Building Your Own Beis Hamikdash: Seeing the Good in Yourself

What does it mean to make yourself a place for the Shechinah? In this episode of Dialing Bnei Brak, Charlie Harary and Rav Moshe Levy explore how developing an ayin tov toward yourself can build genuine self-worth, strengthen your relationships, and bring more simchah into your avodas Hashem.

Learn how to recognize your shortcomings without tearing yourself down, see your worth beyond achievement and approval, and give your spouse, children, and others the unconditional love that helps them grow.

In this episode:

1:38 — Learning to See the Good in Yourself
8:09 — Recognizing the Yetzer Hara During Spiritual Growth
23:20 — Building Your Own Beis Hamikdash: Making Room for the Shechinah Through Joy
33:44 — How Unconditional Love Builds True Self-Esteem
49:22 — Finding Your Worth in Your Neshamah

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What does it mean to feel good about yourself without needing to prove anything?

Charlie Harary and Rabbi Moshe Levi explore how to build true self-esteem through an ayin tov, a good eye toward yourself. They discuss why recognizing your flaws can be encouraging, how guilt can get in the way of growth, and what unconditional love teaches us about our worth.

In this episode:

02:10 — A good eye toward yourself: Recognizing your strengths without becoming arrogant.

06:18 — You were born enough: Finding your worth in your neshamah rather than society’s expectations.

13:18 — Seeing failure as information: What great athletes and companies can teach us about spiritual growth.

21:12 — Can you really let the guilt go? Taking responsibility, doing teshuvah, and moving forward.

34:03 — Unconditional love and true self-esteem: How the love we give shapes our children, spouses, and ourselves.

You spent a month praying for bracha. Now you’re back home, tired, overwhelmed, and frustrated with your spouse.

What happens next matters.

The way you speak to each other, the good you choose to notice, and the time you make to connect are part of bringing that bracha into your home.

In this episode of Dialing Bnei Brak, we explore marriage, unconditional love, and the holiness of everyday kindness.

Listen to the full episode at kelil.org.

Why can someone else’s happiness feel like something is missing from our own lives? And how do we work on jealousy when we can’t simply switch off the feeling?

In this episode of Dialing Bnei Brak, Charlie Harary and Rabbi Moshe Levi explore the connection between emunah, simcha, and genuine giving. As Sukkot leads into Hoshana Rabbah, they explain how wishing others well becomes a practical way to strengthen our trust in Hashem.

In this episode:

• Why someone else’s success doesn’t mean you’re falling behind.
• How true giving begins with what you want for another person.
• Why simcha goes deeper than being in a good mood.
• How our words and actions can feed jealousy or help us work through it.
• The practice of blessing someone with more, even before you fully feel it.
• Why working on our middot takes repetition, patience, and effort.

A practical takeaway: When jealousy comes up, pause before commenting or criticizing. Bless that person with more goodness, and repeat it whenever the feeling returns.

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What do you do when you’ve asked every question and still don’t have an answer?

In this episode of Dialing Bnei Brak, Charlie Harary and Rabbi Moshe Levy explore the connection between asking questions, trusting Hashem, and finding simcha. Beginning with the way we learn Torah, Rabbi Levy explains how “I don’t understand, but I trust You” can become a meaningful response to life’s uncertainty.

Through the lessons of Sukkot, they discuss how humility makes room for emunah, why unresolved questions can affect our relationship with Hashem, and how to practice trust when everyday frustrations arise.

In this episode:

• Why Torah learning begins with questions.
• How to trust Hashem when you cannot understand what’s happening.
• The connection between middot, emunah, simcha, and giving.
• What the discomfort of the sukkah teaches us.
• How small moments become opportunities to practice emunah.
• Bringing the lessons of Sukkot into the rest of the year.

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