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The calendar flipped, but you don’t need to. We’re pushing back on the “new year, new me” pressure and choosing a gentler, more honest shift: same life, new boundaries. Instead of chasing a total reboot, we’re focusing on small, repeatable choices that protect energy, reduce guilt, and make room for the kind of growth that actually lasts.

We unpack why January hype so often backfires, and how quiet, consistent actions outpace dramatic announcements. You’ll hear practical ways to do less but do it better: shorter replies without long explanations, scheduled rest treated like a real commitment, and simple scripts that help you say no under pressure. We talk through the moment you realize you’re pouring into spaces that don’t pour back, and how to step away with clarity rather than resentment.

There’s also a honest look at pushback: some people prefer you without boundaries. We name that reality, and offer a mindset shift for staying steady when others say you’ve changed. Choosing peace over people pleasing doesn’t make you cold; it makes you clear. That clarity helps the right relationships grow stronger while freeing you from constant performance and accessibility. If you’ve been craving a softer pace, fewer drains, and a year that feels intentional instead of urgent, this conversation gives you language, tools, and permission to protect what matters most.

If this lands, tap follow, share it with a friend who needs a boundary boost, and leave a quick review with one boundary you’re setting this year. Your small choices can change everything—what’s the one limit you’ll keep?

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In this raw and ridiculously real episode, Alyssa B. takes us behind the bathroom door-arms sore mid-retwist, Apple Music on shuffle, and a full-on breakdown brewing in the mirror. From the tangled mess of healing while in a relationship to flashbacks of Rashad-level nonsense, she packs what it means to date when your heart's still under renovation. With humor, honesty, and a little self-love sermon-this is your reminder that healing is not liner-but your edges still deserve to be laid.

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Whew. Where do I even start? Your girl has been MIA, but not without reason. In this reintroduction episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on life lately—because babyyyyy, the ghetto has been active. From burnout to breakthroughs, from “I quit” moments to “I’m built for this” realizations, we’re unpacking it all. This isn’t a comeback—it’s a realignment. Press play and let’s catch up like old friends over wine and Wi-Fi. This Isn’t That… and I’m back in my bag.

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