🎙 Episode 25: Should You Take “No” for an Answer?
A real talk about persistence, boundaries, rejection, and knowing when to push — and when to let go.

🔸 Samar opens the episode by naming the tension behind this question: is “no” something you peacefully accept and move on from, or is it something you challenge and push through? She admits that not taking “no” for an answer often sounds like being rude, nagging, or overly pushy — especially outside the classic sales context.

🔸 Wafa then shares a raw, slightly embarrassing and very powerful story from six years ago, when she was finishing her master’s and desperately looking for her first HR job with no experience. After applying to a big financial firm, she received a rejection email within hours. Convinced they hadn’t even truly reviewed her application, she refused to accept that “no.”

🔸 Instead of giving up, she searched online for executive emails, wrote a bold message, attached screenshots, and CC’d multiple leaders to say, essentially: “This is not acceptable. At least give me a fair chance.” Within an hour, she started receiving calls and messages. The result? She got multiple interviews with that company — even though she ultimately didn’t get the job. The lesson: her refusal to accept a fast, automated “no” actually opened a door that would have stayed shut.

🔸 Looking back, Wafa recognizes that her approach wasn’t very professional at the time. But it came from a deep conviction that each opportunity mattered. She also acknowledges that depending on the hiring manager, her persistence could be seen as courage and seriousness — or as attitude. Even so, the story shows that sometimes “no” is not final; it’s just the beginning of the conversation.

🔸 Samar, on the other hand, is wired very differently. When she hears “no,” her instinct is almost the opposite: “Okay, no problem — there is abundance, I’ll find something else.” For her, taking “no” for an answer feels natural and even healthy. But as they unpack it, she also realizes it depends on the context:

• If a person clearly says “I’m not interested” (like in a relationship), that “no” must be respected, not negotiated.

• In other areas, especially work and ideas, taking “no” too quickly can look like giving up.

🔸 The conversation shifts to what “no” can really mean in practice:

• In business or career, a “no” can be feedback:

  • Your skills aren’t there yet.

  • Your product isn’t strong enough.

  • Your pitch isn’t clear.

• When you treat “no” as information rather than a verdict, you can improve your skills, refine your product, and increase your chances of getting a “yes” next time.

🔸 Samar connects this to not giving up: maybe you accept the “no” from this company or this person, but you don’t accept it as the end of the story. She brings in the well-known example of J.K. Rowling, who faced many rejections before Harry Potter was finally accepted by one publisher. She didn’t force one “no” to become a “yes” — she kept moving until she found the right “yes.”

🔸 Wafa adds that sometimes “no” exists because you haven’t made it easy enough for others to say “yes.” You might be:

• Half-prepared.

• Unclear in your communication.

• Leaving too many questions unanswered.
  Before walking away, it’s worth asking: Can I turn this “no” into a “yes” by being more prepared, clearer, or more thoughtful? And if not, what can I learn for next time?

🔸 By the end of the episode, they circle back to the core principle of the whole series: two opposing viewpoints don’t have to compete — they can work in sequence. Sometimes you push. Sometimes you accept. Sometimes you turn “no” into feedback. Sometimes you honor it as a boundary. The key is to use your personal context to decide which response fits this moment.

📖 Read the full article:
25. Should You Take “No” for an Answer or Not? — Personal Context Is Key
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/25-should-you-take-answer-personal-context-key-wafa-zdtjc/?trackingId=v7yymD%2BYTjihS8zOCrYqHQ%3D%3D

🎙 Episode 24: Should You Seek Credentials or Not?

A conversation about ambition, opportunity, and deciding why — and when — credentials truly matter.

🔸 This week, Samar brings one of her favorite topics: Should you seek credentials or not? She wrote the article back in January, before even applying to her master’s program, at a time when she was questioning her motivations. Was she pursuing a degree for growth? For confidence? Or simply to boost her résumé?

🔸 Wafa opens up about her own reaction at the time — she actually believed Samar shouldn’t pursue a master’s before gaining full-time experience. And yet, watching Samar make the decision with clarity and intention became a proud moment for her. It showed how personal and contextual the choice really is.

🔸 Together, they explore the tension many people face:
• Some seek degrees because the job market leaves them no other openings.
• Others pursue credentials for prestige, identity, or validation.
• And some avoid higher education altogether, insisting experience matters more.

🔸 Samar shares how credentials were always admired in her culture — yet she also met people with PhDs who lacked basic communication or practical skills. That contrast made her determined not to pursue education for ego or titles alone. She wanted meaning and opportunity, not empty status.

🔸 Wafa reflects on her own complicated relationship with credentials. Because of how people around her spoke about higher education, she grew up viewing degrees through a negative lens — even while pursuing her own PhD. She emphasizes how important it is to stay intentional and not fall into the trap of collecting degrees without purpose or real-world alignment.

🔸 The conversation expands into two extremes in today’s world:
• One culture glorifies credentials, academia, and achievements.
• The other rejects formal education entirely, arguing that the system is broken and experience is the only teacher.
Both perspectives have truth — and both can be harmful without balance.

🔸 Samar brings it back to personal context:
Not everyone lives in an environment where entrepreneurship is even possible. For someone in a limited job market, credentials can open doors that would otherwise stay shut. For others with access to opportunity and experience, the better path may be work, not another degree.

🔸 Wafa closes by emphasizing that both worlds — education and experience — are essential. Theory sharpens your thinking. Experience sharpens your judgment. True competence comes from combining both.

💡 Key Takeaways:
• Seeking credentials is not inherently good or bad — it depends on your goals, environment, and long-term direction.
• Degrees pursued for ego, status, or habit often feel empty; degrees pursued for growth, confidence, and opportunity feel meaningful.
• Experience alone is not enough, and credentials alone are not enough — the strongest foundation is built from both.
• The right choice comes back to personal context: your market, your limitations, your opportunities, and your vision for your life.
• You don't have to choose one side. You can honor your ambition and your reality by choosing intentionally.

📖 Read the full article:
24. Should You Seek Credentials or Not? — Personal Context Is Key
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/24-should-you-seek-credentials-notpersonal-context-wafa-wjzhc/?trackingId=Qag65%2BOdRjWjG1WGEcOYJA%3D%3D

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🎙 Episode 23: Should You Think Inside or Outside the Box?

Exploring how creativity and structure work hand in hand.

🔸 In this episode, Wafa and Samar dive into a topic that challenged even them at first — the idea of thinking inside versus outside the box. We’ve all heard the phrase “think outside the box,” often used to encourage creativity, innovation, and new perspectives. But what if there’s also value in thinking inside the box?

🔸 Samar recalls how confused she felt when Wafa first shared the article topic. The idea seemed strange — what does it even mean to think inside the box? Over time, she began to see that it’s not about limiting yourself, but about optimizing what you already have. It’s the mindset of using available resources and improving existing systems before searching for new ones.

🔸 Wafa expands on this by emphasizing that we don’t live in an age that lacks ideas — we live in one that lacks execution. For her, thinking inside the box means focusing on doing the foundational things right. It’s about structure, clarity, and consistency — the kind of thinking that turns creativity into real results.

🔸 Samar brings in her HR studies to show how creativity and innovation are deeply connected to employee well-being. She argues that we need both: a solid structure (thinking inside the box) and the freedom to explore new approaches (thinking outside the box).

🔸 Together, they find that the real secret lies in balance. Wafa explains that thinking inside the box ensures standards are met, while thinking outside the box helps refine and simplify those standards. Samar relates it to her struggle with perfectionism and procrastination — how starting small with what she already knows helps her act, while seeking new ideas gives her inspiration to improve.

🔸 Wafa closes the episode with a story from work where she combined both mindsets — following established procedures but also thinking creatively to make the process more efficient. The conversation ends with a shared realization that the two approaches don’t compete — they complement each other.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Thinking inside the box is about structure, discipline, and execution.

• Thinking outside the box is about creativity, exploration, and innovation.

• Both can — and should — coexist.

• The goal is not to choose one, but to know when and how to use each.

📖 Read the full article: 23. Should You Think Inside or Outside the Box—Personal Context is Key: Overcoming Indecisiveness | LinkedIn

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🎙 Episode 22: Should You Label Yourself and Others or Not?
Exploring how labels shape identity, growth, and perception.

🔸 In this episode, we unpack the complex power of labels—the words we and others use to define who we are. Are they helpful tools for self-understanding or traps that limit our growth?

🔸 Samar opens up about the labels she was given growing up—like being called “the sensitive one”—and how rejecting that label made her feel stronger at first, but disconnected from her true self over time. She shares the moment she reclaimed her sensitivity as a strength and how that shift helped her understand and accept herself more deeply.

🔸 Wafa reflects on how labels can both clarify and constrain. She explains that naming something can make life easier by helping us understand patterns and behaviors—but warns that labeling can also become a trap if we begin to use it as an excuse or if others define us by it.

🔸 Together, they explore how labels affect confidence, relationships, and identity—how we sometimes internalize them, resist them, or redefine them altogether.

🔸 We also explored:
• How childhood labels shape adult self-perception
• The emotional impact of being called “too sensitive,” “lazy,” or “perfect”
• The difference between using a label as a guide versus hiding behind it
• Why self-awareness is key to deciding when a label serves you—or limits you
• How language, culture, and family influence the labels we carry

💡 Key Takeaways:
• Labels can make life clearer, but they can also confine us.
• The goal is to use a label, not become it.
• Reclaiming a negative label can turn shame into self-acceptance.
• We are more complex than any single word—our growth begins when we stop reducing ourselves to one.

📖 Read the full article: ⁠22. Should You Label Yourself and Others or Not? — Personal Context is Key | LinkedIn

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🎙 Episode 21: Can You Make the Horse Drink Water or Not?
Exploring persistence, control, and influence.

🔸 In this episode, we dive into the meaning of the famous idiom: “You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.” We ask—can you really influence someone’s choice, or are there limits no matter how much effort you put in?

🔸 Samar reflects on her struggle with this idea at first—finding it strange and unfamiliar—then realizing how often it plays out in daily life. She shares how persistence and control show up in her world and why she leans toward acceptance: do your best, but don’t tie yourself to outcomes you can’t control.

🔸 Wafa shares her excitement for the topic, bringing stories from her own journey as a student. She talks about doing everything “right”—being a high-achieving, proactive student—yet still facing rejection. At the same time, the very same efforts opened doors with others. She explores what this taught her about persistence, resilience, and the limits of influence.

🔸 Together, we explore how this idiom connects to real life: business deals, personal growth, cultural perspectives, and even relationships. When do persistence and preparation tip the balance, and when is it wiser to accept that outcomes are beyond our control?

🔸 We also explored:
• How culture shapes the way we view persistence and influence
• The fine line between persistence and control
• Why expectations often lead to disappointment when results don’t match our effort
• The role of psychology and “locus of control” in shaping our beliefs about effort vs. outcome
• How creating “win-win” situations can shift influence without forcing decisions

💡 Key Takeaways:
• You can create the right conditions, but you can’t always control the outcome.
• Persistence and preparation often help—but they don’t guarantee success.
• Expectations can set us up for disappointment; acceptance can bring peace.
• The healthiest approach is balancing effort, influence, and letting go.

📖 Read the full article: ⁠21. Can You Make the Horse Drink Water or Not? — Personal Context is Key | LinkedIn

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🎙 Episode 20: Should You Make Rest Conditional?

Untangling guilt, productivity, and the right to recharge.

🔸 Samar opens with a relatable scene: sitting on your phone or relaxing—until someone walks in and you suddenly feel guilty for not being “productive.” This sparks the central question: Do we only deserve rest if we’ve earned it?

🔸 She reflects on her own phases—first tying rest strictly to productivity, then realizing that true rest comes naturally when her body signals it. Her experiments with walks, cozy nightly rituals, and scheduled downtime highlight how rest can shift from guilt-driven to intentional.

🔸 Wafa shares her structured approach: rest isn’t about what was or wasn’t accomplished—it’s part of the schedule, protected like any other priority. She emphasizes planning buffer time for tasks and how this reduces stress, prevents burnout, and makes rest restorative rather than indulgent.

🔸 Together, they weigh cultural and personal pressures: how upbringing, fast- vs. slow-paced environments, and social media shape our perception of “deserving” downtime.

🔸 We also explored:

* The cultural joke of Arab moms saying, “You’re wasting your time,” and how that conditions rest with guilt

* Differences in fast-paced vs. slow-paced environments (Beirut vs. North Lebanon) and how that impacts rest

* The trap of linking procrastination with “not deserving” rest

* Why scrolling social media often feels like rest but drains energy instead of recharging it

* The importance of defining rest for yourself—whether it’s silence, a walk, funny videos, or a cozy evening ritual

💡 Key Takeaways:

* Rest is a human need—like food or sleep—not something to be earned only after productivity.

* Conditional rest leads to guilt and burnout; unconditional rest restores energy and clarity.

* Balance is found when you know yourself: too little rest drains you, too much rest stagnates you.

* Protecting rest with structure and routines allows both productivity and relaxation to coexist.

📖 Read the full article: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20-should-you-make-rest-conditional-personal-context-wafa-ncjec/

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🎙 Episode 19: Should You Have High Expectations of Others?
Balancing hope with reality in our relationships.

🔸 This week, Samar makes her first written contribution to the Personal Context is Key series, sparking a conversation on a deeply relatable question: Should we set high expectations of others—or keep them low to avoid disappointment?
🔸 Samar shares her default stance of keeping expectations low as a shield against repeated disappointment, a mindset shaped by personal experiences and advice passed down from family and friends.
🔸 Wafa offers the opposite view: setting higher expectations can affirm the value of relationships, strengthen bonds, and encourage mutual responsibility.
🔸 Together, they explore the gray space in between: when lowering expectations preserves relationships (especially with those lacking capacity), and when keeping them too low leads to disengagement or conditional love.

🔸 They also dive into:
• How expectations shape the way we treat others—and how they treat us in return
• The defensive vs. ego-driven sides of low expectations
• Close vs. distant relationships: when lowering expectations saves them, and when it harms them
• Misalignment of expectations as the root of many conflicts in friendships, family, and marriages
• Why communication is critical: speaking needs aloud instead of assuming others should know
• The difference between standards and expectations, and how clarifying your standards first can reset relationships

💡 Key Takeaways:
• Both high and low expectations can be useful, depending on context and closeness.
• Consistently high expectations risk draining relationships; consistently low expectations risk disengagement.
• Honest communication and clarified standards are the foundation for setting fair expectations.
• Protecting relationships often means adjusting expectations—or dropping them altogether.

📖 Read the full article: 19. Should You Have High Expectations of Others? — Personal Context is Key | LinkedIn

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🎙 Episode 18: Should You Set Unattainable Goals?
Stretching your limits without breaking your spirit.

🔸 We tackle a tricky question: Do “unattainable” goals help you grow—or set you up to fail?🔸 Samar starts firmly against the idea—why aim for what you can’t reach?—then recognizes the upside: stretch goals can pull you past your usual limits (Parkinson’s Law vibes: work expands to the time you give it).🔸 Wafa shares a personal example: setting a bold PhD target (multiple top-tier publications) that’s still in progress. The lesson? Big stretch + long runway + clear process can be energizing—if the purpose is learning and impact, not just a checkbox.🔸 Together, we unpack the risk side: demotivation, public pressure when goals are shared, and the “delusional” trap if you ignore capacity, timeline, and method.🔸 The balance emerges: pair audacious stretch goals with SMART milestones, sustainable pacing, and honest check-ins about why you want the result.

🔸 We also explored:• When stretch goals help (long-horizon growth) vs. hurt (areas where you need quick wins to stay motivated)• Sustainability and time-bound planning: ambitious and healthy• Desire vs. “fake desire”: wanting a result vs. being willing to adopt the process it requires• Why motivation fades (your brain conserves energy) and how systems, partners, and routines beat willpower• Alternating seasons: use attainable goals for momentum, unattainable goals for expansion—one season at a time

💡 Key Takeaways:• Stretch goals can pull you beyond comfort—but only if paired with realistic timelines and sustainable methods.• Don’t anchor your worth to the finish line; measure progress by process and learning.• If excitement fades, rely on structure (plans, accountability, routines) rather than mood.• Use both: attainable goals for momentum, unattainable goals for expansion—one season at a time.

📖 Read the full article: 18. Should You Set Unattainable Goals? — Personal Context is Key | LinkedIn

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