Candid Conversations is a space for thoughtful, honest dialogue about deconstruction, healing, nervous system awareness, spirituality beyond control, and what it means to live with compassion and curiosity after certainty falls away. These conversations aren’t about answers—they’re about presence, reflection, and shared humanity.In this episode, we explore an honest and sometimes uncomfortable question:
Is sharing our deconstruction experience just a new form of evangelizing?We reflect on how, in evangelical Christianity, we were often taught that sharing our beliefs was loving and necessary—even when, in hindsight, it meant trying to fit others into a specific mold.Now, on the other side of deconstruction, many of us still feel a pull to share what we’ve learned. But where does that impulse come from?We discuss the difference between:

• Sharing from programming vs sharing from empathy
  
• Forcing certainty vs offering lived experience
  
• Evangelism rooted in fear vs connection rooted in compassion
  

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Rather than saying, “This is the truth and you must accept it,” today’s sharing often sounds more like: “Here’s what we found. It helped us. It might help you too.”We also talk about why making ourselves visible—without pushing, convincing, or persuading—is fundamentally different from evangelical outreach. People find us because they’re already looking, already questioning, already hurting.At its core, this conversation asks whether what we’re doing now is about belief at all—or about oneness, humanity, and reducing suffering.If you’re navigating deconstruction and finding your voice again—at your own pace—you’re not alone.
Candid Conversations exists to remind you that healing doesn’t require certainty, just honesty and compassion. If you’re looking for support, reflection, or nervous-system-informed guidance, you’re welcome to explore Candace’s work through CandidCoachingCo.comDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or mental health care.Hashtags:#candidconversations #deconstructionjourney #exvangelical #faithafterdeconstruction #spiritualdeconstruction #religioushealing #authenticspirituality #collectivehealing #oneness #empathyoverdogma #spiritualawakening
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In this episode of the Dan & Can Podcast, we take a closer look at the verse “He must increase, but I must decrease”—and how it’s often taught in Christianity as a call to erase yourself in order to glorify God.We explore how this verse has been used to shame authenticity, suppress individuality, and keep people safely inside rigid religious and cultural boundaries. Instead of encouraging growth, curiosity, or self-trust, many of us were taught that becoming less—quieter, smaller, more compliant—was the goal.But what if “decreasing” was never about self-erasure?What if it was about releasing outdated systems, rigid laws, and old survival patterns—so that your true self could finally emerge?We also widen the lens beyond religion, looking at how any system—religious, cultural, or social—can discourage authenticity by labeling it unsafe or wrong. Stepping outside the familiar often activates the nervous system, because the body naturally resists the unknown. That doesn’t mean it’s dangerous—it means it’s new.In this conversation, we talk about:

• How self-erasure became confused with holiness
• Why authenticity often feels unsafe at first
• How the nervous system resists change before it learns safety
• Practical, gentle ways to build tolerance for discomfort
• Learning to question authority instead of automatically conforming
• Becoming more comfortable with being uncomfortable—without forcing or shaming yourself
  

This episode is for anyone navigating deconstruction, personal growth, or learning to trust themselves after years of being told who they should be.If this episode resonates and you’re learning how to reconnect with your authentic self after years of conditioning, you don’t have to do that work alone. You can learn more about working with Candace through Candid Hypnotherapy, where nervous-system-informed sessions help gently unwind old patterns and build internal safety.CandidCoachingCo.com🎧 Hashtags:#danandcanpodcast #candidconversations #candidcoaching #candidhypnotherapy #deconstruction #religiousdeconstruction #exchristian #faithdeconstruction #spiritualhealing #religioustrauma #authenticself #selferasure #nervoussystemhealing #questionauthority #healingjourney #spiritualgrowth #mindsetshift #selftrust #healingoutloud

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The Dan & Can Podcast is a candid, thoughtful space for people living in the in-between—after certainty, before answers. We talk openly about deconstruction, spirituality without control or shame, nervous system awareness, relationships, and learning how to live with nuance. Candace is a hypnotherapist and deconstruction coach who holds space for healing without telling people what to believe.Episode Description In this episode of Candid Conversations, we talk about spiritual bypassing—what it is, how it shows up in Christianity, and why it can quietly cause harm even when it sounds spiritual or well-intentioned.We explore how spiritual language is sometimes used to avoid discomfort, responsibility, or emotional reality, and how this pattern isn’t limited to Christianity—it can show up in any religious or spiritual system.This is a brief, accessible conversation meant to help listeners start recognizing the pattern, without shaming faith, spirituality, or the people who use it. Awareness is the first step.If this conversation resonated with you, you’re not alone.Candi works with individuals navigating deconstruction, nervous system healing, and rebuilding trust with themselves.Learn more or work with her at: CandidCoachingCo.comDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or mental health care.

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In this episode, Dan and Can discuss the second puberty that women go through, perimenopause/menopause.

This time can be trying not only for women but for the men who love them. It is good for all of us to discuss these natural, human experiences more. The more we know, the better we deal with whatever life brings our way.

So whatever sex you identify with, this one is for you. We are all human, and those of us with uteruses have a unique journey, but we don’t go through it alone, or at least we shouldn’t have to. Join us for a conversation all about the middle-age growth spurt we call menopause.

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In this episode of Candid Conversations, we explore a powerful and often overlooked pattern that shows up in religion, society, and our personal lives: expansion and contraction.Throughout history, humanity’s understanding of God, faith, and meaning has expanded—then narrowed—only to expand again. We see it in religion, we see it in cultural movements, and we see it in every human life stage. Growth always comes with discomfort, fear, and resistance… especially when our nervous systems are wired for the familiar.This conversation looks at:

• Why major belief systems become restrictive before they expand
• How deconstruction mirrors historical awakenings like the Enlightenment
• Why uncertainty feels threatening to our nervous system
• How personal growth follows the same uncomfortable pattern
• Why collective change has to feel chaotic before things improve
  

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If you’re feeling unsettled by the world right now, this episode offers a grounding perspective: this discomfort may be a sign of growth—not failure.We don’t pretend to have all the answers. Instead, we stay curious, honest, and human—together.You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You may simply be in the middle of an expansion.If this conversation resonates and you’d like support navigating change, nervous system regulation, or personal growth, you can work with me here: CandidCoachingCo.comDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or mental health care.

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Those of us who have experienced the hell that can sometimes be created when our faith deconstruction journey starts, know all to well what Kirk Cameron is facing when he speaks about doubting the Evangelical view of eternal torment. Evangelicalism hinges on fear of hell caused by our own sin nature, if you begin to doubt one, the other beliefs are soon to follow. This is how deconstruction works. Will Kirk respond with the courage to count the cost, pick up his cross, and deconstruct? Or will he be sucked back into the weak faith by the fear of the persecution that naturally comes with deconstruction? Only time will tell. Join Dan and Can while we discuss Cameron’s dilemma, Dante’s inferno, and admit to a few of our own sins.Work With CanAre you deconstructing and need a safe space to work through your thoughts, beliefs, and questions? Would you like more access to your subconscious to reprogram or break cycles? Then book a session with Can. She’s got a heart to serve, is willing to listen, and will hold no judgment about where you’ve been. She’s just here to help.Book a private hypnotherapy session here: CandidCoachingCo.com🎧

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In Evangelical Christianity, “me time” involved spending time alone with god to read, pray, and be convicted by the holy spirit. In deconstruction from religion, quiet time can become something you look forward to and grow from. The former encouraged pleasing god in hopes of an eternal reward and sometimes an earthly one. The latter encourages discovering self-pleasures in hopes of achieving a healthier mindset and, in turn, a blessing to all humanity.

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As the new year begins, the pressure to make resolutions is everywhere—but what if you didn’t have to?In this episode of the Dan & Can Podcast, we talk about a healthier, more authentic approach to New Year’s resolutions—one that actually works.We explore the difference between “should” resolutions and “want” resolutions, and why goals rooted in obligation, guilt, or fear rarely last. Whether it’s fitness, health, habits, or personal growth, resolutions stick better when they’re based on how you want to feel, not what you think you’re supposed to do.We also touch on how religious resolutions—like reading the Bible through or going to church more—often fail for the same reasons cultural resolutions do. The church and broader culture aren’t as different as we were taught, especially when it comes to motivation, shame, and productivity.In this conversation, we remind you:

• You are not required to set resolutions
• Failed resolutions can feel worse than none at all
• Resolutions can be set any time of year
• Starting small and making change enjoyable matters
• Authenticity applies to your goals too
  

If you do want to set a resolution, do it because you’re ready—not because the calendar says so.Happy New Year!Work With CanReal change doesn’t come from forcing yourself—it comes from feeling safe, supported, and ready. If you want help shifting old patterns and creating goals that feel aligned instead of exhausting, I offer private hypnotherapy sessions designed to work with your nervous system, not against it.Book a private session here: CandidCoachingCo.com🎧

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