People-pleasing. Perfectionism. Over-apologizing.
On the surface, they can look like kindness, high standards, or self-awareness. But underneath, they often have something powerful in common.

In today's episode, we're unpacking how these behaviors are actually different strategies for avoiding discomfort. Avoiding conflict, failure, rejection, or being fully seen. While they may help us feel safer in the short term, they don't work long-term and often leave us exhausted, resentful, and disconnected from ourselves.

If you've ever said "sorry" when you didn't need to, struggled to let something be good enough, or bent yourself into a version that keeps everyone else comfortable, this episode will help you understand why and what this awareness can unlock instead.

• Why people-pleasing, perfectionism, and over-apologizing often show up together

• How these behaviors function as avoidance rather than true solutions

• The short-term relief vs. long-term cost of staying in these patterns

• How understanding the root of these habits creates real choice and freedom

• A reframing shift that can help you start responding instead of reacting

• People-pleasing as avoidance of conflict or rejection

• Perfectionism as avoidance of failure, criticism, or vulnerability

• Over-apologizing as avoidance of taking up space or being misunderstood

• Why awareness (not willpower) is the first step to change

• How these patterns are often learned, adaptive, and understandable

As you listen, notice which of these behaviors you rely on most when you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. What might it be protecting you from?