Have you ever sat in a therapist's office and felt younger than your age, confused by your own reactions, or deeply ashamed of how much you need? For those with attachment trauma, therapy itself can stir up the very wounds it's meant to heal. In this raw and insightful conversation, we give voice to what often goes unspoken inside the therapy room.
In this second episode of the HIP Podcast, host Shaya Hecht is joined by Chaya Morgenstern, a social work student with deep lived experience as a therapy client. Together, they explore the complex journey of long-term therapy while navigating shame, self-blame, and an anxious attachment system. They discuss why needing connection can feel deeply shameful, how being a "good client" can be a trauma response (fawning), and the crucial difference between boundaries that create safety and walls around a therapist's heart. This is a conversation about how real healing unfolds through the messy, human process of relationship missteps, rupture, and repair.

In this episode, you'll hear about:

• The challenging transition from being a client to becoming a clinician.

• How early negative therapy experiences can shape your belief that "something is wrong with you."

• The moment of discovering what it actually means to feel emotions, not just talk about them.

• Why inconsistent connection in therapy can re-trigger attachment wounds.

• Navigating the painful end of a long-term therapeutic relationship and finding your own voice.

Episode Timestamps:
00:00 – Opening Hook & Introduction to the Topic
03:05 – Chaya's Introduction: From Client to Social Work Student
12:30 – The Role of "Fawning" and Being the "Good Client"
22:15 – Rupture, Repair, and the Therapist's Capacity
35:40 – The End of a Therapeutic Relationship and Finding Closure
50:10 – Key Takeaways for Clients and Therapists
55:00 – Final Thoughts & Outro

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