Carrying It All, Leading Automatically & Giving Yourself Permission to Be You

We’re opening the year by continuing an important conversation.

In Part 2 of The Gap We Live In''s episode 3, we continue exploring the deeper gaps experienced by those who are often expected to carry everything and lead automatically. When responsibility becomes assumed and leadership is expected without consent, identity can quietly form around pressure rather than purpose.

This episode invites listeners to pause, reflect, and reconsider what it truly means to lead and serve well. We discuss how unaddressed expectations create gaps in our relationships, within ourselves, and in how we show up in the world and why reconciliation, healthy conflict resolution, and self-awareness are essential for healing those gaps.

Most importantly, this conversation reminds us that we all have permission to be ourselves. You are not valuable only for what you carry or how well you hold things together. You are a gift to this world and the world needs who you are, not just what you do.

As the first episode release of the year, this episode sets the tone for choosing clarity, alignment, and authenticity moving forward.

• The pressure of being expected to lead and carry it all
• How responsibility can quietly shape identity
• Gaps created by unresolved conflict and unmet expectations
• Practical approaches to reconciliation and conflict resolution
• Giving yourself permission to be yourself
• Learning to see yourself as a gift, not just a role

📚 Books mentioned in this episode:
• "How We Love, Expanded Edition: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage" by Milan Yerkovich (Author), Kay Yerkovich (Author). Find it on the Affiliated link: https://amzn.to/4qJc2h2

• "Mirror Study Bible: The Romance of the Ages" by Dr. Francois Du Toit. Find it on the Affiliated link: https://amzn.to/3LpQNBK

If this episode resonates, share it with someone who carries a lot and consider what you may be ready to release as you step into this new year.

Many of us grow up stepping into roles defined by expectation and pressures leading us to become "the dependable one, the strong one, or the one who always holds it together". However, over time, those roles can quietly cost us our sense of self.

In this episode of The Gap We Live In, I sit down with a fellow podcast co-host Daniella Uwizeye to unpack how pressure, responsibility, and unspoken expectations shape identity. We talk about the gap created when we live for who others believe we should be instead of taking the space to discover who we truly are.

This episode explores why finding who you are is the breakthrough! Not only for personal freedom, but for loving and serving others well without burnout or resentment. When identity is clear, purpose follows.

In this episode, we cover:

• How expectations shape identity

• The hidden cost of responsibility

• Why self-discovery isn’t selfish

• Stepping out of roles that no longer serve you

• Loving and serving from a place of clarity

If this episode resonates, share it with someone who may be carrying more than they were meant to.

So many of us are chasing fulfillment in our careers, relationships, identity, or purpose everyday; yet feel stuck in the space between “where I am” and “where I thought I’d be.”
In this episode, I’m opening up about my own journey through some gaps I've encountered including in different seasons, during unexpected detours, and the quiet work God used to shape who I am today.

We’ll talk about:

• What real fulfillment looks like

• Why gaps aren’t setbacks, but invitations and opportunities

• How working through your gaps one gap at a time leads to living in purpose and fulfillment

• Why the in-between places often carry the deepest transformation

• How I discovered that my calling is to help others navigate their own gaps with clarity, courage, and hope

If you’re in a season that feels uncertain, slow, or confusing, this episode is a reminder that the gap you’re living in might be exactly where fulfillment is being formed.