Do small things feel like big things?

Can a short text send you into a spiral?

Do you "lose" hours to rumination, scrolling, or shutdown?

You might be experiencing chronic nervous system dysregulation.

In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 clear signs your nervous system may be stuck in fight, flight, or freeze even if you're high-functioning and holding it all together on the outside.

There's a big difference between occasional stress and living in a constant stress response. When your nervous system is dysregulated, neutral feels threatening, small stressors feel catastrophic, and peace feels… temporary.

We're talking about:

• Why everything feels like a big deal

• What it means to "lose time" when triggered

• Why you can't let things go (even when you want to)

• How stress spills over and ruins your whole week

• Why your regulation tools feel fragile or short-lived

If you've ever thought:

• "Why do I overreact to small things?"

• "Why can't I stop ruminating?"

• "Why does everything feel overwhelming?"

• "Why do I feel stuck in fight or flight?"

This episode will help you understand what's actually happening inside your nervous system.

We also talk about the difference between trying to regulate your environment… and actually recalibrating your nervous system.

Because peace isn't something you achieve only when the entire world cooperates.

It's something you experience when your nervous system isn't on emergency duty 24/7.

If you're recognizing signs of chronic nervous system dysregulation in your own life, this is exactly the work we do inside Calm AF Life.

We don't just talk about tools.
We recalibrate your nervous system so peace becomes your baseline — not a temporary blip.

Join the interest list and learn how to regulate your nervous system on demand (without trying to manage everyone else's mood).

Because confidence, emotional stability, and peace live on the other side of a regulated nervous system.

If this episode resonated, share it with someone who needs to stop sending the hazmat team to every text message.

Other ways to get Calm AF:

Love Letters: Change takes consistency. If you'd love a gentle nudge each day to stay on track while you're creating new patterns, grab my Daily Love Letters

Calibration call: This isn't ongoing coaching. It's a single, focused recalibration session designed to get you clear when you find yourself stuck. Learn more here.

Private coaching: I work privately with a small number of clients who are tired of losing time and energy to overthinking, second-guessing, and energy managing. This is a high-level engagement for people who are operating at a high level and want to stop feeling like it's fragile. Find details and complete application here.

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Your nervous system is like an emergency dispatcher who's been on duty for five years straight. She's stopped filtering real emergencies from imaginary ones and now she's just patching every trigger through as a massive, all hands on deck emergency.

And instead of doing the right thing and giving her some TRUE time off, you just keep giving her more energy drinks and telling her to take 5.

You aren't solving the problem, you're trying to fix the symptoms.

This is what chronic dysregulation does. It's not just creating anxiety and hypervigilance...it's seeping into every area of your body and life...affecting your sleep, your digestion, your happiness, your immune system, your relationships and your ability to level up.

There's a big difference between being a regulated person who sometimes slips into dysregulation and being a person who is chronically dysregulated. If you keep treating the symptoms you will stay chronically dysregulated.

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MORE WAYS TO WORK WITH ME:

Calibration call: This isn't ongoing coaching. It's a single, focused recalibration session designed to get you clear when you find yourself stuck. Learn more here.

Private coaching: I work privately with a small number of clients who are tired of losing time and energy to overthinking, second-guessing, and energy managing. This is a high-level engagement for people who are operating at a high level and want to stop feeling like it's fragile. Find details and complete application here.

Love Letters: Change takes consistency. If you'd love a gentle nudge each day to stay on track while you're creating new patterns, grab my Daily Love Letters

Get the Daily Reminders private podcast

How much time did you spend this week analyzing why you do the things you do?

Reading about attachment styles, scrolling Instagram therapists, listening to podcasts about nervous system regulation, journaling about why you can't stop overthinking?

Now—how much time did you spend actually not overthinking?

Yeah.

Here's the thing nobody tells you:

All that analysis? All that learning? All that trying to stop?

That's not the new pathway. That's the old one.

You're standing on the old road—the one with all the potholes—staring at the potholes, trying to understand the potholes, researching how potholes form.

And you think you're building a new road.

But you're not. You're just making the old road more familiar.

I recorded a whole episode about this because I keep seeing the smartest, most self-aware people (my people—energy managers like you) trying themselves into the GROUND.

Trying to stop overthinking.
Trying to set boundaries.
Trying to not be so hard on themselves.

The trying IS the problem.

In this week's episode, I explain:

• Why 80% of your time is spent hardwiring what you don't want (and you don't even realize it)
• The spray bottle metaphor that'll make you go "oh shit"
• What it actually looks like to get on the new pathway (real client story that'll probably make you cry a little)
• How to flip the ratio so you're spending 80% of your time being calm AF instead of trying to be

Calm AF Life: Regulated is coming soon. This is where you will shift the identity from knowing how to regulated to REGULATED.

In the meantime, get the Daily Reminders private podcast that you can listen to on repeat that will recalibrate your nervous system (not just add to your tool collection).

Calibration call: This isn't ongoing coaching. It's a single, focused recalibration session designed to get you clear when you find yourself stuck. Learn more here.

Private coaching: I work privately with a small number of clients who are tired of losing time and energy to overthinking, second-guessing, and energy managing. This is a high-level engagement for people who are operating at a high level and want to stop feeling like it's fragile. Find details and complete application here.

Love letters: You need daily reminders if you want to shift your identity. I've got you. All you have to do is open the email and read. Sign up for Daily Love Letters