give up hope for reconciliation.

But there is a difference between having hope and living in waiting.

And sometimes that difference is hard to see.

Find the full transcript for this episode and resources for women navigating family estrangement at beckykolb.com/85

What do you struggle with most in family estrangement? What topic would you like to hear? Send me a text.

Becky Kolb is a Certified Life Coach specializing in Family Estrangement. Although you can't control another person's choices about reconciliation, you can control you so that it doesn't define your whole life. You can leave the door open without standing in the doorway and discover peace to live joyfully - even amid estrangement.

Download the free guide to "Things to Do When A Loved One Walks Away" at www.beckykolb.com/guide

I offer a 30 minute free conversation to answer your questions about coaching, explain how I can help you discover wholeness and peace with coaching. It's a no-pressure and no-obligation conversation. www.beckykolb.com/consultation