Do you and your partner fight about the same things on repeat? Do you inwardly groan when your partner brings up THAT SAME issue again? If you have repeating cycles of conflict in your relationship, you are not alone.

According to Dr. John Gottman’s landmark research into perpetual conflict, repetition for couples is universally true. What if 70% of your fights with your partner will never actually be resolved? The real issue isn’t whether you solve the argument. It’s whether you can fight well — with enough awareness, skill, and warmth to come out the other side still on the same team.

In this episode of Rewiring Love, Naomi walks listeners through the brain science behind repeating conflict cycles, including the role of the amygdala, the primitive versus ambassador brain, and why negativity sticks so much harder than positivity. She then shares five clear, practical circuit-breaker tools that any couple can begin using immediately. If you’ve ever felt like you’re going round in circles with your partner, this episode is your way out of the loop.Thanks for listening to Rewiring Love. We'd love to hear from you, email us at ⁠team@naomilight.com⁠.

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