I had this idea of having a husband that would be home every night for dinner. A husband that would have weekends off. A husband that I would see every day with some exceptions. A husband I would be able to attend events with.

This is not what it's like for us.

In singleness, I had this idea of what I thought my marriage would look like. Don't get me wrong, my husband is the perfect man for me, but our life is not what I expected.

While I was waiting for my husband, God had me in a season of preparation. At the time I didn't know what I was preparing for, but now I do! I share what God did to prepare me and how I am living that out to this day even in marriage!

Allow God to prepare you for what he has coming!

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It is possible to long for a husband AND be content in singleness.

You are waiting for a spouse. You have a deep desire to be married, but you don’t know how or when. You may be asking yourself, “Will I be single forever?” You have days you feel okay with your situation. Other days are a struggle and you often cry out of frustration or disappointment.

Regardless, this is the season you are in, so how do you make the most of it?

I was in this season of waiting for a spouse for many years. I watched friends get married, and I was in a number of bridal parties. I had many moments of doubt and frustration. I cried in bed at night thinking it would never happen for me. I had a matchmaker, dating coach, and a mentor. I went on dating apps, attended events, until one day something changed in my heart and mind.

I share what I did and how I learned to wait well in singleness. My desire and longing for a husband didn’t go away, but I was able to shift my focus and enjoy the life I did have.

Get the document here with steps to wait well.

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As Christians we are told to surrender, but how do we do that?

Surrender is a heart posture. It’s letting go of what you think you know and giving it to God. It’s inviting the Holy Spirit into every part of who you are. It’s trusting God has your life in his hands and the ultimate plan for you.

Surrender is not a one and done situation. It is daily. How do we do this? I will share what it looked like for me during my season of singleness. I will share how I got to the most desperate place while still having a desire for a husband.

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"He's not my type"

Have you said this before? I sure have! I share advice from my own experience to help you meet the right person. The person you think is not your type may be the one for you all along.

Give him a chance! What do you have to lose? Worst case, you never have to talk to him again, best case you marry him!

Give God control and trust that he has the perfect person for you. Once I did this, everything changed!

I give 4 pieces of advice to help you work through this concept. One may surprise you : )

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I host an online community for single women and in this group there were some questions and topics they brought up. I thought it would be a good idea to talk about them more in depth here on this episode.

We discuss:

How to Meet Singles

• Single Women Collective
• volosports.com
• meetup.com
• IRL San Diego

How to be Available/Approachable

When is it appropriate to make the first move (especially as a woman)

Free gift for you! Here are tips I used to prepare myself to be a wife!

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This is a difficult question to think about, but what if? What if you don't get married? What if all you have in this life is Jesus? Is that enough?

Let's work through this thought and question together!

Spoiler: God IS enough and he knows what you need.

Here are some resources and free guides for you:

• How to Prepare to Be a Wife (Guide)
• How to have Self-Confidence (Guide)
• Single Women Collective: How to Wait Well (online community)
• 1:1 coaching with me! (info here and to set up a free consultation)
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• Read the articles I've written on Substack
• Read my book!
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You have a deep desire to have a husband. You don’t know how or when you will meet him. One day you want to have a successful marriage, so why not start now on preparing yourself to be a wife!

While I was single I had a mindset shift and thought, if I wanted to meet an amazing, healthy man, I need to be that myself. I needed to prepare myself to be a wife. I will share with you what I did to do just that.

I am here to tell you that I am not perfect and I am still growing and learning, but I stepped into marriage more prepared and sure of myself and the man I was marrying because of the steps I took to prepare.

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Have you heard the phrase, "I'll sleep when I'm dead"? Well, you may die sooner than you think with this mindset. Sleep is when your body recovers, restores, rejuvenates. All the systems in your body operate because of sleep. Don't underestimate it.

In this episode, I share research and studies about sleep. I share how many hours you actually need and practical ways to help you be able to fall asleep and have quality sleep.

One device I mention that will help with sleep is Red Light. Here is the link for a discount for Lumebox or use the code NIKKIH

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Here are the references and resources I used during my research

• https://health.clevelandclinic.org/are-energy-drinks-for-kids-a-good-idea

• https://health.clevelandclinic.org/are-energy-drinks-bad-for-you

• https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10535526/

• https://www.fda.gov/consumers/consumer-updates/spilling-beans-how-much-caffeine-too-much#:~:text=For%20healthy%20adults%2C%20the%20FDA,it%20(break%20it%20down).

• https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2528821/

• https://archive.cdc.gov/www_cdc_gov/healthyschools/features/students-sleep.htm

• https://www.thensf.org/what-to-know-about-teens-and-sleep/

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G0Zj_InJ4BQ&t=2s

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7mTQbtZnN68

• https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/134/3/642/74175/School-Start-Times-for-Adolescents?autologincheck=redirected

• https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/doomscrolling-dangers