What is it that people love so much about Andrew?! Within six months of meeting now-husband Andrew, Zoë wrote a document containing 12 items that she loved about him; 12 truths that made her want to be in a relationship with him. The presence of safety, security, and deep relaxation in a partnership is the bedrock of true freedom. It's the point where life stops being a complicated burden and becomes an open field for shared growth. Join the conversation as Zoë (and Andrew) take listeners through those 12 truths, sharing nuggets of wisdom, relatable stories, and other key relationship insights along the way. Thanks for listening!

Key Points From This Episode:

• The topic of today’s conversation: 12 truths about who Andrew is.

• Why she chose the title “The Trouble with Andrew” for today’s podcast.

• He knows who he is.

• He knows who he is not, and he shows up as himself in all situations.

• Andrew is present to what is.

• He is curious: he asks questions to mine for the truth.

• Why you should try to cultivate resilience: working to resolve your triggers.

• Zoë shares a quick aside: the spanking story.

• Andrew knows how to slow down: maximizing connection and intimacy.

• He allows the process of unfolding.

• He doesn’t always take Zoë seriously.

• They both share their perspectives on the story about the first time Zoë allowed him to make her angry.

• He holds me while I try to figure myself out.

• Andrew has a high tolerance for discomfort.

• He is available and will receive Zoë at any time.

• He’s able to accept Zoë and her experience of the world as her truth.

• Andrew walks the talk: he has a strong, constant awareness of the relative and the absolute in every moment.

Quotes:

“Andrew is curious, he doesn’t make assumptions based on his own expectations or judgements. [He] asksquestions to mine for the truth.” — Zoë Kors [0:08:13]

“The more easily you're triggered, the more easily you can be manipulated.” — Zoë Kors [0:10:49]

“I'm able to be wildly expressed with Andrew.” — Zoë Kors [0:25:31]

“Most men try to fix me. Andrew simply holds me while I figure out how to fix myself.” — Zoë Kors [0:27:23]

“When you point a finger at somebody else, you're pointing more back at yourself.” — Andrew Thomas Roth [0:28:16]

“Some people want to have a tight leash on their partners. If you have a leash on your partner, who's at the other end of it? You think that you're controlling the other partner, but you're at the other end of that leash and neither party can be truly free in that.” — Andrew Thomas Roth [0:35:20]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Zoë Kors

Bhakti Fest

Eckhart Tolle

Terry Real

Thich Nhat Hanh

Radical Intimacy

The Radical Intimacy Podcast

Most people have no idea what sex really is and are still holding onto distorted images of it. So, today on Radical Intimacy, we are discussing six things that everyone needs to know about sex! Tuning in, you’ll hear all about sex as a state of being instead of a state of doing, why having an orgasm shouldn’t be the goal of sex, thoughts on blue balls, and so much more! We delve into why pleasure is a necessary ingredient for life before discussing what causes us to disconnect from our sexuality. We go on to explain why no one ever owes anyone sex (even in relationships), balancing that right with the sexual needs we all have, and the power of intimacy outside of the bedroom. You’ll even learn about how the nervous system shapes ‘good’ sex. Finally, we talk about the spiritual side of sex and why sex can be an awakening. This is an episode that everyone needs to listen to, so be sure to tune in now and share it with your partner and/or friends!

Key Points From This Episode:

• How knowing these six things about sex will make the world a bit better.
• Why sex isn’t something we do, it’s something we are.
• Zoë explains why orgasm is not the goal of sex.
• Why we don’t believe that blue balls are a real thing.
• Pleasure is your birthright; it is not optional!
• Where disconnection in partnership and sexuality comes from.
• Why you are not entitled to your partner’s body.
• How intimacy outside the bedroom sets relationships up for success.
• Why your nervous system needs to be relaxed to enjoy sex.
• How to help your partner regulate and soothe their nervous systems.
• Why sex can be a path to an awakening and the power of presence.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Zoë Kors

Zoë Kors on Instagram

Zoë Kors on LinkedIn

Zoë Kors on Facebook

Radical Intimacy

The Radical Intimacy Podcast

What really makes sex good? In this intimate, honest conversation, Zoë and Andrew open up about sex, presence, fantasy, and the myths that can keep us disconnected from authentic desire. They unpack why presence (not performance) defines great sex, how societal and cultural conditioning shape our sexuality, and why real intimacy thrives when we strip away self-imposed constraints. Along the way, they also explore how everyday care and affection build the foundation for a satisfying sex life in long-term relationships. Tune in for a candid, thought-provoking exploration that might just shift the way you think about sex and inspire you to have some powerful conversations of your own!

Key Points From This Episode:

• Why presence is at the heart of great sex.

• The mental noise that kills sexual connection.

• How fantasy can deepen intimacy or distract from it.

• Ways that societal norms can distort our sexual expression.

• Six influences that shape our sexuality.

• Why sex education fails us (and what’s missing).

• The unseen impact of everyday affection.

• Cultivating a climate of love and appreciation in long-term relationships.

• Self-expression versus self-suppression in intimacy.

• Insight into the paradox of personal evolution in relationships.

• The power of choosing openness and curiosity over defensiveness.

• Meeting your partner’s needs through giving, receiving, and mutual care.

Quotes:

“We're in this pleasure machinery that's driven by and symbiotic with our imaginations. Wouldn't the healthy thing be to explore that?” — Zoë Kors [0:10:47]

“[Societal norms] are obstacles that are being piled up between two people who are trying to become more intimate and more present.” — Andrew Rothmund [0:11:41]

“What makes sex good in a long-term committed partnership is the constant cultivation of a climate in which both partners feel loved, appreciated, seen, [and] desired. ” — Zoë Kors [0:22:49]

“Relationship is the boot camp of self-realization.” — Zoë Kors [0:28:34]

“Strive to be better. Strive for constant and never-ending improvement.” — Andrew Rothmund [0:31:08]

“Sometimes, receiving is giving to the other person.” — Andrew Rothmund [0:42:00]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

S1E8: Rewrite Your Sex Script with Dr. Ian Kerner

The Intimacy Lab: Zoë Kors Substack

Zoë Kors

Andrew Rothmund

Radical Intimacy

The Radical Intimacy Podcast