This episode digs into the question, “Who’s actually driving the car inside your mind?” Using Internal Family Systems (IFS), I break down how anger, fear, shame, hesitation, and even revenge can hijack the wheel in a split second—leaving you wondering why you reacted the way you did. We look at protectors, firefighters, managers, and the parts of you that step up when you feel hurt, betrayed, embarrassed, or threatened. I share the moment I first learned “there are no bad parts,” and how that shifted my relationship with my own anger and the parts of me built for retribution and self-protection.

We also talk about why Self—not ego, not wounded history, not survival strategies—is the one who should be driving. If you've ever looked back and thought, “That wasn’t the version of me I want behind the wheel,” this episode gives you a way to understand what happened and how to get the keys back. You’ll walk away with a practice you can use this week to notice which part is driving and how to let Self lead with clarity instead of fear.

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