In this powerful return episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala and Yolie peel back the layers on what happens when you finally pause. When the burnout bubbles over, when the boundaries break, and when life says—“Be still or be broken.”

Lala opens up about her 8-month break from the podcast and how the silence wasn’t empty... it was sacred. Yolie discusses taking the entire 2025 to choose herself, unapologetically. This episode explores the radical revelations that surface when you stop performing and start paying attention:
✨ How burnout is not a badge but a betrayal.
✨ Why clarity, peace, and purpose don’t shout—they whisper in the pause.
✨ And how hitting pause is not the end... it’s a powerful portal to your next becoming.

From redefining legacy to releasing what no longer honors you, this conversation is your gentle permission slip to stop, reassess, and choose you again.

👑 Press play and discover the wisdom waiting for you in the stillness.
🎧 Listen now. Share it with someone who’s tired of holding it all together.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Pause

00:45 The Importance of Authenticity

04:03 Navigating Life's Challenges

13:13 Understanding Burnout

21:31 Lessons from Relationships

31:28 Setting Boundaries and Letting Go

34:09 Embracing Imperfection and Redefining Legacy

38:46 The Power of Release and Transformation

43:53 Gratitude and Acknowledgment of Support

44:35 The Villain Archetype and Personal Growth

45:47 Unsubscribing from Negativity and Chaos

Sound Bites

"The pause was a gift."

"The assignment is me."

"Honor thyself."

In this episode of The Spilled Milk Podcast, Lala unpacks the emotional exhaustion that often follows deep inner work. If you’ve been doing all the things—therapy, journaling, breathwork, meditation—but still feel stuck, lost, or spiritually drained, this conversation is for you.

Lala introduces the concept of overtooling: the compulsive use of healing tools and self-help practices without actually connecting to the self beneath them. She explores how energetic consumption (what we take in from others) and energetic congestion (what we store and never release) quietly shape our emotional overwhelm and disconnect us from true transformation.

Through personal insight and soulful reflection, this episode challenges the idea that healing is something to achieve, and instead centers the truth that sustainable growth requires presence—not just performance. If you've been wondering why the tools aren’t working, this is your moment of clarity.

TAKEAWAYS

It's perfectly okay to cry about your spilled milk.

We often confuse doing the work with being with ourselves.

Energetic consumption is the intake of unprocessed emotional debris.

Over tooling can lead to feeling stuck and unfulfilled.

Tools are essential but cannot replace self-discovery.

We need to meet ourselves in our healing journey.

Sitting in silence can be more productive than using tools.

We often hide behind tools instead of facing our emotions.

Self-abandonment can occur even with good intentions.

Healing is a continuous journey, not a checklist.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Over Tooling and Self Abandonment

04:28 Understanding Energetic Consumption and Congestion

09:59 The Dangers of Over Tooling

18:51 The Limitations of Healing Tools

28:37 Recognizing Over Tooling in Our Lives

33:43 The Importance of Internal Work

37:07 Space Adventures and Celebrity Experiences

40:02 Innovative Solutions to Unusual Problems

44:16 Reflections on Healing and Self-Discovery

After a much-needed pause since March 1, your favorite host Lala is back with guest, Nichelle, for a deep, raw, and soul-stretching conversation to mark the return of The Spilled Milk Podcast. This is not just an episode—it’s a reclamation, and we’re unpacking all the emotional suitcases we’ve been carrying.

In this extended and unfiltered comeback episode, we dive into:

🍼 Parenting through fear and the emotional layers children absorb
🍼 The influence of media on kids and protecting their peace
🍼 A reflective trip to New York City that stirred growth and healing
🍼 Church hurt, betrayal, and how to rebuild spiritual trust
🍼 The power of energetic detox and what we allow into our spaces
🍼 Breaking generational patterns that glorify burnout
🍼 The quiet war of over-communication vs. sacred silence
🍼 The illusion of quick fixes and the reality of soul work

At the center of it all is energetic consumption—what we take in, hold on to, and unknowingly carry in our bodies, our homes, our parenting, and our spirits.

• Parenting through fear? That’s about the energy we absorb and pass down.

• Church hurt and spiritual disillusionment? That’s energetic wounding and spiritual clutter.

• Generational cycles, burnout, always being “on”? That’s unsustainable energetic output.

• Rest, boundaries, silence, and detox? That’s the path to energetic healing.

  
  

We talk GOD, boundaries, faith beyond tradition, biblical literacy, and the necessity of emotional processing. We hold space for you to feel seen in your healing journey—whether you’re parenting through pain, grieving spiritual community, or learning to love yourself outside of performance.

✨ It’s honest. It’s healing. It’s everything we’ve been holding in—and now it’s poured out.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Welcome Back and Podcast Updates

12:15 Navigating Media Influence on Children

18:07 Reflections on New York City

26:19 Understanding Church Hurt

32:40 The Role of Community in Healing

37:42 Recognizing Cult-like Behaviors in Churches

44:33 Finding God Beyond the Church Walls

51:05 Decluttering the Soul

57:32 Communicating Boundaries and Emotions

01:06:15 Unresolved Emotions and Their Impact

01:11:34 Intentional Relationships and Boundaries

01:19:04 Detaching from Past Relationships

01:26:47 The Process of Healing and Decluttering

01:34:09 The Importance of Facing Unresolved Issues

01:43:43 Nourishing the Soul: Applying God's Word

01:49:18 Genesis and the Foundation of Creation

01:56:19 Permission to Feel: Embracing Your Emotions

02:01:30 Returning to Your Spiritual Center

02:08:05 Mindful Communication: The Dangers of Talking Too Much

02:15:16 Releasing Energetic Clutter

02:20:16 Understanding Tithing and Community Support

02:25:39 Navigating Church Hurt and Financial Concerns

02:31:43 Final Thoughts on Worthiness and Self-Care