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In this episode you’re going to discover why self-esteem is overrated. Yes, I said OVER-rated. I know a lot of self-help books and programs out there are all about boosting your self-esteem.

Well, I’m going to tell why those don’t work and why you don’t need to waste your money on them.

Key Points

• Most people can relate to the core belief of “I’m not good enough as I am. There is something wrong with me or lacking in me.”
• No matter how hard we try or how much we achieve, our thinking self can always find something to dislike, some way in which we are lacking, deficient, not good enough.
• What exactly is self-esteem? An opinion you hold about yourself.
• Here’s the reason why self-esteem is overrated: self-esteem is not a fact; it’s just an opinion.
• It’s nothing more than a highly subjective judgement.
• For most people, including myself, the more positive the thought, the more resistance there is … thoughts like “Yeah, right!” “Who are you kidding?” “Maybe in your dreams” automatically pop up.
• The reality is you can find an infinite number of good and bad stories to tell about yourself and as long as you’re invested in self-esteem you’re going to waste a lot of time in this chess game, fighting an endless battle against your own limitless supply of negative thoughts.
• What if you completely let go of judging yourself as a person? What would life be like if you were to let go of self-esteem altogether?
• The good news is that leading a rich, full and meaningful life does not depend upon self-esteem at all.

You can download the transcript of this episode by clicking here.