Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a clinical psychologist, couples therapist, and assistant professor at Brown University whose work explores the science of human understanding.

In today's episode, we discuss what is happening when you are misunderstood and why learning to communicate clearly is only part of the picture. Dr. Schonbrun shares how our brains shape our perception of reality and why two people can experience the same situation (completely) differently.

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TOPICS FROM THIS EPISODE:

• How to recognize your own blind spots and see beyond your perspective
• How to communicate with nuance without losing the strength of your voice
• What to do when you're misunderstood (without getting defensive)

CONNECT WITH YAEL SCHONBRUN:

• Order: Why Don’t You Understand Me? https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/827849/why-dont-you-understand-me-by-yael-schonbrun-phd/
• Website: https://www.yaelschonbrun.com/

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• Follow Heather on IG: https://www.instagram.com/heatherparady/
• Access Full Show Notes Here: https://www.heatherparady.com/blog/184

Sarah Quint is a traditional storyteller and citizen of the Mattaponi Tribe of Tsenacommacah in Virginia. Her work centers on preserving and retelling traditional Indigenous stories, as well as creating new stories for future generations.

In this episode, we discuss the responsibility that comes with oral storytelling, why storytellers should not tell the “moral” of the story, and how stories connect us to the Spirit present in the world around us.

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TOPICS FROM THIS EPISODE:

• Why oral storytelling carries a responsibility to past and future generations
• Why storytellers shouldn't prescribe meaning to their audience
• Why authentic human storytelling matters in the age of AI

OTHER EPISODES MENTIONED:

• Consciousness, Constellations, & Experiencing Spirit Through the Body | Fally Klein: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVE57ojZPiE
• Why Stories Can Change Minds When Arguments Can’t | Keith Giles: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t3jgbrVIpuk

CONNECT WITH SARAH QUINT:

• Website: https://www.sarahquint.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/quint_sarah/

CONNECT WITH HEATHER:

• Follow Heather on IG: https://www.instagram.com/heatherparady/
• Access Full Show Notes Here: https://www.heatherparady.com/blog/183

Fally Klein is a Jewish educator, hypnotherapist, and breathwork facilitator whose work brings together Jewish mysticism, psychology, and constellations. In this conversation, she explains how we experience spirit through the physical body and why spiritual practices should ultimately change how we live. I also asked her about her work with Constellations, her perception on the connection between consciousness and creativity, and how as communicators we can be True Vessels.

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TOPICS FROM THIS EPISODE:

• What is consciousness? (and experiencing it through the physical body)
• Embodied spirituality (why and how to tap into spirit through the body)
• Individual vs. collective consciousness
• Where ideas come from (and becoming a vessel for creative ideas)

CONNECT WITH FALLY KLEIN: https://www.fallyklein.com/

CONNECT WITH HEATHER:

• Follow Heather on IG: https://www.instagram.com/heatherparady/
• Access Full Show Notes Here: https://www.heatherparady.com/blog/182

Keith Giles is an author and the co-owner of Quoir Publishing. He has spent years not only authoring nonfiction books around theology and deconstruction, but also helping authors get their messages out into the world. Recently, however, he opened Pink Beam Press, specifically for science fiction authors. This was not just a business decision, but an intentional choice to explore how fiction can communicate truth in an unconventional manner.

I wanted to have Keith on today to discuss how fiction can reach and impact people in ways that nonfiction cannot. In this conversation, we explore the power of metaphor, the limitations of language, and how to let go of our own agendas in order to allow something else to move through us through the power of storytelling.

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TOPICS FROM THIS EPISODE:

• Why stories can get past our defenses when arguments can’t
• How to communicate truth without forcing an agenda
• How fiction can create empathy and help us reconsider our perspective

CONNECT WITH KEITH GILES:

• Pink Beam Press: https://quoir.com/pink-beam-press/
• Blog Mentioned: https://www.patheos.com/blogs/keithgiles/2026/02/the-story-of-us

CONNECT WITH HEATHER:

• Follow Heather on IG: https://www.instagram.com/heatherparady/
• Access Full Show Notes Here: https://www.heatherparady.com/blog/181

Zac Cannon is not only an award-winning storyteller, novelist, and screenwriter…he is also a pastor. His background is in film and fiction writing, but he has also spent years communicating from the pulpit.

In this conversation, I wanted to ask Zac about how (and if) the intention behind storytelling changes across fiction and spirituality. We also talk about the difference between compelling an audience and manipulating one, and how to communicate strong convictions while still leaving room for curiosity.

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TOPICS FROM THIS EPISODE:

• What is the difference between telling a story and delivering a message?
• How do you communicate strong convictions without manipulating your audience?
• Does a good story need an agenda—or should you let the audience decide what it means?
• How do you give yourself permission to create without needing your work to serve a larger purpose?
• How can fiction help us understand perspectives and experiences outside our own?

CONNECT WITH ZAC CANNON:

• Website: https://zaccannon.com/
• Buy ‘Stillwater Trace’: https://zaccannon.com/books/stillwater-trace-a-novel-zac-cannon/B0H5XHW244

CONNECT WITH HEATHER:

• Follow Heather on IG: https://www.instagram.com/heatherparady/
• Access Full Show Notes Here: https://www.heatherparady.com/blog/180

On Nigel Darius’s IG bio, he says that he is “helping the world heal…with words.” As an artist, he uses storytelling and language to foster empathy, curiosity, and human connection. In his latest book, We Say Shalom, he looks at 40 words across 15 languages to uncover their meaning, deepening our experience and connection as humans.

In this conversation, we explore the responsibility that comes with using your voice: how to communicate honestly while having respect for nuance, why we should never avoid discomfort if we really want to grow, and the dangers of when we stop listening to perspectives outside our own. Nigel shares why “agreeability does not lead to authenticity,” how artists can use their unique voice to reflect culture back to itself, and why every communicator should remember that within every word, there is a world.

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TOPICS FROM THIS EPISODE:

• As a communicator, how do you get around the limitations of language?
• How to communicate truth without losing nuance
• How to develop a message with depth

CONNECT WITH NIGEL DARIUS:

• Website: https://nigeldarius.com/
• His book, ‘We Say Shalom’: https://a.co/d/08qXXBd0
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nigeldarius/

CONNECT WITH HEATHER:

• Follow Heather on IG: https://www.instagram.com/heatherparady/
• Access Full Show Notes Here: https://www.heatherparady.com/blog/179

Doogie Horner is an accomplished author, illustrator, and stand-up comedian. Across each medium, he’s learned how to navigate the tension between making work you believe in and accepting when folks don’t get it.

In this conversation, we discuss how to respect and develop your creative point of view without becoming closed off to feedback, why your “sketchbook should be a laboratory, not a gallery,” and how to stay enthusiastic when you can’t control how people respond.

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TOPICS FROM THIS EPISODE:

• Looking at your work objectively and navigating criticism (and praise)
• Developing your point of view while staying open to growth
• Staying enthusiastic about your work when success isn’t guaranteed

CONNECT WITH DOOGIE HORNER:

• Website: https://www.doogiehorner.com/comedy
• His book, ‘The Adventures of Invisible Boy’: https://a.co/d/023ICvDa
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doogiehorner/

CONNECT WITH HEATHER:

• Follow Heather on IG: https://www.instagram.com/heatherparady/
• Access Full Show Notes Here: https://www.heatherparady.com/blog/178

Catherine Plano is an executive coach, leadership expert, author, and host of The Catherine Plano Podcast. Drawing from psychology, emotional intelligence, and decades of coaching leaders, Catherine helps people understand the patterns, beliefs, and emotional reactions that quietly shape how they experience the world.

In this conversation, we explore what our emotional triggers are actually trying to tell us, why curiosity is one of the most powerful tools for personal growth, and how the stories we carry influence the way we respond to conflict, relationships, and ourselves. Catherine shares practical ways to create space between reaction and response, challenge unconscious patterns, and better understand the inner narratives driving our behavior.

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TOPICS FROM THIS EPISODE:

• What your emotional triggers are really trying to tell you
• How curiosity interrupts reactive thinking
• Why the stories you believe shape the life you experience

CONNECT WITH CATHERINE PLANO:

• Website: https://www.catherineplano.com.au/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catherineplano
• Listen to ‘The Catherine Plano Podcast’: https://open.spotify.com/show/3H8vdgXprgfHf9wrSJnPbn

CONNECT WITH HEATHER:

• Follow Heather on IG: https://www.instagram.com/heatherparady/
• Access Full Show Notes Here: https://www.heatherparady.com/blog/177