In this episode of The Playbook Podcast, Ken Eslick and Onika Kwatsha welcome back executive coach and performance expert Rich Waterman to explore one of the most fundamental forces in human behavior: Identity.

Many leaders and high achievers struggle to achieve their goals not because of a lack of skill or strategy, but because their internal narrative directly contradicts what they are trying to build. Drawing from their extensive backgrounds in executive coaching and Tony Robbins' organization, Ken and Rich unpack the incredible power behind the words "I am" and how your core self-concept shapes your daily performance, leadership style, and long-term success.

💡 Key Takeaways

• The Power of "I Am": Whatever follows "I am" represents what you hold as absolute truth about yourself. If your goal conflicts with your core identity, you will subconsciously find ways to sabotage your success.
• Beware the "Conspiracy of Mediocrity": Societal norms often teach us to play small or bond over shared failures rather than boldly stating our strengths. Recognizing your true capabilities isn't arrogance; it's clarity.
• Cross-Mapping Strengths: You can upgrade weak identity areas by "cross-mapping" belief patterns and capabilities from areas of your life where you already excel (e.g., applying public speaking confidence to networking).
• Confronting the Wake-Up Call: Reality checks—such as facing an unexpected physical or professional hurdle—force you to interface with your true identity and decide whether to accept drift or demand better.
• The Four Quadrants of Identity: Use Rich's framework—Love, Hate, Achievements, and Zone of Genius—to audit your current self-narrative and align daily actions with your innate strengths.

⏱️ Timestamps

• 00:00 – Introduction: Why Identity and the Words "I Am" Matter
• 02:00 – Defining "I Am": How Self-Belief Dictates Results and Sabotage
• 04:00 – The "Conspiracy of Mediocrity": Downplaying Success for Social Connection
• 07:15 – How Identity is Formed and Changing It via Cross-Mapping
• 10:30 – Personal Blueprints vs. External Goals: Why Ambition Fails Without Belief
• 12:15 – Leadership Traps: Imposing External Identity Standards on Teams
• 16:00 – The Danger of Lying to Yourself vs. True Identity Evolution
• 20:30 – Wake-Up Calls: Ken’s 5K Story and Turning Frustration Into Action
• 24:00 – The Four Quadrants Exercise: Love, Hate, Achievements, and Zone of Genius
• 26:30 – Action Step: Auditing Your Wheel of Life to Reset Identity

🤝 Connect with the Guest & Hosts

• Rich Waterman’s Website: https richwaterman.com
• Rich Waterman on LinkedIn: https linkedin.com/in/richwaterman
• Ken Eslick on LinkedIn: https linkedin.com/in/keneslick
• The Leaders Lab Website: https theleaderslab.co

At The Leaders Lab, we help organizations improve hiring, leadership, communication, and team performance by understanding the human behaviors and belief systems that drive success. From behavioral assessments and executive coaching to hiring strategy and culture development, we help companies make smarter people decisions with greater clarity and confidence.

🤝 Work with Us: https calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting

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In this episode of The Playbook Podcast, Ken Eslick and Onika Kwatsha are rejoined by executive coach and performance expert Rich Waterman to unpack State, Story, and Strategy - the foundational framework for peak execution.

Many leaders believe they have a strategy problem when, in reality, they have a state problem. Even the most flawless business plan will fail if executed from a poor emotional state or supported by self-sabotaging narrative loops. Drawing from their shared background in Tony Robbins’ organization, Ken and Rich break down how to self-regulate emotional states when working remotely, leverage physical and auditory triggers to alter your mindset, and use the "state-first" sequence to drive high-performance results across your team.

• State Precedes Execution: A great strategy cannot overcome a depleted or reactive emotional state. High performance begins with managing your internal state, which unlocks supportive stories and enables clear execution.
• Shift Mindset via the Triad: You can deliberately alter a poor emotional state by adjusting your physiology (movement and breathing), focus, and internal or external language.
• Design "Catalyst Behaviors": Establish structured morning and evening routines—using music, brisk movement, or strategic prep work—to set a baseline emotional state before tackling demanding tasks like cold calling.
• Lead with Empathy and Intuition: Leaders should actively monitor non-verbal physical and vocal cues in team members (such as slouched posture or changes in tone) to proactively support them before performance drops.
• Own Your Outcomes: Blaming external circumstances or poor tools temporarily protects the ego, but taking full ownership of your state, story, and strategy gives you total control to change your results.

• 00:00 – Introduction: Strategy Problem vs. State Problem
• 02:00 – Explaining the Triad: Why Emotional State Dictates Execution
• 04:45 – Self-Regulation for Remote Leaders: Controlling Your Mindset Alone
• 06:00 – Changing Your Triad: Leveraging Physiology, Focus, and Language
• 07:30 – Building an Emotional Playbook for Difficult Tasks
• 09:30 – Aligning Daily Schedules with Peak Energy Windows
• 11:30 – Catalyst Behaviors: Using Morning/Evening Routines and Prep Work
• 14:00 – The Feedback Loop: How Strategy and State Reinforce Each Other
• 15:30 – Identifying State Shifts and Non-Verbal Cues in Team Members
• 18:00 – Physicality Tricks: Resetting Your Body Like an Athlete
• 20:30 – Case Study: How One Feedback Session Triggered Three Unique State Responses
• 23:30 – The Power of Ownership: Overcoming the Victim Mindset

• Rich Waterman’s Website: https://richwaterman.com/
• Rich Waterman on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/richwaterman/
• Ken Eslick on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/
• The Leaders Lab Website: https://theleaderslab.co

At The Leaders Lab, we help organizations improve hiring, leadership, communication, and team performance by understanding the human behaviors and belief systems that drive success. From behavioral assessments and executive coaching to hiring strategy and culture development, we help companies make smarter people decisions with greater clarity and confidence.

• 🤝 Work with Us: https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting

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In this episode of The Playbook Podcast, Ken Eslick and Onika Kwatsha dive into the critical differences between leadership and management, exploring why exceptional managers don't always become great leaders and how spending time on the wrong activities holds businesses back.

Management focuses on operations, execution, administration, and dotting the i's and crossing the t's, while leadership focuses on vision, motivation, and forward-thinking. Ken and Onika break down real-world business responsibilities—like running payroll, designing compensation plans, and hiring—to help leaders audit their calendars, delegate effectively, and transition from fixing day-to-day problems to driving long-term strategic growth.

The conversation explores:

• The core differences between operational management and visionary leadership
• Why our brains naturally gravitate toward administrative tasks to avoid tough leadership moments
• How to audit your calendar and protect time for high-impact leadership activities
• Breaking down everyday business responsibilities: payroll, compensation philosophy, and hiring
• The art of delegation and avoiding the trap of managing without clear metrics
• Applying the "trust but verify" principle to empower your team
• How rising through the ranks changes your problem-solving responsibilities
• The power of radical self-honesty in tracking your time and energy

• 00:00 – Introduction: Leadership vs. Management
• 01:15 – Defining the differences: Operations and execution vs. vision and motivation
• 03:00 – Balancing administrative duties with visionary leadership
• 04:30 – Game time: Is running payroll management or leadership?
• 05:40 – Creating a compensation philosophy and delivering change
• 06:45 – Hiring: Why it's a mix of operational management and ultimate leadership ownership
• 08:30 – Why brains hide behind admin tasks to avoid hard leadership choices
• 10:20 – Calendar audits and designing intentional time blocks
• 13:00 – Delegating effectively: Moving from supervisor to CEO mindset
• 15:10 – The "trust but verify" framework and establishing clear scoreboards
• 18:00 – Practical steps for radical self-honesty and weekly calendar audits

• Ken on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keneslick/
• The Leaders Lab Website: https://theleaderslab.co

At The Leaders Lab, we help organizations improve hiring, leadership, communication, and team performance by understanding the human behaviors and belief systems that drive success. From behavioral assessments and leadership coaching to hiring strategy and culture development, we help companies make smarter people decisions with greater clarity and confidence.

Connect with us here to get started: https://calendly.com/theleaderslab/meeting

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