This episode is different.

We sit down with Mick Wienholt to talk about fatherhood that begins with loss.

Mick and his wife lost their firstborn son, Luke, at full term. What followed wasn’t a clean or simple healing process. It was grief, questions, anger, surrender… and eventually, transformation.

In this conversation, we talk about:

• What it feels like to become a dad and lose your child in the same moment
• How grief reshapes your identity as a man and husband
• The difference between moving on and moving forward
• How to support someone walking through loss
• And how Mick carries Luke into his family today

This isn’t about fixing grief.

It’s about learning to live with it… and who you become because of it.

Mick Wienholt

Host of When You Look podcast

🌐 https://whenyoulook.com

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🎧 Podcast: When You Look (Spotify, YouTube, Apple)

In this reflective and unscripted episode, Paul and Andrew dive into a personal tension many men face: the balance between structure and presence. What begins as a casual conversation quickly unfolds into a deeper exploration of routines, habits, and the danger of letting them become the end goal rather than a means to something greater.

Paul shares his struggle with relying on routine to stay disciplined, only to find that those same systems can pull him away from what matters most—being present as a husband, father, and man. Andrew relates, reflecting on how even well-intentioned habits can unintentionally crowd out meaningful moments with loved ones.

Together, they unpack the paradox: routines are necessary for growth and stability, but when overemphasized, they can become rigid, self-serving, and disconnected from one’s deeper purpose. The conversation moves beyond productivity into identity—shifting the focus from “Did I check all the boxes?” to “Did I live in alignment with who I want to be?”

Drawing on analogies from coding, combat, parenting, and even dance, they emphasize the need for adaptability. Life isn’t a fixed program—it’s fluid, unpredictable, and requires constant reassessment. Systems provide a foundation, but they must be flexible enough to serve the bigger mission: becoming better men and guiding others—especially children—toward that same pursuit.

The episode closes with a powerful reminder: success isn’t perfection or flawless execution of a plan. It’s progress. It’s presence. And it’s the willingness to continually reflect, adjust, and move forward with intention.

A thoughtful and honest conversation for any man striving to lead his life—and his family—with purpose.

Most dads don’t have a plan. They just try to do their best.

Nathaniel Turner challenges that completely.

In this episode, we explore what it means to raise a child intentionally by working backward from who they should become. From building a “starting five” of mentors to writing letters that shape identity, this conversation pushes beyond surface-level parenting into legacy-level thinking.

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re just reacting… or actually leading your family forward, this one will hit.

Nathaniel A. Turner

Educator, speaker, and author focused on intentional parenting and legacy-building.

📘 Raising Superman

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🌐 Website: https://www.nathanielaturner.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nateaturner/

💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nathaniel-turner-5557952b5/