A man books the small chapel, the one they use when hardly anyone is expected, because his father was a fitter and turner who never ran anything and never won anything. Then people start arriving, and they keep arriving, until they're standing along the back wall and out into the corridor. A woman in her seventies takes his hand and tells him his father mowed her lawn every fortnight for eleven years after her husband died, and never mentioned it to anybody. That night he rings a friend and says, I had no idea who my father was.
In this episode, Graham explores manhood and the one question beneath all the noise on the subject: what a man's strength is for, through the lens of Scripture, theology, history, and cultural analysis. He traces the biblical answer from the two verbs God gives the first man in Genesis, to serve and to guard, through Lamech turning strength into a threat and David sparing a sleeping king, to Jesus settling the question of his own power in the desert before performing a single miracle, to the towel and basin on the last night of his life, and to Peter restored beside a charcoal fire. He engages with voices like Augustine on the lust to dominate, Dietrich Bonhoeffer on the man for others, Aelred of Rievaulx on friendship between men, and the chivalric and futuwwa traditions, alongside the research of Richard Reeves on boys and men, Niobe Way on the friendships boys bury in adolescence, and Terrence Real on how male depression hides itself. He looks honestly at the numbers on male suicide, loneliness, and help-seeking, at the two stories on offer to young men and why both fail, and at practices from Men's Sheds to men's fellowships in African and Latin American churches. And he asks what your strength actually is, who it's currently pointed at, and what it would take to redirect it this week.
Book recommendations:
"Of Boys and Men" by Richard V. Reeves, "Letters and Papers from Prison" by Dietrich Bonhoeffer, and (forthcoming) "What Your Strength Is For" by Graham Joseph Hill.
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