Lottie and Elliot talk about being Blindsided by Betrayal: Navigating the Aftermath (We Talk Cheating): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z0PR4-GNlDE&t=196s

We delve into the emotional turmoil in the relationships, and explore the initial shock, the grief cycle, and the complex emotions that follow discovering infidelity. Through personal anecdotes and listener comments, they discuss coping strategies, the potential for relationship repair, and the importance of transparency and communication. The conversation also touches on the societal and personal factors that contribute to infidelity and the path to healing and growth after such a betrayal.

Takeaways

The shock of betrayal can trigger a profound grief cycle.
Transparency and open communication are crucial for healing.
Infidelity often stems from unmet needs or personal issues.
Coping strategies vary widely among individuals.
Therapy can facilitate honest dialogue and potential repair.
Personal growth is possible even after deep betrayal.
Understanding the root causes of infidelity is essential.
Healing requires time, patience, and mutual effort.
The journey to recovery can lead to a stronger relationship.
Each story of betrayal is unique and complex.


Chapters

00:00:00 Introduction to Betrayal
00:03:00 The Grief Cycle
00:09:00 Coping Strategies
00:15:00 Path to Healing
00:21:00 Rebuilding Trust


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Welcome to The Paradox of Change - your couples therapy and relationship advice channel hosted by three experienced therapists. We believe there has to be an I before We.

Struggling with trust issues, affair recovery, sexual rejection, or intimacy problems? Whether you're dealing with a sexless marriage, low libido, or rejection sensitivity - we help you build a stronger relationship with yourself first, so you can create healthier connections with others.

What You'll Get:
- Expert couples therapy insights from practicing therapists
- Self improvement strategies for personal growth and emotional intelligence
- Real talk about boundaries, attachment styles, and relationship problems
- Practical psychology tools for intimacy issues and emotional intimacy
- Honest discussions about sexual intimacy and healing

In this interview, you’ll learn:
How to Stop Trying to “Fix” Your Partner
How to Recognize the Real Issue Beneath the Argument
How to Make Conflict a Source of Connection
How to Move from Blame to Responsibility
How to Stay Grounded When Your Values Clash
How to Build a Relationship That Grows with You

Hosted by Lottie Parker (Sex & Intimacy Specialist), Elliot Burgess, and Clair Law - therapists who understand that healing starts within.

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Lottie Passell-Syms and Natalie Wanner explore the complexities of OPEN relationships, communication, and intimacy. They discuss the impact of past trauma on current relationships, the dynamics of low desire, and the importance of accountability and radical acceptance in navigating intimacy. You may like this episode https://youtu.be/AC08xbGuadU

The conversation emphasises the need for open dialogue about the intimate act and intimacy, the challenges of celibacy, and the significance of understanding one's own needs and desires within a relationship. They also touch on the evolving definitions of marriage and the necessity of intimacy for growth in any relationship. In this conversation, Lottie Passell-Syms and Natalie explore the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on open relationships, boundaries, communication, and the importance of maintaining individuality. They discuss the significance of the intimate actin sustaining connection, the impact of trauma, and the necessity of curiosity over blame in communication. The dialogue emphasizes the need for clear boundaries, the role of self-identity, and the importance of seeking intervention when necessary. Ultimately, they advocate for a relationship design that allows for personal growth and mutual support.

Takeaways
Open relationships can provide new perspectives on intimacy.
Miscommunication is a major barrier in relationships.
Understanding past trauma is crucial for healthy intimacy.
Low desire often stems from a lack of effort in relationships.
The intimate act should not be a taboo topic in relationships.
Radical acceptance can help individuals cope with celibacy.


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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@nataliewanner5196/videos
- Natalies Book: Crazy in the inside: https://www.amazon.com/Crazy-Inside-Memoir-Nobody-Special/dp/1701860201
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/reel/1425685391886010
- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/discover/natalie-wanner-openmarried
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Chapters
00:00 Building a YouTube Presence
01:14 Natalie's Background and Open Marriage
05:16 Communication in Relationships
10:07 Desire and Effort in Relationships
14:46 Navigating intimate Health and Boundaries
19:43 Radical Acceptance and Personal Responsibility
23:52 Navigating Intimacy and Compassion in Relationships
25:50 The Importance of Liking Your Partner
27:52 Redefining Marriage: Compatibility vs. Alignment
30:19 Open Relationships: Contracts and Communication
32:20 The Role of Family in Marriage Dynamics
33:58 Boundaries and Transparency in Non-Monogamous Relationships
36:04 Creating a Relationship by Design
38:04 The Impact of COVID on Relationship Dynamics
40:11 Reigniting Passion and Intimacy
45:03 The Role of intimacy in Sustaining Connection
49:37 Rediscovering Individual Identity in Relationships
50:25 Questioning Life Choices
51:31 Community and Collective Growth
52:45 Self-Discovery and Personal Growth
54:48 Navigating Relationships and Support
57:08 Addressing Intimacy Issues
58:21 Communication and Trust in Relationships
01:00:38 The Impact of Comfort on Relationships

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