Welcome to another episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast with David! 🎙️ If you’re a man over 40 facing a high-conflict divorce, navigating a custody battle, or dealing with a narcissistic ex, this episode is your life raft. 🛟

Today, I’m joined by Chris and Lisa, founders of Been There, Got Out—internationally recognized strategists and survivors of their own chaotic divorces. They’ve seen it all: weaponized children, draining legal abuse, and exes who just won’t quit. If you’re dealing with a divorce that feels like psychological warfare, this is the conversation you can’t afford to miss.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• 🚩 Early Warning Signs: How to spot if your divorce is about to get ugly—before it’s too late.

• 💡 Biggest Mistakes Men Make: From trusting your ex too long, to underestimating legal games, to not documenting every detail.

• 📝 Documentation & Communication: Why “pause” is your new superpower and how to use strategic communication to stay out of your ex’s traps (and out of trouble in court).

• 👨‍👧‍👦 Co-Parenting Wisdom: How to support your kids and build a parenting plan that stands up—even against a high-conflict ex.

• ⚖️ Courtroom Survival: Debunking myths about family court, understanding judge bias, and presenting yourself like a pro.

• 🛠️ Gut-Punch Recovery: How to bounce back from setbacks and develop the marathon mindset needed to win the long game.

Chris and Lisa break down the real-world tactics they share with clients, from picking the right lawyer (it’s not just about “winning”) to setting boundaries and enforcing your rights. With their blend of hard-won wisdom, empathy, and humor, they’ll help you reclaim control, protect your kids, and move from survival to thriving.

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Why Watch?

If you’re sick of feeling powerless, confused, or isolated in your divorce recovery, this episode delivers practical tips without sugar-coating the realities men face. Chris offers the male perspective most divorce resources ignore, and Lisa’s teaching background brings clarity to even the most complicated legal messes.

Let’s Talk!

Have you experienced a high-conflict divorce or custody battle? What’s your biggest challenge right now? Drop a comment below with your story or question—let’s build a community where men support men through the toughest chapters. 👇

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Are you a man over 40 struggling to bounce back after divorce? You’re not alone—and you’re not broken. In this episode of the "Don't Pick the Scab" Podcast, host David sits down with acclaimed divorce recovery expert and bestselling author Raul T. Pereyra for a powerful, honest conversation about turning heartbreak into growth. 💥

Raul brings more than 15 years of experience helping men over 40 rise from the emotional chaos of divorce and reclaim their confidence, identity, and life purpose. Whether it’s dealing with loneliness, rebuilding self-trust, or figuring out how to date again (without using your ex’s Netflix password!), Raul has practical strategies and real-world wisdom to help you thrive.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why reframing your divorce story is the FIRST step to recovery (hint: it didn’t happen to you, it happened for you)

• The 80/20 principle for men’s healing: focusing on the 20% that truly matters and letting go of the baggage 🧳

• How to identify and break free from toxic patterns and old belief systems

• Setting boundaries that actually work—and empower you

• The emotional reset: why real change starts with feeling, not just thinking

• Key differences in emotional recovery for men vs. women (and why men often get stuck)

• How to rediscover self-love, self-respect, and self-compassion—“the three cousins” most men ignore

• Measuring your progress the right way: why chasing confidence or happiness is a trap, and what to do instead

• Turning your “bag” of pain into a jetpack for your next chapter! 🚀

PLUS: Raul shares a FREE 5-day “Tiny Challenge” for men ready to start their transformation. Want a roadmap to your new life? Head to https://www.rtplearning.com/tiny and join Raul’s exclusive challenge—no strings attached.

Whether you’re newly divorced or still struggling years later, this episode is packed with hope, humor, and actionable advice. Grab your coffee, get comfortable, and let’s dive into real recovery for real men.

👉 What’s your biggest challenge after divorce? Drop it in the comments below! Have you tried reframing your story or setting new boundaries? Let’s support each other—your experience could help another man heal.

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Welcome back to the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast! I’m David, and today we’re diving deep into the world of dating after divorce for men over 40. If you’re wondering how to rebuild your life, confidence, and identity after a breakup, you’re in the right place! 👊

Joining me is the amazing Dr. Hana Gala—a PhD in business management turned breakthrough neuro coach. Dr. Hana specializes in helping high-achieving men break free from limiting beliefs, conquer overthinking, and reclaim their power using Rapid Transformational Neuro Coaching (RTNC). Today, she shares brain hacks, practical tools, and mindset shifts to help you thrive in today’s wild dating world.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• Why most divorces are initiated by women—and what that means for your recovery

• How to stop repeating old relationship patterns and rebuild your identity as a man post-divorce

• Why men often jump into relationships too quickly, and how to avoid those traps 🚦

• The real deal about online dating in your 40s and 50s: Is it a blessing or a curse?

• How to filter out red flags, set healthy boundaries, and choose partners who are right for you (and your kids!)

• The importance of letting yourself grieve and reestablish your sense of self before dating again

• Why self-respect, self-confidence, and self-esteem (the “self-cousins”) are your best allies in finding love again

• How to handle realistic vs. unrealistic expectations in dating—and finally break the cycle of chasing the wrong type

• When and how to introduce your kids to a new partner (and why rushing this step can backfire)

• Pro tips for first dates: What not to talk about, how to spark real connection, and when to walk away 🚶‍♂️

Dr. Hana brings her no-nonsense, neuroscience-based approach to help you move from confusion and frustration to clarity and action. If you’re tired of feeling stuck, or if you keep attracting the same old drama, this conversation will help you hit reset and start attracting the kind of relationship you truly want.

Whether you’re just starting to think about dating again or you’ve already jumped back in and hit some bumps, this episode will give you the tools and confidence you need. Remember: your best days are still ahead! 🌅

💬 Let’s talk! What’s been the toughest part about dating after divorce for you? What questions do you want answered in Part 2? Drop your thoughts, stories, or questions in the comments below—I read every one and would love to hear from you! 👇

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