Why do some men believe they deserve a girlfriend simply because they've worked on themselves? In this episode I discuss how self-improvement can turn into entitlement, why rejection can threaten our sense of self-worth, how we’ve started treating love like a transaction, and why real connection requires accepting that someone has the freedom to choose you, or not to.

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⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS

00:00 why men feel entitled to girlfriends

00:56 where entitlement begins

02:04 the desire to be loved

03:24 when self-improvement becomes a promise

07:14 how rejection creates entitlement

11:52 why love becomes transactional

14:15 being needed vs. being wanted

16:05 the meaning of being chosen

17:50 why finding the right person takes time

19:29 you can't optimize your way into love

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Social media tells us what love looks like and requires, so then why are we all still miserable? In this episode I discuss what social media tells us about love, how applying universal love rules is harmful, what my parents’ 30-year marriage taught me about love, how to define compatibility for yourself, and how to figure out what you want in a partner.

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⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS

00:00 how social media shapes our idea of love

01:20 welcome to touching grass

01:44 what social media tells us about love

04:13 why we want rules for love

06:45 how we adopt other people's standards

07:56 what my parents’ 30-year marriage taught me about love

10:55 what makes a relationship work

12:01 finding your own definition of compatibility

15:22 do you actually want what you want?

16:25 figuring out what you want in a partner

18:12 deciding what's right for you

19:38 please subscribe and engage

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Are tradwives desperate pick me's or is there something deeper to the appeal?

In today's episode, I explore the hidden emotions that might be driving the appeal of traditional gender roles, from the desire to feel chosen and find purpose to the burnout of modern life. As part of my new Unfinished Thoughts series, I question my own assumptions to explore why more women are drawn to this lifestyle, what it reveals about our society, and how we might be blaming the wrong things for the struggles we share.

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⏱️ CHAPTERS & TIME STAMPS

00:00 why are women becoming tradwives?

01:17 introducing unfinished thoughts (new series)

02:29 what makes the tradwife lifestyle so appealing?

04:02 are tradwives just desperate to feel chosen?

06:21 what is the draw to submission?

07:45 how traditional gender roles give identity and purpose

09:13 what does ‘men are the protectors’ even mean?

10:39 from girlboss to tradwife: did women get lied to?

12:44 maybe this is about burnout, not feminism?

13:54 we’re more similar to tradwives than we think

14:36 understanding matters more than criticizing

15:34 why do you think the tradwife life is appealing?

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