Candid Conversations is a space for thoughtful, honest dialogue about deconstruction, healing, nervous system awareness, spirituality beyond control, and what it means to live with compassion and curiosity after certainty falls away. These conversations aren’t about answers—they’re about presence, reflection, and shared humanity.In this episode, we explore an honest and sometimes uncomfortable question:
Is sharing our deconstruction experience just a new form of evangelizing?We reflect on how, in evangelical Christianity, we were often taught that sharing our beliefs was loving and necessary—even when, in hindsight, it meant trying to fit others into a specific mold.Now, on the other side of deconstruction, many of us still feel a pull to share what we’ve learned. But where does that impulse come from?We discuss the difference between:

• Sharing from programming vs sharing from empathy
  
• Forcing certainty vs offering lived experience
  
• Evangelism rooted in fear vs connection rooted in compassion
  

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Rather than saying, “This is the truth and you must accept it,” today’s sharing often sounds more like: “Here’s what we found. It helped us. It might help you too.”We also talk about why making ourselves visible—without pushing, convincing, or persuading—is fundamentally different from evangelical outreach. People find us because they’re already looking, already questioning, already hurting.At its core, this conversation asks whether what we’re doing now is about belief at all—or about oneness, humanity, and reducing suffering.If you’re navigating deconstruction and finding your voice again—at your own pace—you’re not alone.
Candid Conversations exists to remind you that healing doesn’t require certainty, just honesty and compassion. If you’re looking for support, reflection, or nervous-system-informed guidance, you’re welcome to explore Candace’s work through CandidCoachingCo.comDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or mental health care.Hashtags:#candidconversations #deconstructionjourney #exvangelical #faithafterdeconstruction #spiritualdeconstruction #religioushealing #authenticspirituality #collectivehealing #oneness #empathyoverdogma #spiritualawakening
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In this episode of the Dan & Can Podcast, we take a closer look at the verse “He must increase, but I must decrease”—and how it’s often taught in Christianity as a call to erase yourself in order to glorify God.We explore how this verse has been used to shame authenticity, suppress individuality, and keep people safely inside rigid religious and cultural boundaries. Instead of encouraging growth, curiosity, or self-trust, many of us were taught that becoming less—quieter, smaller, more compliant—was the goal.But what if “decreasing” was never about self-erasure?What if it was about releasing outdated systems, rigid laws, and old survival patterns—so that your true self could finally emerge?We also widen the lens beyond religion, looking at how any system—religious, cultural, or social—can discourage authenticity by labeling it unsafe or wrong. Stepping outside the familiar often activates the nervous system, because the body naturally resists the unknown. That doesn’t mean it’s dangerous—it means it’s new.In this conversation, we talk about:

• How self-erasure became confused with holiness
• Why authenticity often feels unsafe at first
• How the nervous system resists change before it learns safety
• Practical, gentle ways to build tolerance for discomfort
• Learning to question authority instead of automatically conforming
• Becoming more comfortable with being uncomfortable—without forcing or shaming yourself
  

This episode is for anyone navigating deconstruction, personal growth, or learning to trust themselves after years of being told who they should be.If this episode resonates and you’re learning how to reconnect with your authentic self after years of conditioning, you don’t have to do that work alone. You can learn more about working with Candace through Candid Hypnotherapy, where nervous-system-informed sessions help gently unwind old patterns and build internal safety.CandidCoachingCo.com🎧 Hashtags:#danandcanpodcast #candidconversations #candidcoaching #candidhypnotherapy #deconstruction #religiousdeconstruction #exchristian #faithdeconstruction #spiritualhealing #religioustrauma #authenticself #selferasure #nervoussystemhealing #questionauthority #healingjourney #spiritualgrowth #mindsetshift #selftrust #healingoutloud

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The Dan & Can Podcast is a candid, thoughtful space for people living in the in-between—after certainty, before answers. We talk openly about deconstruction, spirituality without control or shame, nervous system awareness, relationships, and learning how to live with nuance. Candace is a hypnotherapist and deconstruction coach who holds space for healing without telling people what to believe.Episode Description In this episode of Candid Conversations, we talk about spiritual bypassing—what it is, how it shows up in Christianity, and why it can quietly cause harm even when it sounds spiritual or well-intentioned.We explore how spiritual language is sometimes used to avoid discomfort, responsibility, or emotional reality, and how this pattern isn’t limited to Christianity—it can show up in any religious or spiritual system.This is a brief, accessible conversation meant to help listeners start recognizing the pattern, without shaming faith, spirituality, or the people who use it. Awareness is the first step.If this conversation resonated with you, you’re not alone.Candi works with individuals navigating deconstruction, nervous system healing, and rebuilding trust with themselves.Learn more or work with her at: CandidCoachingCo.comDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and reflective purposes only and is not a substitute for medical or mental health care.

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Email us: Candace@DanandCan.com

Website: ⁠https://danandcan.com/⁠

YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBwo81prdWtTl29X5ffC73w

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Help w/Deconstruction: https://CandidCoachingCo.com