“This is not something I ever thought I would do.”

So begins Kubir's story of moving from a spacious one-bedroom apartment in SF to Radish, a 13-person cohousing community in the East Bay.

“As I was getting older, my friends were getting partnered off,” he shared, and talked about his dating experiences before living in community as, in part, a way of experiencing companionship.

His is a unique perspective because he never thought he'd end up not only living in community, but dating while recently moving in, and having to answer questions to his new love partner about his motivations.

Now his wife is more than just on board -- she's in partnership with him around collaborating with others to create another cohousing community.

So what's it like dating in community, getting married in community, and then having a baby? Listen for all that and more!

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Ready to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I can help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

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• Supernuclear Substack
• CoHoUS (The Cohousing Association of the United States)
• The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life With Friendship at the Center -- book by Rhaina Cohen
• Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life -- book by Amy Gahran
• DM 242: Stepping off the Relationship Escalator (with Amy Gahran)
• LiveNearFriends.com -- You've thought about it. What's stopping you?

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• “Even with your best friend, you schedule dinner three weeks out.”
• “It was like, ‘Cool, that’s for you, but that’s not for people like me.’”
• “We buy our own loneliness.”
• “I moved in in the middle of Covid and it… was… awesome.”
• “I can’t think of any other decision that has impacted my day-to-day happiness in a positive way than moving into Radish.”
• “The things I was afraid of happening — I wouldn’t have any privacy; I wouldn’t have enough personal space — didn’t happen.”
• “I’m constantly meeting new people.”
• “Being in orbit with other people is such a healthy thing from a relational standpoint.”
• “You get to see yourself reflected in other people.”

“The gym can be a very scary place.”

Ever been intimidated by the idea of working out -- and in particular, lifting weights? Then you're in very good company. Fortunately, as fitness expert Mike Bledsoe puts it, "95% of people in the gym are also insecure."

Here we delve right into both the insecurity (and how to overcome it), as well as why Bledsoe, who has trained professional athletes, Navy SEALs, and other fitness experts, prefers to work with beginners.

We talk about how to naturally boost your T levels (easier than you think!), the specific way our physical bodies store our "stuff" (and how to move it), and how to get started if you're not sure what to do first.

We also touch on questions like:

• Is keto really worth it? (What should you actually pay attention to in nutrition trends?)
• How do you safely start lifting weights (without injuring yourself), especially if you're over 50?
• How do you best integrate from deep emotional release work (including psychedelics) in a physical way?
• What kind of stretches are best?

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Ready to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I can help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

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• The ELDOA method (stretching and myofascial release)
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• "I started asking, 'Why did I get injured?'
• “If I’m really fit, then I’ll finally feel loved.”
• “[My clients] would hide their pain from me.”
• “If you want to increase your testosterone, squat heavy once a week and get in a cold plunge.”
• “If you have tightness in your body, you have emotional stuff going on.”
• “About half of my time spent on my body is stretching … and I don’t get hurt anymore.”
• “No matter where you’re at, you require mentorship and guidance.”
• “Pay attention to every single win.”

Do any of these apply to you?:

• You used to have a good sex life with your partner, but now it has flatlined
• You're in a sexless marriage but at a loss with respect to how to even bring this up with your woman (or you've tried in the past and it went poorly)
• You fear never having passionate, connected sex again

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These are all common patterns we see in our practice.

Here we outline the 5 most common reasons we've seen for this pattern, and some stories of men who've done the work and now have vibrant, thriving sex lives. Passion is possible!

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Ready to go deeper than the podcast and take action? Jason and I can help you break old patterns and transform your sex & love life for good. To see if you're a fit for our flagship program, Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

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• DM 222: Are you using your woman for sex?
• DM 217: When sex is about more than just the sex
• DM 358: Do you trust men?
• DM 103: Reverse polarity can kill your sex life as a couple -- you need to know about this
• DM 262: Are you lonely?
• DM 1: What if sex hurts for your partner or she doesn't want it? A woman opens up about her experience

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• “Your relationship is flat.”
• “I’m gonna ask in a way I can’t be rejected.”
• “‘I tend to wait for the signal.’”
• “I’ve neglected my partner before.”
• “For a lot of guys, ejaculation is how they deal with tension in their bodies.”
• “One of the most painful ways we’ve seen this show up is when this wasn’t clear when they got married.”
• “'I want to feel your desire to be close to me, to know my heart, to know my feelings.'”
• “This is her strongest aphrodisiac!”
• “I’m getting off all the feelings I don’t want to feel.”
• “It’s not so much what we’re doing, but how we’re being.”
• “The pathway to the change you want comes from being honest.”
• “It can change — that’s the good news.”