In this powerful episode, host KL Wells sits down with Denise Frenette, a Canadian spiritual synergist, life coach, and author of the newly released book, More. Denise opens up about the birthing process of her book and the profound realization that she could not teach others about manifestation and habit-breaking without first confronting her own origin story.

Denise shares the raw reality of growing up with a father who was a functioning alcoholic, a gambler, and at times violent, all while maintaining the perfect family image in their community. Through the lens of her father’s passing and the subsequent discovery of the financial devastation he left behind, Denise discusses the difficult journey of moving from intellectual understanding to deep heart work. This conversation explores how to acknowledge the trauma of the past with grace, the duality of loving an addict while hating their actions, and why personal healing is the essential portal to breaking generational cycles of shame.

1. The Acknowledge Phase: Why Denise had to move past denial to respectfully acknowledge what was wrong in her childhood before she could truly heal.
2. The Facade of Perfection: Growing up in a church-going, perfect family and the immense shame associated with any behavior that threatened that public image.
3. The Duality of Love and Pain: Navigating the conundrum of how to acknowledge a parent's harmful behavior without losing the ability to love them.
4. The Breaking Point: How her father’s death and the discovery of his hidden gambling debts acted as the drop in the bucket that forced Denise to step into her authentic self.
5. Fear as an Acronym: Exploring the concept of F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real) and how it keeps us from transparency.
6. The Evolution of Healing: Understanding that healing is not a one-and-done event but an ongoing discovery process.

1. How can I acknowledge what is going on and still love them at the same time?
2. Was that curiosity about your dad's upbringing born in that experience?
3. Do you think the curiosity and the willingness to step into discovery is the first step in breaking generational cycles?
4. What was the portal or the moment that cracked you wide open to explore the gifts and lessons embedded in this experience?

1. Why intellectualizing your trauma is not the same as healing your heart.
2. The importance of viewing the boy behind the man to understand the roots of addiction and behavior.
3. How to transition from anger to sadness and finally to curiosity and discovery.
4. Why anger is...