What happens when you’ve spent so long trying to fit in that you’re no longer sure who you are underneath?

In episode 3 of Finally Figuring It Out, Midlife Chaos, I explore masking, the version of ourselves we present to the world to feel accepted, avoid criticism or keep ourselves safe.

From being told I was “too much” to becoming a social chameleon, I share the exhaustion of appearing to cope while constantly second guessing myself.

I talk about people pleasing, overthinking, social overload and learning to say no without guilt. I also reflect on menopause, coping strategies that stopped working and receiving an ADHD diagnosis at 49 and an autism diagnosis at 52.

There’s even a story about cream and butter, because discovering yourself can start with questioning the smallest things you’ve always believed.

This is an honest conversation about recognising the mask and finding people with whom you feel safe enough to loosen it.

Expect humour, a little swearing and plenty of questions.

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Next time: the nervous system, living on high alert, and where neurodivergence, trauma and hormones fit in.

Disclaimer: This podcast shares personal experiences, opinions and general information. It is not intended as medical or mental health advice and should not replace guidance from a qualified healthcare professional.