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What Do You Know To Be True? is a personal development and leadership podcast for professionals discovering, building, or already living into their purpose and possibilities. Each episode is a real conversation with a guest who's navigated their own reinvention: from discovering a talent built out of something difficult, to now using their superpower in service of others. Their stories offer new perspective, validate what you already know, and inspire your next move. Wherever you are on that path, these conversations are for you.

Each conversation gives you something real: a guest's honest story, a practice or perspective you can actually use, confirmation you're on the right path, and you're not alone.

Roger Kastner is an organization development practitioner and a self-leadership coach who helps leaders and teams move past repeated patterns and limiting beliefs to create the clarity and alignment necessary to achieve their goals and become more of their possible selves. He created What Do You Know To Be True? to amplify the stories and experiences of others who have made that pivot to become more of their possible selves.

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  • Can You Do This Work Without It Hurting You? Coach Emily Fanjoy on Burnout Recovery

    Can You Do This Work Without It Hurting You? Coach Emily Fanjoy on Burnout Recovery
    Oct 15 2026

    This is the trap of high achiever burnout: the more you deliver, the more the same work gets handed to you. And if it's not aligned with your superpower and purpose, it's the path to burnout. In this conversation, host Roger Kastner sits with Inner Authority coach Emily Fanjoy to unpack the "competence cage" when we're prisoner to our own success, and how to reclaim inner authority. Emily shares her story of service without self, chronic injury, and a terrifying career reset. Emily also shares the name it to tame it framework and why self-care sometimes means saying no to what you want.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS
    • The competence cage forms when doing things well earns you more and more responsibility, until exhaustion and resentment feel like the price of being good at your job.
    • The cage stays locked when you outsource your authority to bosses, experts, coaches, or even AI. Breaking out starts with standing in your own inner authority.
    • Clean pain is facing what hurts and working through it, so it has a lifespan. Dirty pain is avoidance and denial, and it can last indefinitely.
    • Naming your feelings before, during, and after a new behavior builds the wiring for new beliefs. Name it to tame it.
    • Your capacity to show up for others is limited by how much you give to yourself first.

    QUESTIONS THIS EPISODE ANSWERS
    Q: What is the competence cage?
    A: It's Emily Fanjoy's term for the trap high performers fall into when competence keeps earning them more work and responsibility. Like the frog in slowly heating water, they don't notice until they are worn out, resentful, and missing the best parts of themselves.

    Q: What is the difference between clean pain and dirty pain?
    A: Emily draws on Resmaa Menakem's "My Grandmother's Hands." Dirty pain comes from avoidance, denial, and trying to control what you can't. Clean pain means looking directly at the challenge and working through it, so it has a limited lifespan.

    Q: How do high achievers learn to trust themselves again?
    A: Emily works with clients to expand their feelings vocabulary, run small belief and behavior experiments, and track how they feel before, during, and after. Naming the discomfort keeps you out of reactivity and builds trust in your own signal.

    Q: Is self-care selfish?
    A: Emily says no. Doing your own work is in service of the greater good, and real self-care sometimes means the harder choice: listening to what your body needs even when it disappoints you or others.

    CHAPTERS
    00:00 Can I do this work without it hurting me?
    01:31 Meet Emily Fanjoy
    02:18 What is the competence cage?
    04:07 Emily's own cage: service over self
    06:24 Breaking out: help and conscious choice
    07:38 Clean pain vs dirty pain
    11:19 Why smart leaders struggle to trust a felt sense
    14:41 Name it to tame it
    15:51 Trusting wisdom in others, then yourself
    22:52 Superpowers start as unmet needs
    28:36 Self-care means doing what's hard
    31:07 Superpower: synthesis and deep listening
    34:28 What AI reveals about outsourcing authority
    38:15 What Emily knows to be true

    Full transcript: https://whatdoyouknowtobetrue.com/video-epsiodes

    RESOURCES MENTIONED
    Emily’s Website: https://www.emilyfanjoy.com/
    Emily’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emily-fanjoy-9358301b9/

    Music in this episode by Sosin

    What Do You Know To Be True? is a collection of leadership and personal development conversations for people discovering, building, or already living into their purpose and possibilities.

    Each conversation offers new perspectives and inspiration for your next move. Wherever you are on the reinvent yourself path, these conversations are for you.

    ➡️ For insights into each conversation, subscribe to the newsletter: https://rogerkastner.substack.com/
    ➡️ To be in more conversations: https://whatdoyouknowtobetrue.com/

    We're hosted by Roger Kastner and produced by Three Blue Pens. We're recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover more about the land you are on, go to https://native-land.ca

    #HighAchieverBurnout #burnout #BurnoutRecovery #reinventyourself #LeadershipDevelopment #RogerKastner
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    46 min
  • Successful But Feeling Unlovable | Steve Sapourn on Trauma, Nervous System Regulation & Courage

    Successful But Feeling Unlovable | Steve Sapourn on Trauma, Nervous System Regulation & Courage
    Sep 24 2026

    Many high achievers look successful on paper yet carry a quiet sense of unworthiness. Steve Sapourn, founder of The Neuro's Journey, argues trauma is not an identity but a nervous system injury, old survival adaptations that once kept you safe and now keep you braced. In this conversation we cover the pause that moves you from reaction to response, why courage plus self trust open reinvention, and how to retell your story as a hero's journey.

    In this episode:
    • Trauma is an adaptation of the nervous system, not a character flaw, and it can be re-adapted
    • The pause plus gratitude creates space between trigger and response and builds self compassion
    • Courage to turn toward old patterns is the doorway from intellectual knowing to felt knowing
    • High achievers often mask darkness with winning, and winning alone never resolves worthiness
    • Telling your story as a hero's journey increases meaning, resilience and agency
    • Self worth is the foundation for radiating love to others and leading from choice

    Questions This Episode Answers:
    • What is nervous system regulation for high achievers?
    It is learning to notice when an old survival pattern hijacks you and using a brief pause to let the prefrontal cortex choose response over reaction.

    • What is imposter syndrome really about?
    Often it is not a confidence problem but a felt sense gap, you know you are capable intellectually yet your body still braces as if you are unworthy.

    • Can survival patterns change in midlife?
    Yes. Steve frames them as wise adaptations from earlier circumstances that no longer fit at 57 what worked at 7, and they shift with steady practice, reflection and support.

    • How does the hero's journey build resilience?
    When people retell the same life events as a journey of challenge, learning and return, they report more meaning and resilience without changing any facts.

    Chapters
    00:00 I felt like a bad man
    00:17 Success outside, unworthy inside
    01:51 Meet Steve Sapourn and The Neuro's Journey
    02:33 Trauma as nervous system injury, not identity
    03:10 Remember to pause: reaction to response
    06:08 Gratitude moves the pause earlier
    09:11 Love and courage for the messy middle
    12:52 Not emptiness, it is darkness
    16:34 Golden handcuffs and real risk
    19:08 The heros journey as healing map
    23:13 Brain scans, neurofeedback and I am not broken
    29:51 Belief and connection after 9/11
    34:22 Signal in the noise still needs action
    38:42 Scared to look inside
    40:48 Am I worthy of being loved
    46:05 Acknowledge reality, aim for peace

    Full transcript: [add website link]

    Resources mentioned in the episode:
    • Steve’s Platform: https://theneurosjourney.com/

    Music in this episode by Amplify Music

    What Do You Know To Be True? is a personal development and leadership podcast capturing insights and experiences with people who've navigated their own reinvention, to be more aligned with their purpose and possibilities.

    Each conversation offers new perspectives and inspiration for your next move. Wherever you are on the reinvent yourself path, these conversations are for you.

    ➡️ For insights into each conversation, subscribe to the newsletter: https://rogerkastner.substack.com/
    ➡️ To be in more conversations: https://www.youtube.com/@WDYKTBT?sub_confirmation=1

    We're hosted by Roger Kastner and produced by Three Blue Pens. We're recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover more about the land you are on, go to https://native-land.ca

    Keywords
    #trauma #courage #nervoussystemregulation #impostersyndrome #selfworth #reinventyourself #Leadership #personaldevelopment #RogerKastner
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    54 min
  • Why You Don't Need to Be Extraordinary to Thrive | Lisa Hallett on her Superpower of Being Ordinary

    Why You Don't Need to Be Extraordinary to Thrive | Lisa Hallett on her Superpower of Being Ordinary
    Sep 3 2026
    Lisa Hallett, CEO of Wear Blue: Run to Remember, an endurance athlete, and a Gold Star spouse, explains why she believes "ordinary" is a superpower, and not a limitation. She shares how running became the way she processed grief after her husband’s, Captain John Hallett, death in Afghanistan, why community is where our strengths get reflected back to us, and why she's about to run 250 miles from New York City to Washington, D.C. with One Flag Forward, a joint mission with Team Red, White & Blue and Wear Blue honoring military service and sacrifice and sharing a message of stronger together.Key Takeaways • Ordinary is not a limitation, it's a starting point: Lisa Hallett argues that accepting "I'm just me" is what makes hard, extraordinary goals reachable.• Running became Lisa's way to process grief without losing herself to it: "I was not running from my grief, but I was running through my grief."• Superpowers are relational: they get named, reflected, and grown through community, not discovered alone.• One Flag Forward is a 250-mile, 5-day run from NYC to D.C. (Sept 12–16, 2026) where Wear Blue and Team RWB carry a single flag hand-to-hand.• Holding onto "receipts," memories of past hard things you've already survived, builds the foundation for the next hard thing.Questions This Episode Answers • Why did Lisa Hallett choose running as a form of remembrance? After her husband, Captain John Hallett, was killed in Afghanistan, running let her feel her grief without letting it consume her. She calls it running through grief, not from it.• What is One Flag Forward? A 250-mile, 5-day relay (Sept 12–16, 2026) where Wear Blue: Run to Remember and Team Red, White & Blue carry one American flag from New York City to Washington, D.C.• How can you find your superpower? Ask a good friend. Superpowers are usually easier for others to see in us than we can see in ourselves.• Why does Lisa Hallett call being ordinary a superpower? Because it strips away entitlement and comparison, and proves that meaningful, hard goals don't require exceptional resources, just the choice to keep showing up.• How does Lisa Hallett describe community building as a superpower?She says superpowers aren't discovered alone, they get developed in relationship with others. It’s the opportunity to have a mirror for ourselves as we be in service of something bigger than ourselves.Chapters00:00 Path to Extraordinary Starts with Ordinary2:11 Lisa Hallett Introduction2:45 Why running, not another form of remembrance5:28 One Flag Forward: 250 miles, NYC to D.C., and why now6:36 Hallets Do Hard Things7:20 The permission in being ordinary9:05 We're worthy to not be defined by our most difficult moments11:14 We blossom in the light of others14:05 How community reflects our superpowers back to us17:02 The small moments vs. the finish-line moments23:00 What does Lisa want me to know about the Gold Star Family and Military community24:10 The Superpower of being ordinary28:40 Permission to be ordinary and accepting self33:32 Ordinary proves potential34:19 How Lisa learned anything is possible Full transcript: https://whatdoyouknowtobetrue.com/video/why-you-dont-need-to-be-extraordinary-to-thrive-lisa-hallett-on-her-superpower-of-being-ordinaryResources Mentioned• Wear Blue: Run to Remember: https://www.wearblueruntoremember.org/• One Flag Forward: https://www.oneflagforward.org/ • Lisa's 2013 TEDX Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9v3TMrsbdg Music in this episode by Amplify MusicWhat Do You Know To Be True? is a personal development and leadership podcast capturing insights and experiences with people who've navigated their own reinvention, to be more aligned with their purpose and possibilities.Each conversation offers new perspectives and inspiration for your next move. Wherever you are on the reinvent yourself path, these conversations are for you.➡️ For insights into each conversation, subscribe to the newsletter: https://rogerkastner.substack.com/➡️ Learn more about the conversations: https://whatdoyouknowtobetrue.com/We're hosted by Roger Kastner and produced by Three Blue Pens. We're recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover more about the land you are on, go to https://native-land.ca#Ordinary #Grief #Superpowers #Running #Extraordinary #Communitybuilding #reinventyourself #LeadershipDevelopment #personaldevelopment #RogerKastner
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    41 min
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