You made the right call. So why are you still rehearsing it three days later?

If you’re replaying sound decisions, pressure-testing them after the meeting ends, or quietly reopening threads you already closed, this episode is for you.

This isn’t hesitation before the decision. It’s something deeper — and it’s costing you more energy than you realize.

• Why decisiveness isn’t your real issue

• The difference between deciding and releasing

• How outdated protection creates decision drag

• Why your operating system may still be running on “prove yourself” mode

When a decision doesn’t settle, it keeps running in the background.

You’re not panicking. You’re not spiraling. You’re carrying it.

That’s not lack of skill. It’s an operating system still scanning for threats in a season where you no longer need to prove yourself.

This week, notice:

• Where you replay decisions after they’re made

• Where you gather reassurance you don’t actually need

• Where you reopen something that was already settled

No fixing. Just noticing whether the decision truly landed.

Decision drag, leadership operating systems, outdated protection patterns, internal reputation management, and the difference between decisiveness and release are explored throughout this episode.

This conversation continues as we go deeper into decision drag — how to diagnose it, what your operating system may be protecting, and how leaders recalibrate without losing strength or authority.

The problem isn’t how you decide. It’s why something inside you won’t let the decision stay decided.

That tension isn’t weakness. It’s outdated protection.

When your operating system upgrades, decisions hold — and leadership feels lighter not because the stakes are lower, but because the internal debate is quieter.

If this is resonating, that’s the work we begin inside an Aligned Leadership Audit

tamimariecoaching.com/call .

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If decisions feel heavier than they should — not hard, just heavier — this episode is for you.

You’re not burned out. You’re not broken. And you’re not lacking skill. In this conversation, Tami names a pattern she sees in senior leaders: decision drag. The internal friction that shows up when you’ve outgrown the version of leadership that got you here.

• The difference between burnout and decision drag
• Why high performers often mislabel friction as exhaustion
• How outdated leadership identity creates internal debate
• What shifts when decisions are allowed to fully land

When decisions cost more energy than they used to, it’s not always workload.

Sometimes it’s misalignment inside your leadership operating system.

You’re still capable. You’re still performing. But the internal debate is louder than it should be.

• Where you revisit decisions that were already made
• Where you rehearse conversations after the fact
• Where you gather one more opinion even though you already know

No fixing. Just noticing.

Burnout versus decision drag, leadership identity evolution, internal misalignment, leadership operating systems, and the energetic cost of unsettled decisions are explored throughout this episode.

This month, we’re going deeper into decision drag — what causes it, how to diagnose it, and what actually recalibrates it at the system level.

The heaviness you’re feeling isn’t weakness. It’s evolution.

The version of you that got you here may not be the version required for what’s next. And that’s not a crisis — it’s a calling.

When leadership feels lighter, it’s not because the stakes are lower. It’s because the internal debate is quieter.

If you’re ready to look at this at the system level, that’s the work we do inside a Leadership Strategy Call.

Sign up for an Aligned Leader Audit- you’ll walk away with your next step whether we work together or not! tamimariecoaching.com/call

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• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
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• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026

If you keep re-explaining decisions you thought were already made, this episode is for you.

In this conversation, Tami names a leadership pattern she sees repeatedly on high-performing teams: decisions that never fully land. She reframes clarity at the leadership level and why consensus, when overused, quietly slows teams down.

• Why clarity is not the same as understanding or agreement
• How consensus can unintentionally create decision drag The role ownership plays in momentum and execution
• What changes when decisions are truly settled

When decisions keep resurfacing, it’s not resistance. It’s unclear ownership.

Teams don’t circle conversations. They circle decisions that were never fully owned.

This week, notice:

• Which decisions feel settled and which quietly return
• Where you feel the urge to re-explain something already decided
• Where your energy drops because a decision never truly landed

No fixing. Just noticing.

Clarity versus agreement, consensus versus ownership, decision drag, clarity leaks, and executive decision-making systems are explored throughout this episode.

Next episode, we’ll continue this conversation by exploring how leaders unintentionally create decision dependency and how to reset it at the system level.

Not every decision needs consensus. Some just need clarity on who owns it.

When leaders stop managing agreement and start establishing ownership, momentum returns and the weight they’ve been carrying begins to lift.

If this spoke to you, I’d love for you to: ✅ Share it with a friend who needs this message! ✅ Leave a quick rating & review to help more people find A Leader’s Purpose podcast. ✅ Subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Thank you for being here, Friend. You are capable, you are seen, and you are ready to step into your calling. Choose joy until joy chooses you! 💛

• Find me: @tamimariecoaching on Instagram and Facebook
• LinkedIn @tamiimlay
• Email me: tami@tamimariecoaching.com
• My website is www.tamimariecoaching.com
• Send me a DM! I would love to connect with you!
• For more information on the song:
• Guitalele's Happy Place by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2017 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. https://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/56194 Ft: Kara Square (mindmapthat)
• Copyright Daily Choosing Joy LLC 2026