Transitions are one of the most challenging parts of a young child’s day.

In this episode, we explore why transitions are so hard for young children from a developmental and nervous system perspective. We talk about what’s happening beneath the behavior, why moving from one activity to another can feel overwhelming, and how adults can support transitions in ways that help regulation develop over time.

This conversation reframes transitions as moments of vulnerability rather than defiance and offers calm, practical guidance for supporting children through change with connection and predictability.

This episode is for parents of young children who want transitions to feel less stressful and more supportive — for both themselves and their child.

Why Connection Is the Foundation of Discipline

Discipline is often misunderstood as control, correction, or consequences.

In this episode, we explore why connection is the foundation of effective discipline and how relational safety supports learning and regulation over time. We talk about what discipline means developmentally, why children need connection before correction, and how relationship-based responses help children internalize guidance rather than comply out of fear.

This conversation reframes discipline as teaching rather than punishment and offers a calm, developmentally informed perspective for parents who want to guide behavior while preserving connection.

This episode is for parents of young children who want discipline to feel supportive, respectful, and rooted in relationship.

Many parents are told that children need to learn how to calm themselves — but for young children, regulation isn’t something they can do on demand.

In this episode, we explore why children need adults to stay calm with them before they can learn to regulate their own emotions. We talk about what’s happening in the nervous system during moments of distress, why “calm down” often doesn’t work the way we hope, and how adult regulation supports long-term emotional development.

This conversation introduces the concept of co-regulation and explains how repeated experiences of calm, supportive presence help children gradually build their own capacity for regulation.

This episode is for parents who want to understand big emotions through a developmental lens and support their children with steadiness rather than pressure.

When children are having a hard time, many adults feel pressure to fix the moment quickly or step away until things calm down.

In this episode, we slow that moment down and explore what children actually learn when adults stay emotionally present during difficult moments. We talk about how regulation develops through support, why presence matters more than saying the “right” thing, and what children internalize when they experience calm connection during big emotions.

This conversation offers reassurance for parents navigating hard moments — and a reminder that staying matters, even when it feels uncomfortable.

A written version of this episode is available at MsArbara.com.

Time-outs are often used with the intention of helping children calm down or learn self-control. Many parents rely on them because they want to set boundaries and support their child’s development.

In this episode, we slow the conversation down and explore why time-outs don’t actually teach emotional regulation for young children. We talk about what’s happening in the nervous system during moments of dysregulation, why regulation develops through connection, and what support can look like instead.

This episode offers a developmentally grounded perspective for parents who want to respond to big emotions with clarity, consistency, and care.

A written version of this episode is available on MsArbara.com.

Big emotions in young children are often labeled as bad behavior. Crying, yelling, or melting down can be seen as something that needs to be corrected or stopped as quickly as possible.

In this episode, we slow that assumption down. We explore why big emotions are not a sign of misbehavior, what’s happening developmentally when children feel overwhelmed, and why these moments are actually signals for support rather than discipline.

This conversation is for parents who want to respond to big emotions with understanding, clarity, and appropriate boundaries—without shame or fear that they’re “doing it wrong.”

A written version of this episode is available on the blog.

The idea of self-regulation is often discussed in parenting spaces, but for young children, that expectation can be misleading.

In this episode, Arbara explains why self-regulation doesn’t develop independently in early childhood, what co-regulation really means, and how children build regulation through supportive relationships over time. This episode offers reassurance for caregivers whose children still need help navigating big emotions and reminds us that support is not a setback — it’s part of development.

This episode is a grounding listen for parents who worry they’re “helping too much.”

Many parents feel pressure to follow schedules, even when they don’t seem to work for their child or family.

In this episode, Arbara explores the difference between schedules and routines, why routines tend to be more supportive for young children, and how predictable patterns help children feel safe without rigid timing. You’ll hear why flexibility isn’t a failure, how routines support emotional regulation, and what routines can look like in real life.

This episode is for caregivers who want structure without stress.