Ep.10 When It’s Not Abuse… But It’s Still Not Right (Featuring Kole Whitty)

What if the most dangerous place to stay is the one that looks “fine”?

In this episode of Not Saving It for Later, Hannah sits down with Kole Whitty for a conversation about divorce, identity, desire, and the moment a woman realizes she can’t keep betraying herself to keep the peace.

This episode is for the woman who isn’t in crisis — but isn’t free either.

00:00 – Welcome to Not Saving It for Later
03:10 – When Nothing Is Technically Wrong… But Everything Feels Off

07:45 – The Pressure to Just Be Grateful

12:30 – Staying Loyal to a Life That’s Shrinking You

17:20 – When Your Body Starts Keeping the Score

22:40 – The Fear of Wanting More

28:05 – Leaving Without a Villain

33:50 – The Myth of “Blowing Up Your Life”

39:15 – Doing the Work Instead of Jumping to the Next Thing

45:10 – Money, Revenge, and the Cost of Being Right

50:30 – Desire vs. Deserve

55:40 – If You’re Standing at the Edge Right Now

59:00 – Final Reflections: Choosing Yourself Gently

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