It's often easy to see how others are mean, abusive, or terrible in our eyes, but it's another world to see where we do it to ourselves. Where do you self-abuse and what does it look like? In this episode, I explore conversations I've had with clients, and myself, in order to explore four specific ways we can self-abuse. What if you were willing to be honest and present enough with yourself to change this for you and, in return, begin to change how others treat you?

Four Ways We Self-Abuse:

1. By making others greater than ourselves for the same tasks and talking ourselves down.
2. By making someone’s needs, desires and wants of you more important than your own.
3. By judging you for anything you do or don’t do, and choose or don't choose, rather than acknowledging it’s a choice.
4. By trying to make yourself fit into the way other people see you or desire you to be.

How To Stop Doing It:

• Acknowledge where you are great and be willing to see the beliefs you have about yourself.
• Communicate what you require in life and demand it of you and your relationships.
• Build a sense of who you are and trust yourself to know what's really going on. No more doubt!
• Be willing to reflect on where you do these things to yourself, be honest and present with yourself, and start looking at the steps you can take to change it.