In this episode, we break down the most foundational practice in our entire framework, and answer the question almost every client starts with:

"I know I need nervous system regulation… but how the fuck do I actually do that with the life I have?!"

We talk about why NSR is not just for the meltdown moments, how it quietly transforms your relationship with productivity, parenting, partnerships, and purpose, and how Brandon went from never regulating to knowing with full-body certainty that he'll never drink again.

We touch on:

• Why 30–60 seconds of nervous system regulation might be more life-changing than 30 minutes

• What happened when Brandon finally felt his feelings, after 18 years of numbing

• The trap of "doing it right" and how it keeps perfectionists stuck

• Four micro NSR techniques you can do literally anywhere (yes, even in a meeting)

• Why consistency isn't the goal, capacity is

• What two clients in totally different life stages (30 and 60) had in common with burnout, dread, and the exact same NSR win after 4 weeks

Plus, we unpack the real reason so many smart, high-achieving people don't start NSR (hint: if you've ever said "I don't need it right now," this one's for you).

Whether you're bedbound like Tasha was, burnt out like Jane was, or just stuck in the doom-scroll loop like Della, we've got you.

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In this episode, we unpack the #1 reason you keep thinking you're the problem when you're not: complex life circumstances and how integrating them instead of ignoring them changes everything about how you work, parent, rest, and relate.

We talk about the patterns we didn't even know were patterns: Tasha wondering why she could build empires one week and collapse the next, Brandon's years of overfunctioning while feeling like nothing was ever enough, and the quiet shame spiral of why can't I just do this thing that almost everyone in our community knows by heart.

We touch on:

• The actual definition of Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) and why this one lens can explain burnout, inconsistency, and the inability to "just push through"
  
  

• How masking, overachieving, chronic dysregulation, and trauma conditioning show up differently based on gender, race, disability, and neurodivergence
  
  

• Why routines, habits, and productivity hacks fail when they're not built around your real life and what to do instead
  
  

• The real reason you feel guilt when resting and how to stop abandoning yourself in moments of low energy, pain, or overstimulation
  
  

• How your relationships (especially with partners, clients, and kids) have to evolve when you start being honest about your capacity
  
  

• What happened when Brandon realized he didn't even want a damn plate and what that metaphor has to do with freedom, caregiving, and rest
  
  

This episode includes the 10-finger CLC exercise (to get your Complex Life Circumstance score), and a powerful reminder: you're not broken…you're just operating in a world that refuses to account for who you actually are.

Build a life that works with your CLCs instead of against them 👇🏻

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In this episode, we unpack one of the most wildly underutilized tools for business, parenting, and being human with a uterus: cycle syncing and how it completely changed the way we work, connect, and rest.
We talk about Tasha's 20+ year pattern of crushing it one week and crumbling the next, Brandon trying to decode moods like a foreign language, and the honest truth about why routines haven't stuck (and probably never will) if you're ignoring your cycle.

We touch on:

• How your brain, energy, and confidence can shift up to 25% each month and why that matters more than any other routine.

• What happened when Tasha stopped calling herself inconsistent and started listening to what her biology was asking for.

• Why the world still expects you to operate like a small man with a 24-hour clock and how that's ruining your relationship with your own body.

• A real story of Tasha thinking she was a fraud (again)… and how knowing her cycle made that spiral mean absolutely nothing.
  
  

Ready to sync your life and routines to your actual body?

Start with this Cycle Sync Mindset Audio Series

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In this episode, we pull back the curtain on one of the foundational tools we use with our clients across Unshakeable You, Phoenix Rising, Bootcamp and The Village: our deceptively simple "Wins, Effective/Ineffective, and Questions" check-in.

We talk about what we're rewatching, orthorexia and the clean eating rabbit hole, your grandmother's apple pie (and why Brandon says it can't be the best)

You'll hear:

• Why labeling things "good" or "bad" might be killing your creativity and momentum.

• How "maladaptive coping" (hi cigarettes, doomscrolling, productivity spirals) is often just your body's attempt to stay alive, and maybe even deserves a trophy.

• How your cycle phase might be the real reason you thought that project, person, or plan sucked.

• A real-time story of our teenager dragging us for our financial choices… then un-dragging us with shocking emotional maturity.

We ask questions like:

• What actually counts as a win (and who decided what counts)?

• Why is "just thinking about it" part of the process?

• How do you know if something was ineffective… or if you were just doing it in the wrong phase of your cycle?

• Can you celebrate a "bad" coping strategy and want something better next time?

• What's the difference between emotional dysregulation and eating snacks in the garage?

Drop your favorite "small win" in our DMs or come join a free community call to experience what this work feels like in real time

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What do I want????

Whether you're deep in burnout, running on autopilot, or just feeling disconnected from yourself after years of being useful to everyone else… I get it. This episode walks you through the 5 mistakes that keep so many of us stuck in survival mode, waiting for clarity that doesn't come and the first 3 steps to figuring out what you actually want.

Where you gently unhook from urgency, listen to your nervous system, and stop trying to solve your life like a math problem.

Here's what we get into:

• The biggest lie about "clarity" that keeps high-achievers spinning

• Why your body needs to access that truth

• And why desire isn't a luxury, it's a survival skill

If you've been trying to "figure it out" but everything just feels heavy, uncertain, or like too much work, it's not you. You're not broken. You just haven't been taught how to do this in a way that actually works for your life.

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In this episode, we unpack what's actually going on when you "can't stay consistent," and why burnout, chronic stress, and your Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) keep you stuck in a loop that discipline alone will never solve.

We dig into:

• Why discipline only works after you've built capacity

• The sneaky ways internalized capitalism, ableism, and childhood conditioning show up in your day

• What your body, your flare-ups, your freeze response, and your avoidance are really trying to tell you

• Why being "too tired to function" or "constantly behind" is not a personal failure and what it really means

• How to tell if you're living from survival mode (even if everything looks fine from the outside)

You'll hear real examples from our own lives, from our clients, and from people just like you who thought they had a discipline problem, but were actually overdue for a total capacity recalibration.

By the end of this conversation, we're asking better questions:

What do I want and what do I need ... today?
What's actually mine to carry?
How can I build a life and business that supports my reality, not just my ambition?

If you've been forcing, pushing, and blaming yourself for not "doing it right" - this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start restoring.

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The Reel that started this conversation

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In this episode we dig into:

• What actually happens when you stop living in survival mode and your nervous system finally chills the fuck out? Spoiler: it's weirder than you think.

• Having time doesn't mean you magically know how to enjoy it. Sometimes the pause feels like a loss you didn't see coming.

• The very real tension between finally having space to create and just wanting to nap, zone out, or do absolutely nothing.

• Your brain isn't reacting to the moment, it's predicting based on old chaos and current circumstances which means sometimes you kinda short-circuit.

• Being regulated doesn't mean life is easier right away. Sometimes it just means you're awake enough to see what's really going on.

• Navigating art, chronic illness, parenting, and business in a house where everyone's got complex life stuff... it's not cute, it's logistics and emotion every damn day.

• Some of what feels "true" is actually just what you've been surrounded by your whole life. When you question it, a whole new world opens up.

• The hardest part of starting something isn't always the work, it's believing you'll be able to keep going, especially when you have a pile of complex life circumstances

• If your environment feels like too much, it's not because you're weak. It's because your body is telling the truth about what's happening around you.

• A behind-the-scenes look at how Brandon and I have restructured our life and business to actually feel like us, without making each other fit into someone else's idea of partnership.

• Two very different relationships to work, rest, and passion, and how we're finally letting both be valid and valuable.

Make sure to share this episode with your friend or partner if you found it valuable and if you share this episode on social media, tag us @rulesandrebellion so we can thank you

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If you've ever wonder what it's like for 2 coaches to live and work together, pursuing their own goals and holding each other accountable - this episode is the most transparent we've been I believe. We have a real conversation about each others goals, boundaries around them and the ways we will and will NOT be holding each other accountable. We get really granular so below I gave you some time stamps to help figure out where you want to jump to or go back to if something resonates while you are multitasking while listening.

Timestamps:

Intro, catching up on 2025 until 37 min

37min: B talks through T's goals, boundaries and plan

1 hr, 45 min: T talks through B's goals, boundaries and plan

2 hour 42 min: Sharing some recent client wins we're excited for

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